Being physically attractive in a relationship is important, amirite?

Maintaining mutual attraction is pretty important, physical or otherwise.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

My problem with OP's opinion is that they just think gaining weight is what makes someone unattractive. There's many things that can cause peoples physical appearance to chance how attractive we find someone. I agreed with the title but the rest of it is just saying that gaining weight = unattractive. Where for me, personally. When my partner gained weight, he got a lot more attractive. Some people look a lot better when they're "thicker". Things that can change a persons appearance: * Hair loss * Change in fashion * Hygiene levels in appearance * General lack of care in appearance.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Everyone has the tendency to gain weight as they are, but ultimately I agree that people should strive to maintain a healthy body weight and not let themselves go.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

This is unpopular? LOL

by Anonymous 2 years ago

On social media absolutely

by Anonymous 2 years ago

This can get you cancelled on twitter

by Anonymous 2 years ago

What can't at this point? lol

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yup. People yell at their doctor for saying they're morbidly obese and they need to eat better or they'll die in a couple years. Imagine expressing an opinion like this, you'd get a rampage of blue-haired elephants claiming that this is body or fat shaming, not simple common sense.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It's one of the most important things in relationships and people are too insecure to say so.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

" women marry men thinking they will change them , men marry women thinking they will never change " great quote and very close to the truth I think. Certainly true about men.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Today I learned my husband and I are actually my wife and I.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

True for me and all my previous relationships, I'm sad to say

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If somebody finds you attractive because of a certain trait you have, you cannot expect that attraction to stay once that certain trait is gone. If you alter the conditions that caused physical attraction in the first place, it makes sense that physical attraction would disappear and that consequently, a romantic relationship would start to fall apart. Physical attraction is the very thing that distinguishes a romantic relationship from a platonic one.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I disagree, partly. A good friend of mine liked to say "No one masturbates thinking how nice the other person is" So yes, a romantic relationship begins to build over a mutual physical attraction. But that can't be the only thing it's built on, or we will all end lonely as time passes. People age, people change. The nice blonde hair you once liked eventually turns white. The beautiful soft skin you loved fills with wrinkles. The muscular body that once caught your partner's attention eventually starts to fail. But you don't fall in love with their bodies or their faces. You fall in love with their personalities, with how you connect together, with how you feel when you're together.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Talking about physical attractiveness triggers many overweight and obese people. Regardless your opinion is valid and I agree with it's importance .

by Anonymous 2 years ago

120 pounds? How much do you think the average person weighs? I'm a small person, but even at 135 I had people asking me if I was okay.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It's not at all a one size fits all. I'm 150 but strong. There are people in the 130ish range who might look fatter because they have significantly less muscle than me. Haven't been 120 since I was 15 and then I was *skinny*.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

We really shouldn't use the average since the average = FAT

by Anonymous 2 years ago

My wife has had three kids and weighs 128lbs. 120lbs is probably a healthy weight for a lot of women.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If they are short and have very small builds then probably.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

if you're shorter than 5'11 i dont think 135lbs is that bad tbh

by Anonymous 2 years ago

That was an example. Not meant to be taking literally. Also depending on where you are that could be average

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Maybe if you're 5 feet tall

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I am arround that height and weight exactly that so...

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Is weight the only thing men care about when it comes to appearance (genuinely asking)?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Not always. Every man is different, so there's some out there who put more care into weight than others. But there's men who love their wives who've gained 100lbs. There's men who threaten to break up with their wives who gained 5lbs. Then there's some in between. For me, my partners type is thick, curvy women. Not necessarily overweight, but has some thickness and curves. I'm very underweight and have no curves. At my worst, I was 25lbs underweight. With a lot of work, I'm now only 10lbs underweight. He's loved me all throughout, even at my lowest weight when I looked like a skeleton. I can tell now he's more into my body, and so am I. With the extra weight, I have bigger boobs, jigglier thighs, a better butt. I look good. I didn't always look this good. And I'm not his traditional type. But he still loves me because I am more than the way I look.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Leaving your partner for gaining 5 pounds???? You gain 5 pounds when you're on your period and eat a burger lmao.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If we're talking strictly physical, the most important thing for me is teeth being straight and not jutting too far from the gums.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Not just men.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

The overall body type. Weight relative to height. Then a pretty face. A fit body is the best body

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I don't think so. It is mainly about what kind of group you hangout with. If, it is those tiktok influencer types, they are often very plastic and will likely drop you for appearance reasons. After all, they need to maintain that look for their followers. But, for average people. I don't think so. Man will absolutely fantazing having sex with another girl with better weight, and muscle tone, but, that is a fantasy. No guarantee the man will act on it. And most man would definitely want their wife to look hot, and too afraid to ask. Very few would breakup because of it. Just my unproven opinions.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

How is this an unpopular opinion? This is just how it works.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Is this unpopular?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yes but don't forget pregnancizs work differently for every women, some may gain weight really easily it's not their fault when they used to be thin all their lives

by Anonymous 2 years ago

That's also true, they can lose they weight tho but you know it depends

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Tbh this isnt really an unpopular opinion

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I get what OP is trying to get it. Yea it's important but if you talk too openly about it, you get called shallow or talked down to like "looks aren't important."

by Anonymous 2 years ago

My favorite is being an ugly person and people saying, "oh, someone will come along... " like I'm sure the optimism helps you sleep at night and I don't mean to alarm you but some people absolutely do live and die alone. People don't just fall out of the sky and love you for no reason

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Because you are, and they aren't

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Spoken like someone under 35 who might be getting divorced in the future.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Spoken like a man of any age. We have this weird thing in America (can't speak for other countries) where women from birth to death are judged by their bodies and sometimes faces. The system is supposed to work in that men make more money. An ugly, fat, bald guy can be with a in shade pretty woman who is also younger. It can't work the other way. Sure IF a pretty in shape young woman has money, it's a plus. A rich fat ugly bald woman should be laughed at for thinking any man would want her. TL;DR: Men's looks don't get judge in American's social currency. Also, you're a bitch when you bring up money (despite them agreeing to this social system and making a glass ceiling).

by Anonymous 2 years ago

This is the problem with the age thing being thrown around. I'm 35+ and have the abs and body of someone easily a decade younger. It's all about how much you value how you look and the sacrifices you're willing to make to maintain that. I'm lucky in the sense of I actually love to be athletic, to workout, play sports, etc……but ANYONE can be consistent and for the most part keep up their appearance with just halfway decent eating habits and some good exercise. The problem is a lot of people choose to let themselves go

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Well if u live long enough, none of us are going to be good looking forever

by Anonymous 2 years ago

not an unpopular opinion

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I know they mention weight. But I'm sure that's not the gist of it and only an example. We are humans, animals. We are attracted to each other through physical appearance and then through emotional connection. This of course may change if you are solely seeking online. But at the same time, you are peacocking to everyone online that you are attractive.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Duh

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Truly a popular opinion, but in our world of copium nobody will admit this lol.

by Anonymous 2 years ago