The vast majority of people do this. It's not by any means unpopular.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

My name (M) traslates to "turkey hen" in my language. Sure as hell I'm not keeping it. I will take my fiance's name no questions asked

by Anonymous 1 year ago

But, if you take his name... how people will going to call him?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think this Is actually a very popular opinion.my friend Is married and kept her last name, she is always getting questioned about it and people in general seem to think it was a bad idea. I love that she keep her last name its unusual and she came from a strict culture, she hated the idea that having the same name comes from becoming the man's possession. Plus she dosent want kids so it really dosent matter.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

My last name is very rare. Less than 10 people in my country have this name and most of which are my family lol. It's also an ethnic name, and in my religion ancestor veneration is very important. If you think I should ever give up my name for the sake of minor inconvenience for Smith or Adams you're delusional. I do highly desire the concept of being one family name. I understand why that's a popular tradition, but the importance of one's name isn't as easy for everyone to give up. Even if your family name is Smith, if you are attached to your name then keep it. It's *your* name. *Your* identity, no one should be shamed, guilted or socially pressured to strip themselves of their identity.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Exactly the same boat. There are MAYBE 100 people in the world with my surname. Between that and all the paperwork I refused to give it up when I got married.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

People can have lives and professions established well before a marriage, in which the name is a brand and synonymous with the person. Or your spouse could have a terrible or hard to say last name that doesn't compliment your first name. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

So what should this couple do? - husband: Ashton Haley - wife: Haley Ashton I think this couple will most likely keep their surnames.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Half of the world's culture keep their names when they get married. Why would I or my partner have to change our name just because we are married? It's not the world's tradition to take on their partners name. In a lot of other cultures, if you have the same last name, it will look like you are in some incestuous relationship. I find taking your partner's name weird as hell. Like did you get sold as a slave? I find it to be really old fashioned and reminds me of when women were sold off like horses.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This same last name tradition was not to communicate you are a family, but to demonstrate how the woman now "belonged" to her husband

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Worry about your own name lol

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah I would agree. Especially if you are going to have kids. To many kids have word soup names these days because of the hyphens. Keep it simple, don't confuse the kid.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

There are cultures where this isn't a thing, and it might not be possible to do this. Yet people there have happy marriages, at least some of the time

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I know a few of these and I agree. Just another feather for the age of not actually committing to anything anymore.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

My wife is Muslim. Muslim women never take their husbands last name. The entire Middle East is very misogynistic but if you asked even the most fanatical Muslim man if his wife should take his name he would look at you like a crazy person. Taking the husbands name is just something you are acculturated to. It is zero reflection on commitment to the marriage and is inconvenient to do.

by Anonymous 1 year ago