No. I think if you need to cheat you shouldn't be in a " manogamous " relationship bc you're lying.
To be clear I have no issue with ppl having multiple partners, just don't lie to them.
If people were honest with themselves and others we'd see a lot less of this.
If you're so nonchalant about it why not tell your wife? After all the mistress knows you said. Are you scared to tell your wife cause you know she'll leave? She deserves to know. Besides what if she ends up actually being OK with it? Then you just made it toxic for no reason
or a third option, dont lie to your family. you will be found eventually and it will affect your children if any were unfortunate enough to share the same last name as you
How you can tell op is a sociopath, they have no empathy for anyone involved and their only reasons why cheating is bad is the consequences of getting caught.
Pro tip op if you don't want to out yourself as a sociopath don't ignore that most people view long term dishonesty and betrayal as morally bad.
Just say you don't want to take responsibility for your actions. I don't get why people cheat. If you know you need more than one partner, get into an open relationship and date someone who feels the same way instead of breaking someones trust
You are supposed to be faithful you lowdown coward. If I murder someone and no one finds out, is it alright? Just because someone doesn't know, doesn't mean that it's alright.
You are supposed to be faithful you lowdown coward. If I murder someone and no one finds out, is it alright? Just because someone doesn't know, doesn't mean that it's alright.
But if he gets caught divorce will take the man for everything, so screw people guilting men or even women to come clean to their partners. Divorce can be really messy in case especially for the bread winner.
Easier said than done. I'm in a bunch of men's group for middle aged men. A lot are miserable and a good amount have had their wife cheat on them then divorce them taking everything from the man. Not making an excuse for cheating just telling you how the real world works kid
Tell your wife man, this is messed up. Even if she doesn't know about it, you're still deceiving her. Look up the meaning of a marriage and go reflect over what you're doing. If you wanted a marriage with "fun on the side" you should have gotten yourself a wife that is okay with it, not do it in secret and expect people to side with you. I feel bad for your wife.
To me the worst part of cheating is that cheater exposes another human to the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. For that reason I think cheating is not only disgusting but ahould also be illegal.
Or break it off and come clean, but that would be way too hard for you to accept responsibility now isn't it? So basically, you want to act like a child
You are supposed to be faithful you lowdown coward. If I murder someone and no one finds out, is it alright? Just because someone doesn't know, doesn't mean that it's alright.
When I've met folks who cheat, it's often because they feel something is lacking in the relationship or marriage. So what's lacking, that makes you drift away from your wife?
Or is the cheating in of itself the enjoyable aspect of it? Cause I've seen that as the reasoning as well
We only meet up about twice a week for drinks and sex. We click sexually and on a personal level, but I don't think it'd work out if we lived together.
Yet the possibility still exists that you could be caught despite all your precautions. And if you were, multiple people would suffer emotionally (your wife and kids). What kind of person considers this an acceptable risk? I don't think many people would say "A decent one."
Sounds like you don't care about your marriage if you can't respect your wife enough to commit. Some people are in open relationships, and cool with having other partners. You're obviously not in that. Tell your wife and see what she thinks.
I genuinely wonder why people who think stuff like this don't just have an honest conversation with their partner about how they're feeling in regards to the relationship.
Because, let's be real. If your partner was comfortable with the concept of an open relationship and was fine with you sleeping with other people I guarantee the concept of cheating is no longer "fun."
It's like you guys take some sick pleasure from lying to your partner and sneaking around behind their back.
Well technically everything is fine if you don't get cought, at least for you. Ceating, stealing, fraud, murder, you name it. As long as no one finds out you won't be held acountable or have to deal with the consequences. Doesn't make it any less unacceptable, morally speaking.
No. I think if you need to cheat you shouldn't be in a " manogamous " relationship bc you're lying.
To be clear I have no issue with ppl having multiple partners, just don't lie to them.
If people were honest with themselves and others we'd see a lot less of this.
Some people that do bad things know it's wrong.
Others (you) convince themselves that the bad thing they do isn't bad so they can feel better about it. You're a bad person.
If you're so nonchalant about it why not tell your wife? After all the mistress knows you said. Are you scared to tell your wife cause you know she'll leave? She deserves to know. Besides what if she ends up actually being OK with it? Then you just made it toxic for no reason
That's a lot of words to say you're selfish and don't care about your wife.
"People incapable of feeling guilt usually do have a good time." - Rust Cohle, True Detective
or a third option, dont lie to your family. you will be found eventually and it will affect your children if any were unfortunate enough to share the same last name as you
How you can tell op is a sociopath, they have no empathy for anyone involved and their only reasons why cheating is bad is the consequences of getting caught.
Pro tip op if you don't want to out yourself as a sociopath don't ignore that most people view long term dishonesty and betrayal as morally bad.
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Murdering other people is fine as long as you don't get caught.
Getting caught is worse if there's proof, in TX the cheater gets less leverage during divorce.
Good luck with that
you obviously only care about yourself, just get the divorce
Cheating is cockroach behavior. There is never a justifiable reason for it.
It's not "fine if you don't get caught". You just don't feel guilty until you get caught.
Just say you don't want to take responsibility for your actions. I don't get why people cheat. If you know you need more than one partner, get into an open relationship and date someone who feels the same way instead of breaking someones trust
Woke up and chose to speak facts.
Lots of crimes are also fine as long as you don't get caught, murder for example.
Stfu. I usually laugh at dumb opinions, but this isn't funny ya roach
So if your wife were to murder you in your sleep it would be okay as long as she didn't get caught?
Nice try, but one is a crime the other isn't no matter how much you try to argue morality. And I disagree with OP by the way.
What makes something a crime?
Why is murder a crime?
What if we collectively agreed that cheating deserved prosecution?
I don't agree with op, but this isn't exactly the same thing
I think you can see what they were getting at though
You… I like you… your logic is good logic…
You are supposed to be faithful you lowdown coward. If I murder someone and no one finds out, is it alright? Just because someone doesn't know, doesn't mean that it's alright.
You are supposed to be faithful you lowdown coward. If I murder someone and no one finds out, is it alright? Just because someone doesn't know, doesn't mean that it's alright.
But if he gets caught divorce will take the man for everything, so screw people guilting men or even women to come clean to their partners. Divorce can be really messy in case especially for the bread winner.
Don't cheat on your spouse and it isn't a problem
Easier said than done. I'm in a bunch of men's group for middle aged men. A lot are miserable and a good amount have had their wife cheat on them then divorce them taking everything from the man. Not making an excuse for cheating just telling you how the real world works kid
Other people doing terrible and shameful things is no excuse to do them yourself.
No, it is not hard to not be untrustworthy scum.
In this situation, the man (op) absolutely deserves to get screwed over.
Bad people still are able to live happy successful lives full of abundance. Life's not fair like that
Finally a reasonable take. Thank you
That's true, if you aren't hurting your partner there should be no reason to not appease your male needs
Tell your wife man, this is messed up. Even if she doesn't know about it, you're still deceiving her. Look up the meaning of a marriage and go reflect over what you're doing. If you wanted a marriage with "fun on the side" you should have gotten yourself a wife that is okay with it, not do it in secret and expect people to side with you. I feel bad for your wife.
To me the worst part of cheating is that cheater exposes another human to the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. For that reason I think cheating is not only disgusting but ahould also be illegal.
Popular opinion for cowardly assholes who can't just break off their current relationship 👍
For OP it's Better to be called a coward by internet strangers than lose his house, kids, and 50% of his income the next 18years lol
Or break it off and come clean, but that would be way too hard for you to accept responsibility now isn't it? So basically, you want to act like a child
You are supposed to be faithful you lowdown coward. If I murder someone and no one finds out, is it alright? Just because someone doesn't know, doesn't mean that it's alright.
When I've met folks who cheat, it's often because they feel something is lacking in the relationship or marriage. So what's lacking, that makes you drift away from your wife?
Or is the cheating in of itself the enjoyable aspect of it? Cause I've seen that as the reasoning as well
So is murder, theft, fraud, assault and anything else by that reasoning
5 years. Doesn't that kind of mean you want to be with that other woman more?
We only meet up about twice a week for drinks and sex. We click sexually and on a personal level, but I don't think it'd work out if we lived together.
Also I have kids.
So you want to hurt your wife and your kids. Wow, upstanding citizen.
No, that's why I take extraordinary measure not to get caught..
And you're also not very bright clearly.
Yet the possibility still exists that you could be caught despite all your precautions. And if you were, multiple people would suffer emotionally (your wife and kids). What kind of person considers this an acceptable risk? I don't think many people would say "A decent one."
until your partner gets stds.
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Sounds like you don't care about your marriage if you can't respect your wife enough to commit. Some people are in open relationships, and cool with having other partners. You're obviously not in that. Tell your wife and see what she thinks.
I genuinely wonder why people who think stuff like this don't just have an honest conversation with their partner about how they're feeling in regards to the relationship.
Because, let's be real. If your partner was comfortable with the concept of an open relationship and was fine with you sleeping with other people I guarantee the concept of cheating is no longer "fun."
It's like you guys take some sick pleasure from lying to your partner and sneaking around behind their back.
Well technically everything is fine if you don't get cought, at least for you. Ceating, stealing, fraud, murder, you name it. As long as no one finds out you won't be held acountable or have to deal with the consequences. Doesn't make it any less unacceptable, morally speaking.
If a person has urges to cheat on their partner, just end the relationship.
John McCririck, is that you?
Said the person willing to give their significant other a host of std's.. Sounds like you truly care bout people
i hope ur wife cheats on you and then leaves you for the guy she cheated with
OP forgets that STDs are a thing.