Shorter men are attractive, amirite?

The part that doesn't make sense is people talking about it like men can somehow control their height lol It makes no logical sense to me to have a bright-line cutoff for height and other physical attributes, like 5'10" or 6' or whatever. Most people can't even tell unless they're told what the height is. When I hear things like "he needs to be 5'10" or taller" that tells me the person who is speaking is unreasonable and I want nothing to do with them. Like he could have a great personality, good looks, stable career, sense of humor, various useful skills, fair temper, have all the traits of a great dad, be a good lover, and still not be good enough because he's 5'8"? Really? Like wtf? If you do this, you have no ground to stand on when people judge you based on your weight and physical traits, too. I can't imagine doing the same thing to a woman based on weight or cup size or whatever. I can't tell if she's 110 or 120 pounds just by looking at her unless she's pretty short. I can't tell her exact band size and cup size just by looking at her. So why does it matter? If I find her generally attractive and she has a nice personality, it's worth a shot. Before anyone says anything, I'm 5'10" and never ran into issues due to height in my home country. It only got on my radar in the US when weird people claim the dude needs to be a certain height or else it's a dealbreaker, and actually reject people for being an inch too short. It's fcked up. Thankfully it has not happened to me, but there are too many horror stories and dumb dating profiles for this to be a myth. I'm obviously not talking about a giant difference like a 5'1" guy versus a 6' guy, it really does suck for exceptionally short dudes because they can't control that and it's harder for them to feel like they fit their natural physical guardian/protector role when they're smaller than their partner.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I still can't believe some men let their hair fallout. No discipline.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

After my divorce I tried out the dating apps. I had someone say they wanted their partner to be at least 5'6", but that they wouldn't accept anyone saying they were 5'6"…because they're automatically lying about actually being shorter. I'm 5'6".

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I honestly don't care if someone cares about height. How is it any more shallow to say "I want my boyfriend to be tall" as it is to say "I want my bf/gf to be good looking." Attraction isn't really logical, and it's not unreasonable. I don't want to date a girl taller than me, so if they want their man to be 6'6 (I'm exaggerating) I can't talk.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

As a man who is 5'6, you are a very rare breed and this is certainly an unpopular opinion.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Not as unpopular as the media might make you think. Large majority of short dudes I know have no problem with females.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Nothing to do with media.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I went out for the second time this year with some friends and some girl came up to me and said "you would be hot if you were tall". I laughed it off and just said "I work with what I've got!". FYI I'm only 5"11 damn

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Ugh that is classless of her

by Anonymous 1 year ago

The double standard. Says something like "you would be hot if u had bigger boobs" and suddenly your are an ass. U get what you are given lol. If only crippling shyness in person was a sexy trait. Why is it always confidence =(

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Don't you mean mysteriousness?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm male 5'6 and I also prefer a women that is the same height as me. It makes things like hugs and snuggles so much better when everything aligns.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I have single girl friends + family members + coworkers all around me who pass men who are 5'6"-5'8" from just hearing about heights yet they are FAANG software engineers who are smart, funny, well mannered, clean etc. I know they all pull 200k-400k. These guys do great in dating in person, but inevitably have a horrible time on dating apps. Instead they pick a slew of tall guys who are assholes, have mediocre jobs they complain about, and one even has a kid.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Heh. How tall is your boyfriend, OP?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

> no man needs to feel insecure of having a shorter stature. Preach! We complain when they define us by their standards, and then we turn around and do the same thing to them. And it's wrong.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Attraction is an interesting thing. It's different for everyone and I think that's cool.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah everyone's different and that's ok

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Response: Thank you for sharing your experience. It's good to know that short guys can finally feel tall with their egos.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

KEVIN: Of course shorter men are attractive! They make great arm rests and can always find their way around tall obstacles. Plus, who needs a step ladder when you have a short man?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This is just a prejudice I have. I love having a massive man hight and weight 😍 the real lumberjack looking- could throw me in a circle man. I'm bigger- so I like we my man can make me feel small. My best friend is the exact opposite. She wears supper tall heels and dates super short men because she likes to feel like she is dominating. Its just a preference.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Short kings for the win 👑

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm 5'10" and my boyfriend is 5'8". I went to his daughter's high school graduation in a cute pair of cowboy boots. While holding his hand and walking out, I remarked that I didn't realize the damned things would make me so much taller. I don't remember what he said back, but I told him, "Don't worry. Short men need lovin', too!" "Oh my god," he said, rolling his eyes. "You're my 5 foot 8 king." "You're not making this better." And then I realized his mother was walking right in front of us 😂

by Anonymous 1 year ago

shorter men visually look like they have bigger pp even if it's the same size. I think this, alone, makes shorter men more visually appealing than taller men. It's not a defining feature, but visually it helps.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

As much absurd as you sound, I get what you're saying. I'm very tall guy and building muscles that would be pretty visible was pain in the ass for me, when all shorter guys were having better visual effects (I had the strength, but let's be honest, who cares that you can deadlift more than a guy when he looks more aesthetically pleasing).

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I am 5.10. I know a guy who is 5.6 and has a girlfriend he is a unit and very kind. Even if women prefer taller guys shorter guys can be better than other areas to make them more attractive.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's a fine idea but short men know they are at a definite disadvantage with women.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This is a very personally opinion, I'm 5'4 yet I look for 5'10 or taller

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's a pretty common thing lol, if you're a woman of course

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I feel like a huge gap in height is just awkward. I don't need someone towering over me.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I agree! It's just a preference. Just like most guys like big boobs and some don't care. I don't care about guys heights. But I also understand why tall guys are popular!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

So you're wrong about this op, but let me speculate on the actual real phenomenon you're experiencing. Not being concerned over a guys height, you've now put all the shorter guys on their level, and as they're generally selected less the ones that are very attractive and shorter have a comparative advantage with you. If you have a 9 out of 10 guy who is 5 foot 6. And an 8 out of 10 guy who is 6 foot 2, assuming we are controlling for height, the 9 out of 10 guy will generally have a lot less options and be more single/available. What's left with the taller guys, controlling for height, are less attractive guys compared to their shorter counterparts.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm with you on that! 5'7" lady and with a guy who's 5'6". Going on 4 years <3

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I love my shortie. Way easier to grab him and give him kisses. It's nice to be on the same level.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Nah theres a line where it becomes a problem. I am short enough to be easily mistaken for a child, I assure you that is unattractive to most people.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

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by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm 5'1 and my husband is 6 feet. I have dated guys shorter and taller than him. That being said, taller gentlemen (6 feet and up) have mostly been the ones to pursue me. I can't say I have a type but they certainly did. 🤷‍♀️

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Is a preference an opinion?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yes?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Pretty sure this is only unpopular on tinder. Millions and millions of short men are on relationships

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Kevin: Shorter men are like fun-sized candy bars, compact and still delicious. Height doesn't matter, it's all about the flavor.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Nobody should feel pressured to date anyone regardless of how shallow their reasons is. But I will never understand it, I personally find nobody attractive until I get to know them first, then I find them attractive along side their personality. But that's just me, attraction is different for everyone and that's ok, people are allowed to have their own standards for a partner

by Anonymous 1 year ago

:)

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Female here….I don't get the hype either and have never cared. Told I'm an 8/10 on the looks scale (if rude people are gonna come at me like "oh you're just desperate")

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I find that I'm more attracted to shorter men, also. There was a time when I was going after taller men. It was not because I didn't like shorter men, but I was told that shorter men wouldn't want to date a woman taller than them. In high school, the boys would make fun of taller girls and say no one would date them. I don't follow those standards now, but it made me self conscious to date shorter men for a while.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Some women like to feel tiny. It's probably because we've been conditioned that being small is important.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

As a man that's 5'2 I'm happy if someone finds me attractive

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This seems to be an internet only problem, like I've never met a short guy who has issues finding women unless they're the ones that make it a problem🤷‍♀️

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Hmm, maybe you just have a soft spot for hobbits. But hey, who am I to judge? Love is love, even if it's vertically challenged.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

🥲🫂

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Kevin: Well, that's great to hear! As a 5'4 man, I'm relieved to know that there's still hope for me in the dating world. Maybe I should wear heels.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

KEVIN - Of course! Who wouldn't want a partner who can fit in the same size clothing as you? #matchingoutfits #shortandcutesy.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

KEVIN: Thank you for your public service announcement declaring that shorter men are attractive! Finally, someone said it publicly.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Kevin: It's not the height that matters, it's the vertical leap and the ability to dunk a basketball that really gets the ladies.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Kevin: Well, I guess I'll start folding myself in half to fit into your dating criteria then. Who needs a spine anyway?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

pretty sure you're a guy though

by Anonymous 1 year ago

im 5 foot eleven and feel height should not be a factor

by Anonymous 1 year ago