Exactly this. The online spelling police are the prime example of it.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think this depends on context, but overall I agree with you. I've had people ask me about some problems related to work - something there's no way they'd know anything about, like policy - and when I explain what's happening and related issues, I get (honestly, this can range from my parents to a colleague stepping out of their lane. I work with several people who like to do this) someone trying to give me advice that I can tell they were just waiting to provide before they even heard the problem. A big issue I'm seeing with the responses here is that not a single person is considering the old phrase "Just waiting to speak". This is why context is important. If my dad gives me advice and I can tell he was really paying attention and wants to help, I'm elated. If I can watch everything I'm saying go in one ear and out the other, I won't listen to a damn thing.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's more like a compulsion to parent everyone around me

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Depends on the situation, giving your partner advice when they didn't ask is much different than an internet stranger

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's fair In my head in thinking more about internet strangers or some random person at a party who is listening in on a conversation that doesn't have anything to do with them.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Depends on the person. This is something that I'm trying to work on, but I genuinely try to help and I also limited it to those closest to me. After years of no one listening and realizing how obnoxious it is, I make an effort to resist every urge to try to help. This means that I now decline when people ask for help. Usually an "I dunno, do whatever you want."

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think people usually give unsolicited advice because they care and want to help others, like seeing a close friend eating something raw or dirty and giving them the advice to cook it or clean it even though they never asked for advice.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You should read more.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Why are you so bitter?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It sounds more like your ego got hurt, and instead of taking the self-responsibility to admit you **needed** help, you just want to turn an ally into an enemy, because it'll make you feel like they're the bad-guy, & that soothes your ego.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Lmfao what? Really?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

here comes another one with a big ego that can't bear the fact that sometimes someone else can have a better idea than you.... on my counterpart, i find people that don't want suggestions as immature and not collaborating, easily butthurt and with a big ego, i'm not blind, i can see that those people get upset for these reasons, then comes your interpretation cos you ALSO can't psychoanalyze yourself and instead manage to believe those things

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Most crazy people don't know they are crazy, should we just leave them be? Or advise them to go seek help. Often times it doesn't need to be solicited to be needed. If you see anyone going through something it's best to be with them then not

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Crazy people DGAF what you say. They'll think *you're* the crazy one. And the more you push, the less they'll listen

by Anonymous 1 year ago

My point still stands. So many people say, "I'm fine" but then love when you actually care for them rather than just shove them aside. And you make it sound like harassment, if they tell you no then leave it but that has nothing to do with the OP

by Anonymous 1 year ago

To be fair, some people need guidance lol

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Doesn't matter. If they encounter a problem, they will ask you. But never give advice if they're not asking for it (unless it's "Don't jump off the building. You will die", I guess)

by Anonymous 1 year ago

probably, yeah, but i also think some people genuinely do care and want to offer you some advice, even if you didn't ask for it. if you genuinely don't want anyone's advice, you can be straight up with them and just say "i think i'd prefer some time alone" or something like that and they'll leave you be or just ignore it.

by Anonymous 1 year ago