a lot of women's whole identity is the relationship their in and it's sorta pathetic, amirite?

Facebook isn't real life OP

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Next you'll be telling us santa clause isn't real

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I'm…not sure how to tell you this…

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Yeah, it's Santa Claus

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I heard he fought against Pitch Black.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

So many unpopular opinions on here are based on what they see on the internet. It's like people dont go outside at all anymore or have friends in real life

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Go outside of what?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

The backrooms

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Ummm… what is real life supposed to be if not the internet?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Considering anyone who's anyone is on it.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Honestly what OP says ribgs true for a lot of women i know in my life and even while dating. They are always in a relationship and always their identity and interests morph into their parnter's. They do what they want but personally i prefer women who have their own thing going on, their own passions,

by Anonymous 11 months ago

My identity is not just my relationship, but when I think about the #1 thing that makes me happy, I think about my partner. I think it's normal for people to value the important relationships in their life and see them as a bigger source of happiness than their career and hobbies. I need my career, obviously, everyone needs money to live on and I'm sure a lack of money would make me very unhappy very fast, but it doesn't bring a smile to my face the way my partner does. Valuing people over things is normal.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I respect it

by Anonymous 11 months ago

People who use "their" when they mean "they're" are embarrassing.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Also, „a women".

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I hate it so much. Same deal with your and you're. The funniest thing is when someone tries to insult you by saying "your dumb". No, YOU'RE dumb

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Beat me to it ☹️

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I think you're making a bigger deal out of it than it really is.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Yk you could've just said people instead of women.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Dude is also using Facebook as his source... Jesus christ

by Anonymous 11 months ago

that's where he found about this type of people. What's wrong?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

He's angry at women, not people. Sounds like he's just having a tough time being single bless him.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Gods, not everything is misogyny. Toughen up.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

In my experience, women are much more likely to take on the personality of their partner than the other way around

by Anonymous 11 months ago

really? i've noticed the opposite. it's even a trend that women convert men to their religion

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Latvian Orthodox perhaps

by Anonymous 11 months ago

You joke, but the number of young men that convert to Orthodoxy just to find a wife is worrisome.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I like the hats

by Anonymous 11 months ago

This depends on your generation tbh. It's true up until you get to the younger millennials I think. After that, the amount of simping and desperation in young men has led many of them to act the same ways when they finally land a relationship. Women have much more power in the dating market these days

by Anonymous 11 months ago

A lot of *people's whole identity is the relationship *they're in and it's sorta pathetic

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Those people are generally just *happy*.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

No, they are not. A healthy relationship involves having an identity that is separate from your partner. You're not supposed to complete each other. You're supposed to complement each other.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Exactly. My partner *doe*s make me happy, but I am also happy in myself and my personhood completely unrelated to my partner. My partner isn't the sole reason I am happy.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I don't think it has to involve that but it usually does. For the first few years it most definitely should though. My wife and I had separate things for a long time but after over a decade of being together (and especially after moving and having kids) everything sort of melded together.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

They are demented

by Anonymous 11 months ago

It makes you unhappy you don't have that.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Having a hyperfixation is not good

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Using psychiatric terms incorrectly to try to quantify love is not good. People falling in love is actually pretty commonplace.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

It is. Making it their whole personality isn't

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Generally men hyperfixate on sexual attention as a measure of their worth and women fixate on relationship quality as a measure of their worth.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

To be fair it does seem to be much more women than men from what I've seen

by Anonymous 11 months ago

So a lot of women aren't living up to your expectations? Man, they're gonna be crushed to hear that.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

The council of women is heartbroken. We're thinking about buying a gift for OP for causing them so much stress.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

A half eaten packet of Rolos and an Ulster Bank keyring would work.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

as long as by half eaten you mean the long way

by Anonymous 11 months ago

A lot of men see themselves as not complete without a woman in their life sooo...

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Men have gone on deadly rampages because they couldn't have a relationship with a woman.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Humans are social creature that long for intimacy and connections. It's sad to see what can happen when those needs aren't meet.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

And according to OP sad to see what can happen when those needs are met. lol

by Anonymous 11 months ago

The whole popular yet very much dated "men hate their wives" shtick is literally about men who only marry women to have someone to cook and do chores for them. Because they couldn't survive a week without them. And of course let's not forget the stupidly high number of incels who act as if they absolutely *have* to date women and obsess over them despite hating their guts.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

A lot of men make their entire personality and worldview around not being able to be with women to the point where they literally murder people, so yeah. OP is wild.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Yeah so let's teach our women to not hinge their life off a man then get accused of being anti men

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Who are the women you are talking about? A woman being in a happy relationship does not equal a woman who's relationship is their whole identity.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

We get flooded with those messages our whole lives. Then we enter an adult world that still values us based on how pretty we are and whether we have a family. We get asked about motherhood more than our majors. For the women who fall for it, it's easy, guaranteed validation. It doesn't matter that it's hollow when there's no other option to rely on.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Yeah I'm so frustrated that my family got more excited when I found a boyfriend than whenever I find a job. One was mostly dumb luck and one was hard work.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Because we live in a society that tells women they're incomplete until they have a husband and kids. And because the patriarchy is still alive and well....we have men and women that raise their daughters to believe the same!

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Yeah you tell those FEMALES Op!

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Apparently women being happy in relationships is bad.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Where did the OP say that?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Yeah no, he didn't say "bad", he said pathetic, which is worse

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Except he didn't say that about being happy in relationships, did he? He said it's pathetic to make your whole identity about your relationship. That's a very different thing, isn't it? Being happy about something vs. making your whole identity about something. They're different, right? But the person I responded to didn't make that distinction. They heard "this guy doesn't want women to be happy in relationships." They are changing what he said, then disagreeing with it. How does that make sense? Finally, here's the final thing that OP said. What part of this do you object to?"you don't need to jump from man to man trying to find "happiness" it's a losing battle, find it within yourself first and the right person will come along in due time"

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I mean will a bad relationship not make one unhappy? Will a better relationship not contribute toward being happier? This doesn't sound like women tying self-worth into relationships, it sounds like people being happy in public with their partners is what you don't like lol

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Oh please, like there aren't men who do that. Codependency isn't healthy in anyone, regardless of gender.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I think it's in part because initially love was portrayed for women as an end goal: to marry a (wealthy) husband and to provide children and to take care of them. While for men, marriage was initially seen as a side achievement for life instead of being one of the main things you have to accomplish in order to have a "fulfilling" life like it is for women

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Someone's bitter that women are happy 😂

by Anonymous 11 months ago

"They're". Also this isn't just women, men do this too.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Sounds like they're just happy 🤷‍♂️

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Why is this a women specific thing? Its really not. Also it's they're not their

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Sampling bias. Women are more likely to talk about their relationships than men are. Doesn't mean men don't feel the same way. Also, nothing wrong with women (or men) being happy in a relationship which is what you seem to be taking issue with.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Men do this too. I'd say more so. Men are taught to never be vulnerable with their feelings unless it's anger or aggression. They don't receive hugs or words of affirmation from their friends. So naturally, they hunger for that and can only get that if they are with a woman. That's why they become so bitter and angry with the world when they can't.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I'm not agreeing with OP but I had a friend who couldn't be single. Every time her relationship ended, she would either get back with them or end up in another relationship. I jokingly asked her why, but she said it was just a coincidence

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Relationships makes people feel happy and fulfilled. We evolved to live in tribes where strong social bonds were crucial for survival. The same mechanism is still active today. When we feel needed by other people and feel contributing to someone we care about, our brain signals that we are doing the right thing by making as feel good for doing it. To define oneself through relationship and role you hold is completely acceptable and even respectable. For example, "I'm a father". There might be issues with dependent anxious attachment among some people. That is correct. But to see an issue that people put priority on relationships rather than something else in their life is completely understandable. And I would argue often desirable. You'll do the same if you're lucky and find someone to build that relationship with.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Woman = 1 woman (Singular) Women = Multiple women (Plural) When did we lose this? Drives me nuts every time I see it.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I've had so many friends just drop off the face of the earth when they get a partner, then come back when that partner upset them and then rinse and repeat. And single women in particular whose life goal is to get married 🤮

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I think this is left over from when women weren't allowed to have status or accomplishments of their own, and could only have them second hand through connections to men. So the way to change this is to work against things that prevent or discourage women from working towards their own accomplishments.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Yes, we're conditioned to tie our worth around male validation. I hope you're not a guy saying this

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I agree with you. That being said, I am not convinced it is a gendered issue; plenty of men in similar situations

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Sadly that stuff is indoctrinated from childhood.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Let people be happy.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

some people value relationships more than others. let people live their lives

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Oh goodie. It's time for the daily "why do other people always talk about important things in their life so much?" Opinion. Maybe it's because people like talking about things that are important to them?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Women being in happy relationships with men and talking about it = bad. Women saying they don't need men and that they are happy = bad.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I have a friend who has no identity of her own and assumes the identity of who she's dating. She dates a redneck, she becomes a redneck. She dates a pothead gamer she becomes a pothead gamer.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

There's nothing wrong with finding happiness in your partner but also your happiness shouldn't depend on a person

by Anonymous 11 months ago

You right but honestly I've seen more dudes like that recently who don't talk about anything but their girlfriend and always apologize to their life long friends so they can ditch them for their girlfriend and it's like don't get me wrong Ik you need a balance but damn you're just gonna ignore your friends you've known forever for a girl you've known for a couple months?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Relationships are a very big, very common part of life. The person you live with, are in a relationship with, are married to, have kids with, etc. generally has an impact on your mood and general happiness. If everything in a person's life were perfect, but their partner treated them horribly, they'd probably be unhappy. Do some people take it too far? Of course. But having a good or bad partner can make or break a lot of things in someone's life.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

This is because we tell women their only value in society is being wives and mothers. I mean, the times have changed and thankfully we don't think that anymore. But it's still true in some places. I don't make friends with people whose entire identity is their partners, or their kids, etc. My former best friend totally forgot about me the moment she got married, and it was awful. I'm someone who still hangs out with my friends when I start dating someone, AND I always encourage my partner to keep socialising with his friends.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

A lot of mens whole identity is the relationship they're not in so I guess people just love relationships 🤷‍♀️

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Women enable it. They obviously find some value being in this apparent handicap.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

They're*

by Anonymous 11 months ago

That's my sister. Almost High school sweethearts(they met young but not that young) together for a long time then one day she has this big realization and wants to leave. Goes on about she's ready to live her own life and be happy with herself. One year later meets someone else. She's been in only 2 relationships her entire life and refuses to be alone. So sad and the annoying part is she won't admit it. Red flag for me is a girl that hasn't been single more than a year between relationships.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I'd like to believe that she just met a better match. I don't think she refuses to be alone. I think she just likes the person she's with.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

You're right, you know my sister better than me 🙄

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I know what you told us, and your evidence did not convince me.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Almost as if a lifetime with someone is the same as hearing about them online. You are right. I'm ignorant in thinking details observed mean nothing. Me time I'll be sure to priced an entire biography

by Anonymous 11 months ago

You're the one who decided to tell a story. It's not my fault if you did a bad job of explaining it.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Being in a good relationship is a thing that makes people happy, whether they are women or men.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

maybe touch some grass?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

A lot of people make their entire identity about criticizing anything a woman anywhere chooses to do and the applying it to all women

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I think it's pathetic to care and judge someone over what their identity is about. Not to mention that humans are all about relationships by their nature.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

GENESIS 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."

by Anonymous 11 months ago

who hurt you op?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Guys are like this too. Without a gf they are kind of pathetic.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Learn to spell. And not be misogynistic.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Who wants to bet "a lot of" means like 10

by Anonymous 11 months ago

cause women rely on men since the beginning of time

by Anonymous 11 months ago

Sounds like he's mad bc he can't get a woman to be with him

by Anonymous 11 months ago

What do you have against people being happy? Let people be happy how they want lol

by Anonymous 11 months ago