+161 If you haven't figured your life out by the time you're 40 that's on you, amirite?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

You guys figured your life out?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

1 - who else would it be on? 2 - if you're seriously not happy about your life, you should reevaluate, no matter your age. It doesn't matter if you're 30, 40, 60. 3 - probably most important, actually: what do you define as "figured out"?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Either in or seeking to be in a committed long term relationship. Two or more close friends you engage with, with some regularity. Stable employment, or the necessary skills, ability, or knowledge to gain it. A hobby or activity that you gain satisfaction from.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

All things that can be taken from you in an instant. Life keeps going after 40, if you're lucky.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Agreed. Doesn't mean that's not a good metric though. Life is pain, segmented with moments without it. I hope your life goes well, I hope my life goes well. I don't believe in an afterlife, which makes it that much more important to live decently with everyone

by Anonymous 6 months ago

1) Not everyone wants a long term committed relationship. 2) Even long term "committed" relationships can end, no matter how much you try to make sure you found the right person or how hard you work on the relationship. 3) Playing video games gives people satisfaction. Futzing around on YouTube gives people satisfaction. Tending to aquariums or propagates gives people satisfaction. Those are all hobbies - and from the outside, those all look like a person just staying at home, by themselves, not doing anything. 4) People can change careers at any point in their lives. It doesn't mean their life isn't "figured out". My dad retired at 41, and kept telling everyone he didn't know what he wanted to be when he grew up. He'd been doing the same job for 23 years, and now didn't know what he wanted to do next. That doesn't mean his life wasn't "figured out."

by Anonymous 6 months ago

1/2 Not everyone does, you're right, doesn't change the fact that it's correlated with many positive things. Yes they can end, and that can be a bad thing, or a good thing. Still doesn't change it anything. A committed relationship doesn't even have to be with a partner, it could be a very close friend or family member that satisfies the need. 3. Doesn't matter what other people think, playing video games can be a beneficial hobby. 4. A career can end, doesn't mean you didn't develop skills, abilities, or knowledge that you can leverage to get another one, or that you didn't generate enough income to sustain your lifestyle for an extended period of time. None of these are absolute, and even if you had all of them, you might not say that you had your life figured out, but I'd be willing to bet that if you took a poll, a huge percentage would say that you did.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

This opinion is pretty popular

by Anonymous 6 months ago

So basically, 'have money'.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Oh my tehehehe

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Nah, this is a bad take and one that isn't supported by psychology or any other relevant field. Every single human grows and develops differently due to environmental factors, genetics, and upbringing. It's one thing to have an unpopular opinion, but to have an easily disprovable one isn't honorable or rational. I hope you're not 40 yet, you seem to have some learning to do yourself.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

What happens if you have a best friend for 9 years and she dies from cancer on a rented hospital bed in your lougneroom in front of your eyes? Is it okay to be an alcoholic for a bit? ​ You fail to consider that you don't know everything.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

That's tragic, but does anyone (other than an alcoholic) ever think it's ever okay to be an alcoholic?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Hey you can do whatever you feel like you need to do to cope with your life. Life will slowly move on without you and if you can't catch up it may leave you behind.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I'm sorry for the loss and the hardships, but no. It's not okay to be an alcoholic for a bit. It's not even justified. Life is hard, and alcohol doesn't truly make it any less hard, it just poisons people into "feeling good".

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Ever heard of a song called "sunscreen"?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Or you're just a person who keeps evolving where others stagnate. An artiste!

by Anonymous 6 months ago

What does it mean to have ones life figured out?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

To me have a job (preferably a career), have a home( renting or bought), knowing your opinion/feelings on relationships and your future (if you want kids or not). So being stable and knowing what you would like from life.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

If you have your life all figured out by 40 and are not growing, learning and evolving as a person that's far worse.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I'm assuming OP only thinks he's got his life figured out to have some superiority complex. Probably worse off than most

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I am getting major vibes that OP is a teenager who just got his first job or just got into college and felt the need to write this 💀

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Just a heads up for everyone. OP is an idiot.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Well, what's my truth got to do with it.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

It's pretty cool to see so many people who are finally happy in their 40's and 50's when they've figured out what and who matter and don't and why

by Anonymous 6 months ago

The guys in their 40s who still live off their parents piss me off. Like their career didn't work out and they refuse to find something that does.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Maybe their careers work just not enough to justify buying a house?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I think I can tentatively or mostly agree with this. It was around 40 that the notion of "it's not your fault, but it is your responsibility" started to really make sense to me. By 40 most people have had time to sift through their baggage and be actively fixing it; at this point you have been an adult longer than you were you were a not yet adult. The possibility statistically of breakthrough change in your 50s just goes way down, I would believe.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Seems like just the type where they are interviewing all the neighbors and say they were so nice and seemed to have it all figured out.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Life is just meant to be lived there's nothing to figure out. I'll live it then die

by Anonymous 6 months ago

What a terrible one sided proclamation. About the same depth as saying, don't be poor.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

What if you make it and lose everything?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Things that are easy to say when you are a child and have not had to do any sorting outof your own yet.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I swear to God people like you never consider the enormous amount of variables that take place in people's life. The environment, the people they were raised with, genetic conditions, societal expectations, mental health etc. I have a conservative friend who really likes to look at things as black and white just like you which is ridiculous man. The world isn't as simple as that dude. Learn to look in the eyes of other people's lives. Hate when people just put down others and come to conclusions without even looking inside there life. Grow up, seriously.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Must be nice to be rich and delulu.

by Anonymous 6 months ago