+151 Older men are not attractive, amirite?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Not sure how old you're talking, but I don't think this is unpopular. Also, I'm 51 and you couldn't pay me to date a 19 year old .

by Anonymous 3 months ago

> Also, I'm 51 and you couldn't pay me to date a 19 year old . I'm not so sure, I mean..... if anyone wants to pay me to date a 19 year old, I'd be willing to give it a shot??!! You know, for "research purposes" to "take one for the team", as it were? DM me, we can set it up

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I mean sure. If you paid me enough hahaha! But remember I'm 51...I'm well established financially...Better bring some fat stacks!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I'm 51 and I'm not sure I'd know what to do with a 19 year old any more. But the consolation is I don't think "talk to them" is generally high on the priority list.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Silly! No 19-year-old can talk with a mouth full of penis!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

What if I said she was a hot 19 year old and she's into older men…. I call BS if you hold your position.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I'm probably older than her dad. So yeah. No. I may be her type in your scenario, but she's not mine. How would meeting her parents work? If I'm older than him, do I assert dominance and threaten him? Or is that still his job?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

If I ever have a daughter, I hope she says the same thing when she's 19.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Congratulations! You're a normal human.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I feel the same way about dating much younger women, I don't get what the fascination is with dating out of your own age range

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Not unpopular at all. Most attractive women in their early 20's are with men who are around the same age or only a bit older. It's not like there's a ton of 40'ish year old men sleeping with attractive women in their early 20's regularly... only very impressive men can pull that off, which inherently means it's rare, and the whole notion of impressive has to be a part of it precisely because otherwise many of those women would rather date someone closer to their own age.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Great more daddies for me.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

They're all yours lol

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It's probably because no older person trying to talk to a 19 year old is emotionally stable anyway. Your brain recognizes loser behavior automatically.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

You're 19 at 19 I didn't think that either. I'm now 32 and men anywhere from my age to 50 are mighty fine looking to me.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

You're 19. Enough said.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

For now you don't. So at 19 you like 19 year olds. At 25 you might like 30 year olds. Really no rhyme or reason to what people are attracted to.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It's perfectly normal and reasonable to want to date someone your age, and I'm not sure if this is really an unpopular opinion. I think most people want to date their age, and then there are those who don't, or who don't place as much importance on age, and everyone wants to have a go at them for some reason. So yeah, don't feel pressured into thinking you have to date older, just live and let live, that's usually the answer in life.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I've seen attractive older men, attractive younger men and attractive men my own age. It hasn't really factored in much for me. That said, grey or greying hair on a man I think can look really handsome.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

We dont find you attractive either, so we're cool!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

That's actually good to know 😅

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Older men aren't considered more attractive than younger men because of their looks lol. Older men are considered more attractive because they usually have more money and are a lot stronger, wiser, and more mature than younger men. Generally speaking. Younger women are preferred more than older women because most of them are prettier. Men & women have different needs and values in life. Men are valued for their ability to protect/provide and women are valued for their looks/beauty.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

when women say that older men are attractive we aren't referencing their looks. objectively, of course younger guys are more physically fit and attractive. being attracted to daddies isn't really about their looks. although, the male body masculinizes with age, so if you're attracted to masculinity you may find older guys appealing with time.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

They're generally wealthier, and have had more time to develop emotional stability and maturity that is often lacking in youth. That's what people find so attractive.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Not unpopular at all. The reason why women in their early 20s date with men in late 40s or later is the latter being suggar daddies.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Not an unpopular opinion at all. I'm 49, and the majority of 19-year-olds are still children with limited life experiences. Not only would it be creepy as hell for me to be with you, I would likely be bored out of my mind.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

>don't get it at all. The men are not aging so drastically, than women.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

That's fine if it's your preference, but I'm 36 and I get hit on by young women pretty frequently. Not that I'd entertain that, but it happens. If you saw me in person, you'd probably find me attractive.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Sorry but I'd most probably see you as an uncle

by Anonymous 3 months ago

That's not something you should feel the need to apologize for!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Lol. Not an unpopular opinion. In fact, most people prefer people around their age. At the same time, there is nothing wrong with people who enjoy people who are older or younger. Everyone has people they aren't attracted to. So do you and enjoy it!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Around your age, ok, but a bit older or are you after one of those inexperienced often labeled "babies" younger than you?, it's a rethorical question, we all know the answer. It's not that women like older men necessarily but they dont like them much younger than them either, not until they are old themselves. I'm dating myself but when I was at school it was the era of the Back Street Boys mania, girls my age, lets say 11 or 12 years old were all about them, and I don't know their exact ages but Nick Carter must have been 16 at minimum and the others were in their mid twenties at least, saying women are not attracted to men at least a couple years older than them is a lie that's debunked with minimum observation of their behaviour.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Not all women are the same. I'm totally okay with dating guys who are younger than me (for now, obv one year younger max bc I won't date anyone younger than 18), and guys a bit older than me are fine too. The thing is, I don't feel more attracted to older guys than younger guys, and if they're much older than me, I just lose interest. Of course, if they're much younger than me, I'll lose interest too.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

In school the boys also all were attracted to sometimes significantly older women. They didn't talk about their school mates but about the big tits someone's older sister or a teacher or a porn star had, etc.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Money, that is what is attractive

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I absolutely agree with you! I just put every older man in a "should see me as his daughter" category because I see them all as dad adjacent. I understand what causes many people to be attracted to older men so it's not like I'm judging them either bc from what I gathered due to childhood wounds (absent fathers, etc) they often crave that older protective figure in their life that can guide them (which older men that date younger people take advantage of, whether that be young women or young gay/bisexual men) but I just feel absolutely zero want or need to get that from a relationship. I want someone my age that can be my equal, I don't want a mentor because I'm lucky enough to already have a dad. All I can feel when an older man expresses attraction to me is disgust and fury lol. It's almost offensive. I've always been strictly attracted to guys my age. It's also because I want to be with someone in a similar life stage as me so like even though I'm 21 and it's technically not a big gap I wouldn't date a 25 yo just like I wouldn't date an 18 yo lol

by Anonymous 3 months ago

the assumption that women prefer older men due to absent fathers and trauma is kind of (and i might be incorrect) extremely misogynistic. also, if you are a woman in your 20's looking to "find your equal" that's not going to be a guy the same age as you, because women mentally mature quicker than men.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

What? Women don't mentally mature quicker than men, women are just expected to be mature earlier than men and are punished harshly for not behaving a certain way from an early age. It's not biological. And I also think you missed my point lol

by Anonymous 3 months ago

The ones attracted to older men are jobless whores in which their only skill is opening their legs and begging for money.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It depends on what you're looking for. Older men are often wealthier. That's it.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

> That's it. I don't think that's the entirety of it. I'm a broke dude in my early 40s and the women aged 25-35 make it clear it isn't my wallet that they're after.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

LoL same

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I said "often".

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I was pretty unwealthy when my much younger gf fell for me. She was and is making much more money than me. She was even my boss before we got together.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

That's because you're actually sane and looking for a healthy relationship. The women who prefer older men are just attracted to their money 99% of the time

by Anonymous 3 months ago

This isn't an unpopular opinion. A 40 year old will get ostracized if he dates a 19 year old. It's not like popular American culture encourages this.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

So your father did a good Job and you came out rather normal. Good for you

by Anonymous 3 months ago

imo woman as a general rule mature faster than men, not always, but usually. So I think woman should date men 5 years older than them so they have the same maturity level, A 19 year old woman shouldn't date a 19 year old guy.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I think that rule doesn't apply to me, tbh. I don't think I'm mature, and I might even be immature for my age. I still have many childish interests, a childish humour, and I'm not very responsible. Plus, I usually relate more to guys my age.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Agree. And I would even add that men don't age like fine wine. It's wrong to claim that their looks are less affected by aging than women's. Many middle aged women still look great. Middle age men? Not so much. Most let themselves go and basically aren't doing any self-care.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Usually they are referring to the exception and not the rule.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Need more info on what you consider "older." I wouldn't expect this idea to refer to guys more than 10 years older. I imagine the "attractiveness" is more the idea that an older guy has his life set and no longer in the "frat guy" mentality.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I think it's relative? A 19 year old girl would typically have 19-22 year old bf. A 25 year old girl might go for someone up to around 32, maybe. It's pretty universal for guys to date younger women. This is of course until the guy hits 30. At which point something magical happens and all of a sudden older women get interested too.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It's not unpopular, kesha wrote a song about it.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Manner, not looks.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Beautiful is beautiful in different ages. Just that youth keep uglier people viable. This is true for any sex. Just that men with age have means to date and women just need to be alive tho, the bar is so low For women in dating is kinda funny.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

More like: I often hear women say they prefer confident men.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Ok

by Anonymous 3 months ago