+25 making friends as an adult is weird and dangerous, amirite?

by Anonymous 2 months ago

but then you say something stupid and cant show your face there again

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Honestly, i think people just have different definitions of friends.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

If I couldn't show my face somewhere after saying something stupid I'd have to leave the planet.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

lol.. ill give you that one. that was good.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

This is just social anxiety talking. It was tough for me to overcome too, but no one cares about what you say in a social setting (especially a bar) nearly as much as you do. People tend to forget nearly all interactions with strangers.

by Background_Froyo1680 2 months ago

Would you like to meet in fangorn forest? I can pick you up on shadowfax

by Adrian89 2 months ago

It's always been tough for me to be a different person based on functions like work and play. So for the most part, I get nothing emotionally out of being with people at work. Now I'm working at a place where most of the people are warm, friendly and I can kid around with them. That is a HUGE difference. But, I had to trade pay for that -- however, I didn't have much choice because the old job was just too toxic.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

If you've never wanted to hang out with any of your coworkers in your adult life, maybe you're the issue? Idk but I've worked maybe 5-6 different jobs as an adult, and Ive almost always made friends at work.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

well, my longest (and first job,) they fired me after 4 hours saying "we just dont think you fit here" (in a grocery store where i was completely alone stocking a shelf, then after my mother jumped down head offices throat they rehired me and spent 5 and a half years trying to make me quit because they still hated my guts until i was fired because one of the managers challenged me to a fistfight because i was defending people who were on break, so theres that.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

OP, I think you're in the clear. I doubt you have a lot of people around wanting to make friends with you.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

You do throw it around lightly. OP is likely very introverted and overly self conscious.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

i dont even like grocery shopping.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Making friends is never dangerous

by Anonymous 2 months ago

I think you are trying to say you have to walk on eggshells, and it's easy to say something that rubs people the wrong way. There are a lot of things that don't have a middle ground these days -- and it's hard NOT to want to talk about them. You might need to separate "types" of friends so that you don't have to dump everything all at once. I can see how that's not automatically easy though. Good luck.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Humans are social creatures. We need people to talk to regularly and the best way to do that is through a network of friends. And the only way you get friends is by talking, even if it means you have to spend a little time in the awkward zone of knowing them casually. It's a bit scary, but despite common perception, 90% of people are well adjusted and safe to be around, and so being constantly paranoid is going to do little in keeping you safe compared to just having some common sense. Under your logic, nobody should be married unless they just so happened to meet their partner in high school. I mean, how do you think your parents met?

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Weird. Yea. Dangerous… what?

by Twisoky 2 months ago