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making friends as an adult is weird and dangerous, amirite?
by Anonymous8 months ago
but then you say something stupid and cant show your face there again
by Anonymous8 months ago
Honestly, i think people just have different definitions of friends.
by Anonymous8 months ago
If I couldn't show my face somewhere after saying something stupid I'd have to leave the planet.
by Anonymous8 months ago
lol.. ill give you that one. that was good.
by Anonymous8 months ago
This is just social anxiety talking. It was tough for me to overcome too, but no one cares about what you say in a social setting (especially a bar) nearly as much as you do. People tend to forget nearly all interactions with strangers.
by Background_Froyo16808 months ago
Would you like to meet in fangorn forest? I can pick you up on shadowfax
by Adrian898 months ago
It's always been tough for me to be a different person based on functions like work and play. So for the most part, I get nothing emotionally out of being with people at work. Now I'm working at a place where most of the people are warm, friendly and I can kid around with them. That is a HUGE difference. But, I had to trade pay for that -- however, I didn't have much choice because the old job was just too toxic.
by Anonymous8 months ago
If you've never wanted to hang out with any of your coworkers in your adult life, maybe you're the issue? Idk but I've worked maybe 5-6 different jobs as an adult, and Ive almost always made friends at work.
by Anonymous8 months ago
well, my longest (and first job,) they fired me after 4 hours saying "we just dont think you fit here" (in a grocery store where i was completely alone stocking a shelf, then after my mother jumped down head offices throat they rehired me and spent 5 and a half years trying to make me quit because they still hated my guts until i was fired because one of the managers challenged me to a fistfight because i was defending people who were on break, so theres that.
by Anonymous8 months ago
OP, I think you're in the clear. I doubt you have a lot of people around wanting to make friends with you.
by Anonymous8 months ago
You do throw it around lightly. OP is likely very introverted and overly self conscious.
by Anonymous8 months ago
i dont even like grocery shopping.
by Anonymous8 months ago
Making friends is never dangerous
by Anonymous8 months ago
I think you are trying to say you have to walk on eggshells, and it's easy to say something that rubs people the wrong way. There are a lot of things that don't have a middle ground these days -- and it's hard NOT to want to talk about them. You might need to separate "types" of friends so that you don't have to dump everything all at once. I can see how that's not automatically easy though. Good luck.
by Anonymous8 months ago
Humans are social creatures. We need people to talk to regularly and the best way to do that is through a network of friends. And the only way you get friends is by talking, even if it means you have to spend a little time in the awkward zone of knowing them casually. It's a bit scary, but despite common perception, 90% of people are well adjusted and safe to be around, and so being constantly paranoid is going to do little in keeping you safe compared to just having some common sense. Under your logic, nobody should be married unless they just so happened to meet their partner in high school. I mean, how do you think your parents met?
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