Says the person who can't readily get cute people to date them to begin with*
by Complete-Play145811 months ago
That's a low blow for no reason. The person simply said no thanks. Why so defensive ? You feel threatened and not secure in your beliefs.
by Anonymous11 months ago
Attachment and ego are the enemies here Right as usual, Obi-Wan
by Anonymous11 months ago
You won't see any negatives so long as those two men never ask themselves which one is your preferred lover. The moment they question it…oh well.
by Keeley4611 months ago
Not everyone is driven by a pathetic ego like that…
by Complete-Play145811 months ago
You think it's ego to wonder if the person you love loves you more than they love someone else?
by Keeley4611 months ago
Good enough to be one of several partners, sure. So you're not enough for them, because if you were, they wouldn't need more partners.
by Keeley4611 months ago
People can love, yes TRULY LOVE, more than one person at the same time. Monogamy aims to instill the lie that it can't happen, it's a lie. Monogamy has stolen so so much love from this world. Not on purpose but by the nature of its being. It's time we questioned it
by Complete-Play145811 months ago
I agree, they can. I never said otherwise. What I said was that those relationships do show that someone can clearly not be good enough, because if they were, their partner wouldn't need to seek out others too.
by Keeley4611 months ago
theres no questions like that because we all know we love each other the same. we are 3 men in love
by Phane11 months ago
Mhmm, you say that now. But if you were forced to pick between one of them, you know which one you'd pick. All it takes is a single moment of someone wondering who that'd be.
by Keeley4611 months ago
assuming something for someone in a 2 year relationship isnt the way to go ya know. you dont know them as people.
by Phane11 months ago
What I do know about people is that asking questions is a natural human thing. So long as they don't ask that specific question, it'll all be fine probably.
by Keeley4611 months ago
I mean it never works for a reason right?? Outliers will exist for everything but people tend to pass judgment on what happens 99 percent of the time unseats of that 1 percent.
by Anonymous11 months ago
Cope
by Several-Buddy965411 months ago
No need to ask, they'll gladly tell you over and over and over.
by Confident-Owl11 months ago
I'm in a very happy polyamorous triad. Communication is the only way any relationship can work, monogamous or not.
by Anonymous11 months ago
like in any relationship?
by Phane11 months ago
But the scale of the problem is different. Like diahreea would be be a much bigger problem in bdsm relationship than in regular one.
by Anonymous11 months ago
Sure but it's also very much the case that because of the dynamic of poly relationships the problem often gets exacerbated and can be harder to deal with.
by Anonymous11 months ago
Of course it's good to you, you're probably the "lead", the queen bee of the hive. Or, to put it more bluntly, the selfish member of the relationship who is enjoying the pros with few, or none, of the cons. Which is the driving force of polyamorous relationships. It's all fun and games until someone gets their feelings hurt. And just because it ain't you, it doesn't make it any less questionable. Also, no matter how you spin it, it's still about selfishness and lack of commitment. Sooner or later someone WILL get tired or disillusioned about the whole endeavor.
by Visual_Gur11 months ago
I think we're moving away from monogamy. I don't think I could be in a poly relationship myself, too much effort and I just got married yesterday, but if everyone is happy and of legal age in whatever relationship they want then I say go for it
by Willisboyer11 months ago
Depends heavily on relationship to relationship, you have a good relationship. But there's a ton of such relationships where one partner's insecurities can ruin it for everyone. While I have no interest in such a relationship, I have no qualms with people that do have them. Plus there's a lot more communication needed in polyamory compared to monogamy, but then again a lot of monogamous relations have poor communication XD
by Anonymous11 months ago
unless it's me with two people I've chosen and they do and feel what I want I'm not up for it. Sound realistic? Yeah nah..
by Anonymous11 months ago
realistic would be them not being up for everything all the time. managing time and interests is also very important in any relationship. the unrealistic part is expecting your partners to be into everything you want and like
by Phane11 months ago
that sounds like horrible people who cant even handle a single reltaionship. sorry to hear that
by Phane11 months ago
Are you a man or a woman ?
by reedarmstrong11 months ago
man. ace. all three of us
by Phane11 months ago
Ace as in asexual?
by Anonymous11 months ago
yes
by Phane11 months ago
lol bro I feel like this is a whole other layer. It's hard to generalize your relationship as an asexual single-gender throuple to the wider world
by Anonymous11 months ago
I've never met anyone emotionally mature and responsible in such a relationship type. Naturally this is not absolute truth.
by Anonymous11 months ago
usualy its people not understanding the difference between open relationship and polyamory. or they are just horrible people in general
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