Superficial Friendships Aren't Inherently Bad, amirite?

I put superficial friends in the same group as "mutual friends" and "colleagues you are chummy with at work". They aren't bad company seing as you have to spend time with them, but you wouldn't probably ever have them as your first choice to spend time with.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That'd a good way to put it. I'll hang out if it works out or if s mutual friend invited us but we'd probably never hang out alone type. For me at least when you hang out with someone alone and it works well then that's a good friend going forward

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's fair. But ask yourself, what do you think when someone only have superficial friendships? It probably points to an underlying socializing issues of the person or environment. Superficial friends are people you hang out with when you trying to find a distraction. If you can't find 1 or 2 good friends, you should have a think more about your environment and relationship.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think as long as the individual has some good friends too. If the individual doesn't, then only having superficial friends can be a very lonely experience.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This is key. Surround yourself with superficiality, and you only have superficiality!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Friends are like a sports team. Need a balance of superstars and role players

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's a great analogy. Also role players can have a crucial impact when superstars are out of form. Similarly some superficial friends can step up in times of need.

by Altruistic_Town 1 year ago

In my work I pretty much have to be friends with all my clients. I learned the hard way a long time ago to keep a line drawn between my "client friends" and my "friend friends"

by Anonymous 1 year ago

imo superficial friendship is not a good word. I call these people acquaintances. We are not close, we don't meet too often but when we do, it's fun and nobody discusses negative/deep stuff. Nothing superficial about that.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Superficial is actually better. Devoting yourself and your time and energy into someone who betrays you (frenemy) sucks. The more superficial it is, the less it hurts.

by Lumpy-Cod-9501 1 year ago

Best friends forever is quite childish but superficial friendships aren't much better.

by Phermann 1 year ago

Exactly, considering all human relationships are conditional and transactional.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

"All human relationships are conditional and transactional?" What a bleak world view. Even familial ones?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Says the person preying on the weak

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This isn't National Geographic and they are not a wolf. What are you talking about

by Mysterious-Bill 1 year ago

Would you form relationships that have a possibility of you getting scammed?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

What does it even mean?

by candacebrown 1 year ago

Well, let's take it this way. Prove to me unconditional relationships are real.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

They said conditional they agreed with, transactional not. Something not being transactional ≠ it being unconditional. Why are you asking them to prove something they never once claimed existed?

by Mysterious-Bill 1 year ago