Sometimes the children are absolutely responsible for the divorce of their parents. amirite?

I think that's probably isolated instances rather than anything considered the norm. Most unruly kids are like that because of their surroundings or lack of understanding/diagnoses of their individual needs.

by CupCompetitive3562 1 month ago

It's more common than people think it's just always assumed the parents are the reason. Psychopaths are born not made, sociopaths are made. Criminals and psychopaths don't always come from the usual stereotypes of broken homes. That's why I say it's an unpopular opinion because people always say they're just kids or the parents must be horrible. When the truth of the matter is, some children are just bad eggs.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Statistics vary a bit, but approx 20% of marriages end after a kid is born. Clinical psychopaths and sociopaths make up a combined 2% of the population (again give or take for the same order of magnitude). So 2% of 20% means 0.4% of all marriages have a kid with a -path problem. Most psychopaths don't act out in a violent way or have the desire to kill or maim. So even if ignorant psycho kids were in half of those marriages, the quantities of families destroyed by kids who "have badness in their veins" is too small to be more common than people think.

by CupCompetitive3562 1 month ago

Damn psychologist

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Typo haha, since the update on apple's autotcorrect it's so much worse. It even "corrects" words spelt right for words it thinks makes more sense in the sentence. It's supposed to help grammar but it's horrible

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Not every child gets the same parent despite living under the same roof. Ever heard of a scapegoat?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yes. I was the scapegoat of a scapegoat. And even she couldn't understand why I had a problem with it. It was just her turn to kick the ball, and invite everyone else to do so, which they happily accepted.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Of course I am the scapegoat of my family.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I want one kid that's it for this reason I think anyone who has kids close together wants a divorce

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm not sure I'm seeing the connection between bad child and parental divorce though. Wouldn't that decision ultimately still be up to the adults? Its not like the child can force a divorce upon them.

by Such_Operation2926 1 month ago

No but if you can't see the connection I don't know what to tell you. Children put stress on a marriage but it's something that can mostly be handled. Bad children, however, put parents against each other, cause fights, financial drain from all the court, therapy, and private education that they may need as a result to their behavioral problems.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

The most common instances of children causing a divorce is probably when their parents are already at least once divorced, and they resent the non-biological parent.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That's not what I'm talking about at all. And when I say "more common than people think" I don't mean to say that it's most divorces or most bad behaving children. Just it happens more often than people like to admit.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I think the general idea is that if a kid ends up that bad, it's because the parents failed at their job. It's pretty hard to hold a child responsible for their upbringing when it's the parents responsibly to mold them into a decent human.

by Suitable-Smoke 1 month ago

Yes, but all I'm saying is not all bad kids come from bad parents. Not at all saying that it's all the time. Just more common than people like to believe

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yeah, some people are born assholes and just get bigger. My kids were all born with unique personalities that had nothing to do with their raising.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

It's like people forget children are still human beings with their own personalities

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yeah it really is! Like don't get me wrong I love kids and most of the time it's 100% the parents are bad at being parents, but there's still the instances of kids just being straight up awful

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Children, especially young children, have most factors in their lives decided by their parents. Parents decide what belief systems and culture you're taught, what you eat, where you live, who you interact with, and hundreds of other things. If your marriage can't survive a child with behavioral problems or special needs then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place, let alone procreated. Usually, the parents either exasperate those problems or create them themselves.

by Carrollhoyt 1 month ago