Saying the phrase "it's not that deep" will make me never want to have a conversation with you again. amirite?

But a lot of times people make a big deal about nothing. Some people simply enjoy overanalyzing things. And that is not bad but sometimes it is really "not that deep". I think especially with films and TV shows some people just love overanalyzing every details.

by Apprehensive-Rate 1 year ago

Nope I am definitly using it to say "Shut up". Maybe your One Piece theory makes some sense. But I really dont care and dont want to think about it.

by Apprehensive-Rate 1 year ago

Yeah, when people say "It's not that deep" it means you're making the conversation unnecessarily intense and serious, and ruining the vibe. Read the room.

by dbayer 1 year ago

"It's not that deep" is the "You must be fun at parties" of microaggressions.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This is the real answer.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's not unnecessary. The reason the world is so messed up is because most people can't, or don't want to, face the reality. They prefer to throw on some music and pretend the world doesn't exist.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

NO. WE MUST TALK ABOUT MICROPLASTICS, UKRAINE, AND INCOME INEQUALITY RIGHT NOW.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Except that's the excuse all the time, every time. When will be the right time? There's plenty of time for life. Give more time to the world, the very thing that gave you that life in the first place.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

We all have a limited amount of energy that we can expend. We can't care about all things at the deepest level. There isn't enough time in the day for that. So we choose our battles. You deep dive on one thing and I deep dive on another. Thats how we enact change on multiple issues at the same time.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Moaning about things you have no control over us not "giving time to the world". Go and volunteer for a charity if you're so eager to give time and attention to the world.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

"I can't do it, but you can" is essentially what you're saying. Do you not see the absurdity in this argument?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I don't follow? I'm saying that moaning doesn't help the world.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's not that deep.

by Unlucky-Ad 1 year ago

I think you've confused me with someone else

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Useless conversation. Thanks for, ironically, wasting my time.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Pretty sure I wouldn't have gotten this cue either. People should say what they mean.

by FitLife1454 1 year ago

No you're right. What's wrong with just saying, "Maybe, but do we have to talk about this right now?" No need to totally dismiss what someone is saying just cause they said it at a bad time.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You can't force people to have conservations they don't want to have.

by Viviane78 1 year ago

Then they don't have to have them. But don't imply the conversation isn't worth having. Sometimes I feel like it's the replies that are contrarian, and not the opinions.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If you think someone telling you it's not that deep is rude, wait until someone just turns and walks away mid speech you're giving to them.

by maggiostanford 1 year ago

I'm sorry, are we past the point where just saying a conversation doesn't interest you is reasonable?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

What exactly do you think saying "that's not that deep" is? It is exactly that, saying what you think is deep and/or interesting is not to the other person.

by maggiostanford 1 year ago

Dude, honestly you're overthinking it. It ain't that deep

by Anonymous 1 year ago

fr op thinks he found the Mariana trench. It's not that deep bro.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm on the fence about this one. Sometimes people use this as a way to just invalidate and dismiss you as rudely as possible. Like, there are ways to tell someone you don't want to talk about this/on this level without being a total asshole to them just for being genuine with you. But also, sometimes it's just not that deep.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Whenever I talk to my friends about any cultural shift I observe, I'll sometimes get hit with the phrase "It's not that deep." Your examples aren't that deep, and further, how often do you need to be told this before you understand the people around you don't want to be inundated with what you consider "deep?"

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Even if its that deep, its not like there is something you can do about it. The others were prolly telling you politely that they don't want to listen to you

by Anonymous 1 year ago

its not like there is something you can do about it The worst attitude to have.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Nice work buddy. You've saved the world

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Thanks lol

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I find it quite important to know what a person can change vs not. If you constantly obsess over things you can't change you'll never do the things you can to make a difference.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Talking about things that need to be changed is the first step of changing things.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If I wanted to hear about these things I'd be staying home to eat with my parents. Going out with friends is an escape from stuff like this, and worse, that I already have to hear every day. I wouldn't wanna be friends with someone who brought this sort of vibe

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Interestingly, I don't think I'd want to be friends with you either. What, we can't talk about real stuff? When you hang out with friends it's exclusively as an escape? Who are you talking about this stuff with then, your parents? Might lead to a limited view. Idk man, if my friend has something on his mind I'm there to hear it. Not if it's all he talks about ofc but in general

by Easy-Membership-3361 1 year ago

If we're in the middle of talking about like video game nonsense and you start bringing up random "deep" convo and it ruins the flow of the convo then yeah I'll hit em with an it ain't that deep and go back to my normal shenanigans

by kalebgerhold 1 year ago

I literally just gave an example of how I would use it in my own life… I feel like youre the one who just made something up to be offended at, so pot meet kettle I guess.

by kalebgerhold 1 year ago

It's not even mean. Not that deep either

by Anonymous 1 year ago

And the other 50% are popular opinions.

by Meaghan41 1 year ago

Guys I've held my tongue long enough I need to set my opinions free, and reveal to the world... Breakfast sausages are pretty great

by Sweet_Piccolo2169 1 year ago

Sounds like your putting people off 🤷‍♂️

by Minimum-Silver 1 year ago

" will make me never want to have a conversation with you again". Don't threaten me with success!

by muellerdarren 1 year ago

Its not that deep.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

They probably don't want to talk to you either if they say it 😅 So win-win I guess.

by Ansley00 1 year ago

Depends on the context imo. If ur hurt by something someone did yeah that's an invalidating response to a call out. Other times it genuinely isn't as deep, and maybe dial back on the intensity.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Context heavily matters here.

by lizzie01 1 year ago

I mean it's really not so deep but you are trying to make it deep Why is that

by Goldneralf 1 year ago

It is that deep, you're just on the shallow end of the pool.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

shallow end of the pool Meaning it just isn't that deep lol

by No-Employee-237 1 year ago

Lucky for you, anybody you talk to like that to also will never want to have a conversation with you ever again. Because it's not that deep, you're just sitting on your ass instead of standing.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Maybe they don't want to delve into it because the truth is understood, amd speaking about it only brings unnecessary anxiety an existential dread. Loosen up.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Hm, never had a friend say that to me before. And I like to go deep. Maybe you just need different friends more suited to your tastes.

by CertainAmphibian 1 year ago

Obviously I don't know you or your friends, but in my personal experience, a person emphasizing having "deep" conversations as an end goal in and of itself is often an indicator that they don't really care about conversing with you at all. Oftentimes it becomes clear that they're more interested in being validated and praised for the depth of their ideas than they are in exploring their ideas with another person. Once people get that impression, they will absolutely disengage from future conversations, often with digressions such as "it's not that deep". If you approach conversations with an earnest curiosity and sincere desire to explore others' ideas then things will get "deep" on their own.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I don't know…what's your goal? Are you forcing people into a deep dive with no proposed solution? Or are you pitching something? I mean, we can go all day about how the youth is doing something detrimental to their future, but are we just bitching into the void? Some people just don't have time for philosophical discussions that are beyond their sphere of impact. Such conversations can be overwhelming when those engaging have zero actionable take aways.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I associate the phrase with people who use it as a general excuse to not use their brain.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Or maybe they love deep conversations but this dude is just condescending and unpleasant to talk to. We have no clue.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Are they "into superficial stuff", or has he just failed to build trust and rapport? Unless you're an enormous statistical outlier, I guarantee that not everyone around you is shallow. If you think everyone is shallow, you're probably failing to see their depth.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

No I don't think everyone is, but it's surprising how many people are / can be. You'd be surprised if you don't think there's a lot of people that are.

by Nkovacek 1 year ago

People can be bad at picking up social clues - such as the listener looking around the room or staring at their phone and not engaging... if everyone is doing that, maybe OP needs to up his game

by francis19 1 year ago

You need to surround yourself with people on the same level as you. Very Real Person

by Impressive_Ruin_1461 1 year ago

Sir, this is a Wendy's.

by Bartholomemoore 1 year ago

You sound like a 19yo barista trying to prove they don't deserve min wage.

by Imaginary-Ball-8244 1 year ago

Not everyone wants to talk about things that aren't superficial. Eleanor Roosevelt supposedly said "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."

by Rautheresia 1 year ago

if you're gonna be that pretentious then obviously people aren't gonna enjoy any "deep" conversations with you💀💀

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm sorry she said that to you. It's OK Lil buddy. You'll find one that thinks it's perfect.

by PossibleAd2533 1 year ago

I am not saying they are these dudes but typically their conversation won't suprass anything beyond middle school. Surround yourself with friends that will have "deep" conversation.

by Due_Contact 1 year ago

Politics is sports talk for unathletic people. Change my mind

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Find better friends

by ExistingAd6711 1 year ago

It means Debussy is not sleeve of wizard

by Wildermanthad 1 year ago

It's not that deep. Just to be sure you avoid me at all costs.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Use Ockham razor, simplest answer is mostly the best one, in realyty most conserns of Yours is just anxiety, most evil social problemst in western societies are just stupidity and lobbying. You really can explain a lot by stupidity, lobbyng and anxiety.

by altenwerthkory 1 year ago

It's not that deep

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You're one of the guys who jump from random places into water, aren't you?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

People are usually using it to invalidate and dismiss you. I only have those deep conversations in my group of friends that actually enjoy discussing real world issues. You're probably just talking to the wrong people

by Brandtpfannerst 1 year ago

Diep.io

by Nervous-Software-924 1 year ago

Eh, you would hate me then. I honestly get annoyed when people try to add some deeper, serious, calamitous undertones to everything about life. Like, who cares? We are a bunch of meatsacks who will die soon. Don't overthink it.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's probably your presentation. You need to make a more structured argument, with evidence, that holds up under scrutiny. If you're just sharing observations and theorizing the motive behind it, I'm not surprised that your friends don't want to waste time discussing it.

by Hudsonwilburn 1 year ago

I never heard that phrase... Until I worked in a prison, and I've literally only ever heard it from felons.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

What rise in retail theft?

by Flabadie 1 year ago

Don't worry. They caught the elderly couple that was organizing the retail theft ring. Check a search engine for more details.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

A work colleague was telling me how he's sure Hollywood is pushing Timothée Chalamet to change what a male lead actor should look like, and this person's female friends all love him but they don't even know they're being played... He's not even handsome, Hollywood is making people think he's handsome... Sometimes it's really not that deep, man. And that's what I told him. Different people have different tastes, and for any lead actor Hollywood tries to push, at least a couple million people will find them attractive. I didn't change his mind. I don't care cause it's not that deep.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Narcissism is a huge problem now days among the youth, aswell. You should work on yourself before trying to fix the worlds problems 🥰

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Damn bro, it's not that deep.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

it's not that deep bro

by cemmerich 1 year ago

Just to help you feel less alone, what they really mean is "I'm not that deep". I certainly get it. Life is short, there's nothing inherently wrong with people wanting to live surface level lives.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

what a respectable opinion

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Hooray an unpopular opinion!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Read the room. I usually say "I'm not that deep" as I'm a simple minded anxious fool.

by Popular-Advantage 1 year ago

sometimes you just need to be told it's not that deep, let's chill out, come back to earth

by Anonymous 1 year ago

sounds like a you problem

by Lutherbeier 1 year ago

You think I would attempt to have any type of "deep" conversation with a woman?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Bruh

by Anonymous 1 year ago

No wonder people don't want to listen to you

by Serious_Cricket 1 year ago