Kids should not have sleepovers at friends houses. amirite?

Sleepovers with my best friends are some of the fondest childhood memories I have. If I ever become a parent, I wouldn't want to deprive my children of this experience.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Well, it's fun. Also your child won't be living under your roof forever. You need to trust them and slowly get them to be more independent and self suffient.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

There are other ways to show that you trust them. They could still hangout with them just not sleep there. But it's not about that, it's about not knowing who's in that house.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

What about sleep over at your place? Are you ok with that?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Then you are asking other parents to do what you just said shouldn't be done tho

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's true, but I still wouldn't really want to do that

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Double-standard much?🤦🏻‍♂️

by Alfrempel 1 week ago

When you say kids, how young are we talking? Also, what about summer camp or a field trip?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Tbh I would say until they are maybe 15 or 16. I think a summer camp and field trip is fine. Look I'm not a parent , this is just my opinion. This is just how I grew up.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ok. Thanks for sharing.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I never wanted to sleep over anyone's house. Like I'll play video games with Jimmy and eat pizza but once a certain time hit I liked being in my own bed

by casimir57 1 week ago

The best part of sleepovers at other friends houses was being able to play rated m games when my parents still wouldny let me lol. That and sneaking around for midnight snacks was always fun

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's fine. All you need is responsible parents who get to know other parents..

by Anonymous 1 week ago

We have sleepovers all the time. We know the parents. Kids make memories

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Cough cough helicopter parent cough

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ya don't you hate it when kids experience life? Like shut up and watch your tablet in your room!

by MiserableJello7923 1 week ago

Could they not experience life because they didn't have a sleepover at a friends house?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

They could, just like they can experience life without concerts, relationships, road trips, etc. they can but why would you want them to not? I mean it's literally an experience after all

by MiserableJello7923 1 week ago

I'm Hispanic, and my friends are Hispanic so it isn't a culture thing. As you said it'd anyones own opinion but I still will say it's an era and that times today you truly can't trust people anymore and I agree you can't trust them enough to know what really happens inside their house. The vibes just weren't like that 30 years ago

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's true. I think people are just more aware of these things now.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

...and you do know exactly who "walks in and out" the friends house during the day? Can "bad things" only happen at night? Or would your kids also not be allowed to spend time at a friends place during the day? What about own family? Statistically, they are the most likely to harm your child. Would you also never let them spend time alone with family? Sorry, but that really is an absolutely unnecessary "precaution".

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So please, answer my other questions too! Would you not allow them to spend the afternoon at a friends place? A saturday morning? Or do "the bad people" only exist when it's dark out? Again: people you (think you) know, can also harm your child. You're setting a totally arbitrary "safety meassure". Your kids can just as easily experience something hatmful during the day, or being with people you know. No, actually it's statistically more likely, with people you know.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yes I would allow them in the afternoon or a Saturday morning because I'm up and aware of what's going on. You're more in control vs in the night people are more vulnerable and everyone is sleeping. No one said it can't happen during the day but it's also less likely. No one needs to sleep in a house that isn't their own. And you don't know people as well as you think. Also I have a question for you, what's the need for a sleepover? They can't have fun during the day?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Cue the helicopter scene from Apocalypse Now...da, da, la, da, da...

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That they don't have to, I can kinda agree with; it's not the end of the world. But saying that they shouldn't is kinda just ridiculous. You didn't really give any reasoning for your position either other than "You won't be uncool if you don't." Which is not really a reason.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm glad I got to be a free-range kid. I think it left me better prepared for life

by glendastreich 1 week ago

I'm actually not a parent 🤣🤣

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Not having a sleepover doesn't mean the parent doesn't trust you. It's more about protecting them. Yes you may know the parents but you don't know what goes on in that house or who lives there other than the parents.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

"You don't know what goes on in that house" so a lack of trust, personally this would be my own living hell as a child growing up. I already didn't listen very well and controlling that aspect as well probably would have made me just run away lol. It has nothing to do with protection it's about control and lack of trust.

by Richard27 1 week ago

Yeah that's where you're wrong but hey it's your opinion. It's definitely has to do with protection. Their friend could have an older brother or even uncle living at that house that you didn't know about. The parents may be nice to you in front of everyone else but be completely different at home. I just rather not risk it if I was a parent. They could still hangout and go outside to the movies or ride bikes or the mall. Even them having a phone is already me trusting them. How is one thing going to make them run away. A strict parent wouldn't allow them to do any of that and make them just come home and not hangout on the weekends. I rather be safe than sorry.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Assault can happen from anyone. Same goes for parents of your child's friend. You don't know who they really are. Kids need certain restrictions. I'm not going to just let my kid do whatever they want. It's a form of discipline. That's on you if you felt that way growing up. But every kid needs some form of restriction.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

But stats say if it's gonna happen it's gonna be most likely from the parent or friend of the family.

by Richard27 1 week ago

Most likely happen from someone you know or are close too.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm pretty sure with all the information going around these days, it's not an unpopular opinion. My daughter HATES that I won't let her stay the night at anyone's house. I don't care, I'm hella chill about most things but this isn't one of them. I'll reevaluate when she's older but for now it's a hard no. I make up for it by hosting dope ass sleepovers at our house.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Trust me she'll understand when she gets older. I was the same way with my mom. But didn't mean she didn't trust me to go out and hangout with my friends, I just couldn't sleepover

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Thankfully all of her friends moms understand that we don't go to sleepovers and we work something out so the girls don't miss out. One of her other friends doesn't go to sleepovers either and we just workout it out where when we do sleepovers all the parents hang out for a few hours and we have a few drinks and chat, then the kid goes home with the parents at "bedtime". That way they still can hang out and have fun!

by Anonymous 1 week ago