+30 There's nothing wrong with not getting a plus one for a wedding, amirite?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

There Are people who will not come to a wedding simply because their spouse or Significant other is not invited and that's ok

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's an invitation not a summons. Also if I get an invite to a wedding and my wife can't go you just saved me from a ruined weekend sitting at a wedding, heres a hundo in the RSVP regrets envelope.

by SirEmpty 1 week ago

It's a summons for the groom.

by stan97 1 week ago

Given that the grooms are most often the ones proposing, I'd argue it's a summons for the bride.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

"Take my wife, please," ba dum tsss

by fanniepfannerst 1 week ago

How is it ok to not invite someone's partner? If you don't respect your friend to an extent that inviting their partner is not a given then you shouldn't be inviting them in the first place. Make it make some sense.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Most of the partners are šŸ™ thanking god they don't have to go

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Lol spot on

by stan97 1 week ago

What if I don't know them, and the event had limited capacity? I'm not saying it's how I would do it, but I can understand the logic.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Conversely most of the people attending only know one of the happy couple so should all the guests decline the invite on that basis?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's true. All or none.

by Allan09 1 week ago

What a smart idea!

by Allan09 1 week ago

Look if it's the same rules for everyone that's fair enough. I think it's still kinda weird but whatever. But it's definitely disrespectful to selectively allow plus-ones, except in a case where there's a legitimate issue with the partner that makes them specifically unwanted as a guest. I also think the right thing for guests to do is cover their plate, so someone with a plus one should be giving enough cash as a gift that they're paying for the cost of their attendance.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's also important to not be my brother-in-law who invited some of his friends anyways to his brothers (my husband's) wedding. They just showed up. Real pain in the ass drunks too. Not cool.

by Allan09 1 week ago

I think it depends on the length of the relationship with your partner.. I'd be okay with my friend not inviting some girl I've been boyfriend-girlfriend with for a few months. Pictures are expensive and at only a few months you really don't know how long that person is going to be around. I wouldn't be okay if my friend didn't invite my wife of 5 years who I've been with for a decade now though.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's also ok to not go simply because "you don't feel like it". More people need to realize that I think

by Basic-Ad-6762 1 week ago

That's an interesting take but that's your opinion and it's just as valid as what I said.

by Basic-Ad-6762 1 week ago

What if you don't have a S.O. Or aren't in a serious relationship? If invited to a wedding is it expected by all invitees they should be allowed to bring whomever they want?

by Cute-Parfait494 1 week ago

I mean, if my close friend is having a wedding, my other friends will be there as well, I am not gonna be alone anyway, single or in relationship. In my country partners are always automatically invited. If you are single it's not common to have a plus one tho. But who cares, then there are always other single people of opposite sex at the wedding as well, so you can hookup, or at least dance with, have some chit chat etc.. Weddings are fun, you guys talk about them like kids talk about math classes, I dont get it

by osborne54 1 week ago

Yes. The ones I have gone to anyways. Iam not sure about today's rules though. This was a late'80's wedding.

by Allan09 1 week ago

I've brought friends as plus ones before. Nobody ever had an issue with it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's how a plus one is supposed to be but unfortunately some couples consider plus ones to be even the long term partners of their friends they're inviting.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Because realistically, most of the time the couple is only truly friends with one of them. The other one is liked enough to be added as a courtesy. Ive been to 4 weddings with my SO. If we were broken up, the other of us wouldnt have been invited to any of them.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Also, not really knowing anyone besides the person who invited me as a plus one is not my cup of tea. If there's a lot of partner dancing, I'm sure they could find a friend, family member, or just someone who's a good dancer to dance with; I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I got worried or jealous about my SO partner dancing (like waltz, swing, salsa, etc, not club dancing or grinding) with someone else.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It isn't like this for my husband and I. I guess having the same friends is weird?

by Allan09 1 week ago

So what? You want your friend to be comfortable at your wedding, you let them have a person there to be their social bedrock for an event that will likely be long and boring.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's ok but it's also kind of odd

by Anonymous 1 week ago

yup, that's me. I would rather go out on a date with my husband and eat what we want and do what we want than go to a wedding alone.

by angusbartell 1 week ago

My husband and I are the same. We really enjoy one another's company.

by Allan09 1 week ago

Spouse or a serious significant other should always be invited imo. Maybe not a significant other they just started dating, but a couple years and definitely married couples.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yes- it's fine to not do a plus one & it's also fine to decline invitation for this reason.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yeah, I won't go to a wedding if my wife can't come as well. I mean, I hate weddings anyway, so if there's no plus one then that's an easy out.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Imagine being unable to function without your spouse for a few hours

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I won't go to a wedding no matter what, they're a waste of time in my opinion. I'd rather be doing anything else, with anyone else, anywhere else, at any other time, than with them, at that time, on that day.

by cgusikowski 1 week ago

Yikes, you must love supporting your close family and friends, huh? /s Every wedding I've been to has been loads of fun. At least, they were once we got through the ceremony.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I think it's somewhat disrespectful for a married person to not get a plus one. However, I understand how expensive weddings are and people can afford what they can afford.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm gonna say it's tacky and disrespectful to not invite include the spouse or fiancƩ of an invited guest 99% of the time. (Obviously there may be personal exceptions) If you're single or even with someone but not incredibly committed yet, it's much more negotiable.

by claudiawitting 1 week ago

Yeah my standard for giving out +1 was "are you in a committed monogamous relationship". One of my husband's friends was asking for a +1 and when we asked her name for the guest board he said he wasn't sure yet. Turns out it was a Tinder date he was hoping would go well.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yep! That's a good example of when NOT to give a plus one. My best friend was a bridesmaid for her college roommate and did not get a plus one because she's single and has been for a while. She was kinda annoyed about it but realistically she wasn't gonna get a date in time. That plus one would have gone to me or her cousin.

by claudiawitting 1 week ago

Yeah I was pretty relaxed with who I gave them to, but "doesn't even know her last name" was a bridge too far haha

by Anonymous 1 week ago

PLUS ONES ARE NOT ALWAYS ROMANTIC PARTNERS. Every person I ever brought as my guest for a wedding have been friends. Most have been weddings of family members & my friends know my family but some have been to weddings where I don't know many people. It's not fun going to a wedding alone if you don't know many others attending

by Anonymous 1 week ago

True. I got invited as a plus one to a friend's sister's wedding because she had broken up with her bf between invites and the wedding. (I didn't end up going because Covid, but I would have under different circumstances)

by claudiawitting 1 week ago

I'm just saying it's tacky. It's not about having no independence. It's about your friends/family respecting your relationship.

by claudiawitting 1 week ago

Or maybe just MAYBE it's a small wedding and they're inviting people they're the closest to.

by Audie39 1 week ago

Okay, but then you still can invite your closest friend's or siblings spouses

by claudiawitting 1 week ago

Your wedding, your rules. That said, if I'm invited to a wedding and my fiancee isn't, I absolutely will not be attending. So like I said, your rules, but not whining or social media tirades when a lot of your friends don't show up.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yeah, even then that's a hard pass. I'm past the point in my life of enjoying social events where I don't know any or many people there. If I were single and I couldn't bring someone I know with me, absolutely not. I'm out. And no random plus ones is perfectly fine. Just absolutely no whining and hurt feelings if people you'd like to have there don't come.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That sucks for single people who don't know many people there. If you can't afford a wedding don't have a big one

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Exactly then ur awkwardly placed a table with strangers it can make the whole wedding experience feel lonely. I think thats why they created the whole plus 1 thing. Someone you maybe dance with, chat, enjoy the event. It should be a fun nice time for everyone including bride and groom and guests

by Anonymous 1 week ago

At the end of the day it's their wedding and it's an invite, not a demand. They can perfectly well decide who they want to attend and their invitees can decide on if they want to attend based on that. Idk why we're trying to come up with these unspoken rules, it's pretty simple. Invite who you want, but also know the attendance will depend on your rules too.

by ApartmentWorldly5922 1 week ago

Man that sucks. My bf and I have been together almost 5 years and regularly talk about getting engaged once we can afford to. I have friends who have been dating for 10+ years but don't pant to get married do to financial reasons. That isn't legit? But the couple that got engaged after knowing each other for a year would get to go? I would not attend a wedding if it was implied my 5 year long relationship wasn't serious or legit.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Say you know one of your best friends is getting married, and they need to have a small wedding because they're really financially strapped but can't bring themselves to just elope because they really want to share the moment with their closest loved ones. It's somewhere local with a short, small reception. And they don't know your fiancƩ very well or maybe have never met them. You're really going to snub your poor friends wedding just because your fiance can't go along with you?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It would be kind of distasteful in my opinion for the bride to not invite her best friend's husband. Most likely, they would know him pretty well. Personally, I don't know how long my friendship would last with my best friend if they didn't invite my husband. The only exception to the rule in my mind was at the beginning of the pandemic when only 10 people could be together.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Why is that an exception, but not being able to afford more than 10 people isn't?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Why would one of my best friends not know my partner?

by Next-Standard 1 week ago

My best friends would never do that. But even if they did, we're a package deal at this point. This is my partner for life, so if she's not welcome, I'm not coming.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Sounds like they can't afford to get married And how can they be best friends and not know my fiance? Nah fam spend it alone then. See ya

by Anonymous 1 week ago

that sucks man, poor people can't have a wedding to your standards? Like if you've been best friends since you were kids and they've only met your fiance a few times because that's how adult life is? That really sucks. My partner can spend a night on his own without me, I'd be there in a heartbeat.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That seems perfectly normal to me. I personally would never get offended over such an old-fashioned, expensive requirement that seems to indicate that couples must be joined at the hip. I relish a night alone personally, let your spouse go do something without you, it's fine. I would not get offended if one of my partners friends didn't invite me to their wedding, I barely know them. He talks to them several times a week online, they're all very close.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

As adults, sometimes very good friends from a different phase of life don't know your partner as well. Doesn't change your relationship with them at all.

by Vkemmer 1 week ago

Agreed, this mindset is ridiculous to me.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yes. If I am in a relationship I want them there! I would simply decline and not cry about it and the wedding couple should either. I feel like OP did this and people didn't show up and now their feeling like the guest are in the wrong for it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I don't think of a spouse or established significant other as a "plus 1." To me, that's giving the invited person the option to find and bring a date who would not otherwise be known to the couple. I agree that not being given the option of bringing a date shouldn't be that big of a deal, but I also assume there are plenty of other people at the wedding that you should know. Because honestly, if you don't personally know the couple well enough to already have plenty of friends/acquaintances at the wedding, then you should decline the invitation anyway. They don't care about your company, they're either appeasing someone else (most likely a parent of future in law) with a courtesy invite or they just want you there in the hopes you bring a gift. Don't be the rando, just don't go.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I don't disagree, but you can probably expect a lot of guests not to come, especially if they don't know anyone else attending the wedding.

by Significant_Crew_770 1 week ago

Everyone is acting like plus one is only spouses & partners. Many are just friends as the invited person will have more fun w that person there &/or they don't know many other people who will be there. No one wants to force small talk for hours or sit alone

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I think it depends on who the bride/groom chooses to give a plus one to on the invitation. At many weddings I've been to the couple will only give +1s to people in committed romantic partnerships. At others I've seen it where everyone gets a +1. It depends on what their budget is and what's listed on the invitation.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Being single at a wedding can, sometimes, be a bonus.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yep I just would not attend.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's often not just a few hours though. Seems like, when I was at the age where lots of my friends were getting married, they all wanted me to go somewhere else, requiring at least one overnight, so they could have their special day. That's already a pretty big ask for an event I don't care about (just to be clear, I attend because I care about at least one of the people getting married, but weddings themselves are ridiculous). Now you want me to travel alone, eat alone, sleep alone? The only enjoyment I'm getting here is being able to laugh with him about how dumb this is. So if he can't attend, I won't either.

by marvin35 1 week ago

Agreed -- it's especially tacky if it's the sort of big, flashy wedding where you know the couple can't actually afford that sort of event and are expecting to make up some of the cost in cash gifts. It doesn't make you look wealthy if you go tens of thousands into debt for a wedding, but can't afford to invite the partners of the people you're trying to show off for. It makes you look foolish and careless towards your guests.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Exactly. I understand the couple not wanting to pay extra for a person they don't really know, but you should expect that the person you do know may not want to spend hundreds of dollars to attend your beachfront/Mountain View/farm house weekend wedding without their S/O. Especially since it's not like you're really spending quality 1:1 time with the couple getting married anyways, so if you don't know many other folks at the wedding are you just supposed to hang around alone for a day or two? If I wanted to do that I'd pick my own vacation out, I wouldn't go to whatever weird, semi-remote country club location the couple picked.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I appreciate that it's your choice whether you attend or not but it sounds like you actually just don't enjoy weddings if the only enjoyment you're getting is laughing at how dumb it is? I would feel so betrayed if I paid for my friend to attend my wedding and then found out they were laughing at me with their partner. I'm single so have attended a lot of weddings as a solo guest and always enjoyed them hugely.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

sounds like you actually just don't enjoy weddings Yes, that is true. I can't believe people scrimp for years or go into debt for a single day of their lives like that. I would feel so betrayed if I paid for my friend to attend my wedding Travel, lodging, food, maybe a bridesmaid dress? That's always been on me. I would bet if we broke down the costs of their weddings per guest, if I had to travel I probably paid more than they did for me to attend.

by marvin35 1 week ago

It's also not close by anymore. One of our friends is getting married 3 hours away because it's the only venue she could find. It's far enough away that we would need to get a hotel.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I mean, if my wife wasn't invited I probably wouldn't remember what day your wedding was on anyway.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm not going to any wedding if I can't bring my wife or if she is not welcome.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's a bit odd if the person is married. But I agree that it's their choice. In the flip side, the bride and groom need to be ok that some people may choose to opt out if they cannot bring a plus one. Which is also fine.

by WhichPayment 1 week ago

Sure, but then they should have no issue if you decline the invitation for that reason. I have social anxiety at large gatherings and weddings are already stressful enough for me. I would simply not go without my spouse, regardless of whose wedding it is.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's okay to not invite spouses, but I wouldn't expect that person to show up which would render the invite pointless in the first place IMO.

by Impressive-Arm 1 week ago

I think it makes sense for no plus ones because if youve really been with your significant other for so long, they probably get invited anyway, no?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I like all my friend's partners but with the exception of maybe one, none of them would get invites if they had broken up. That doesnt even get into friends from college or people who have moved cities who I still keep in touch with but dont live in the same city so we dont know each other's partners very well.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Not always. I wasn't. I was engaged to my now husband, and had invited his best friend and her fiance to our house weekly for food and dnd for over 2 years at the time they got married. I wasn't invited. I was purposely left off the invite. So no. Not all spouses are invited.

by Mckenzieaddison 1 week ago

A plus one? Yes. This is a ridiculous concept anyway. Inviting half a couple? No.

by Potential_Branch6112 1 week ago

We just sent out wedding Invites and we kinda based it on length of relationship, and also if the person will know anybody there. To further explain, we invited the siginificant other if they've been together for a few years, not a girlfriend they met 2 months ago. But, my boxing coach (I have a very close relationship with) is single but he won't know anybody at my wedding so we gave him a plus one

by Lonely_Food1551 1 week ago

I've never actually heard of this but I definitely wouldn't protest or make a stink over it. I just wouldn't go.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Thank you this. It's an invitation not a demand, geezā€¦

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I mean its your wedding, do what you want, but Why invite someone and specifically not invite their spouse? My wife and I are tied at the hip, if one of us isnt invited then I am taking that as a personal offense tbh.

by john98 1 week ago

I feel like it depends if the married people know just you, or you and your spouse. Like if I invite someone from work, I won't know their spouse, so they won't necessarily be invited

by Anonymous 1 week ago

But you know they have a spouse. Its a formal occasion, why would you not do the polite thing and invite their life partner.

by john98 1 week ago

If you know that the invitee is in a relationship, then extending an invite only to one of the couple is a dumb move. I know I wouldn't go to a wedding if my spouse wasn't invited

by CurrentBlacksmith 1 week ago

I love my friends but don't really buy into the idea of marriage and a huge party associated with the act of getting married. I'm happy to attend weddings, but IMO it's super tacky not to invite a whole social "unit" to a wedding, especially if you are expecting that person to travel for your wedding. If I have to have a certain way of dressing, give you a gift, get a flight, hotel, transportation, etc to your wedding you should be able to cough up an extra $150 for the person keeping me company through all of that. If you cannot afford to do that then you need to cut down your guest list. I can maybe understand it to prevent people from bringing random hookups/casual short term relationships, but otherwise it's a crappy thing to do to your guests unless it's a super small wedding. For what it's worth, I've never had an issue with my own friends but I've heard of the "no ring, no bring" rule (ie you can only bring legal spouses) and it makes me laugh every time because my partner and I have been together longer than any couple we know from our generation of family/friends. And we've already seen 2 divorces of the couple getting married who had the "no ring, no bring" rule so make of that what you will.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

an invitation is just that, not a summons. If someone wants to be mad that I declined an invitation to their wedding because my SO wasn't invited then that is on them and doesn't affect me any. Social pressure be damned...who cares?

by angusbartell 1 week ago

Pretty much this! People expect you to go and are upset if you don't. People might not be comfortable going alone, I know I personally wouldn't go to a wedding solo... might just end up sick that day. I am also not married, but have been with my partner for over 20 years. I would never attend something she wasn't welcome at!!

by Baumbachirwin 1 week ago

What kind of people do you keep in your life who get mad at you for not coming to a wedding?? Like??

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No yeah I get that but at a certain point people should let the trash take itself out.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

The only times I haven't attended a wedding my wife was a wedding back home (we moved across country), she was part of the bridal party and we had kids at home. I opted not to go but was politely invited.

by TraditionalTill7888 1 week ago

I agree. Why do you have to take a date or a friend, especially if you know other people. Leave space open for more friends of the couple or save them money on dinner. I'm not even getting married but I wouldn't ask for a plus one unless it were a buffet and I needed a driver (night blindness . I'd graciously accept a no.

by Fuzzy_Letterhead_274 1 week ago

Not everyone can afford a massive wedding. As such, it's absolutely fine for wedding lists to take a hit, especially if you're inviting old friends and you've never met their partners.

by Future_Rock 1 week ago

It's the table planning. It's a lot more complex than people think. Oh you invite John from work then you also need to invite Gillian, Stephen Rebcca, Mary and Craig. So you invite 1 then that's actually 6. But then there's +1s so that's not 6 that's 12. Do you invite that 2nd cousin? You do and that's all 8 second cousins. And their +1s. But now after that you're 12 over your venue limit. So now you have to cut people. Do you cut the +1s? That brings you a bit under and you can squeeze in a couple more. Do you? Can you? +1s are an easy one to cut out. People get offended like they hate the wife but realistically that whole "section" of people didn't get +1s. My groups of friends. I told them no +1s if you don't currently have a girlfriend. 2 of them got girlfriends between invites and the big day then luckily due to people pulling out we managed to move things about and get them in. But it doesn't always work out that way.

by wardvern 1 week ago

Unless you're having a super small wedding, if you cannot afford to allow a person to bring their spouse of significant other than you shouldn't invite them to the wedding at all. It's very tacky. People (especially distant coworkers, friends, or family relations) can usually understand if you cannot afford to invite everyone and their mum to a wedding because it's an expensive event. For those you do invite though, they should have the option to bring a spouse or partner.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So you brought up money, I didn't. Venues have limits and you can't go over them. Cost of a venue can be huge despite small numbers allowed in the venue. You could tell them to come anyway but the staff will notice when setting up the tables. They won't get a seat or a meal at dinner.

by wardvern 1 week ago

Who wants to go to a wedding without a date? Even if you would know everyone there? And one half of a couple is supposed to go and celebrate love while their SO stays home? I would just decline and send them a nice card.

by angusbartell 1 week ago

They can't afford it šŸ¤£ then don't have a traditional wedding

by Anonymous 1 week ago

?? You never go to birthday parties or something without your partner? Parties (like weddings) can be great fun going alone imo. I mean, there are probably also singles invited who are also anyway?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This is a very valid response.

by candacehettinge 1 week ago

Getting married in October only Married or long term couples get a plus one. My friend George isn't bringing his flavor of the month to my wedding.

by Jaclyn03 1 week ago

If the couple is married, it's really weird to invite someone to a wedding and tell them they can't bring their spouse. Weddings are a romantic event.

by aliciadenesik 1 week ago

People forget that being a wedding guest can be very expensive. Expecting someone to take on that cost alone is asking a lot. At least a plus one can help with finances. Sorry, I can't afford to go to your wedding alone.

by devinlangosh 1 week ago

THE ENTIRE POINT OF A WEDDING IS SOCIAL. It's a big show for nothing except as a social event. if you can't do it right then don't do it or do something cheaper

by Anonymous 1 week ago

they should pay for the couples they can afford then. I had 70 guests at my wedding and it cost less than 5k. Every person I invited that had an SO, no matter how long they were together for, were invited together. We had to make choices a cuts to our guest list according to out budget, but that doesn't mean you have to split up couples to do so. People choose how much they spend on their wedding. A big part of throwing a wedding is also being a good host.

by angusbartell 1 week ago

those people are insecure

by Anonymous 1 week ago

what is a plus one?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Agreed. I 've been invited to weddings before, just me, when I had an SO. no biggie. I've also been invited with a plus one AND gone alone, because my So was unable to attend.

by otisprohaska 1 week ago

Yes- it's fine to not do a plus one & it's also fine to decline invitation for this reason. We all have choices

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Who did you not invite?

by New_Permission 1 week ago

If I don't get a plus one to the wedding I'm bringing one anyway. Never been kicked out or seen someone kicked out over it.

by Full-March 1 week ago

My parents did not invite one of my momā€˜s friends' boyfriend, because they didn't like him. Too bad she ended up marrying him, have kids with him, and they had to see him for decades to come.

by New_Permission 1 week ago

I think it's kinda tacky to expect me to give up pretty much my whole weekend if I have to travel, and not even letting me bring someone that I actually know

by josie09 1 week ago

...unless you're the bride/groom.

by Flatleymichel 1 week ago

I would agree - if you don't really want the person there. If you do, you give them a person that gives them social interaction and comfort.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Better for boning bridesmaids!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's not about going without your SO for a few hours, most people do it every day when they go to work for example. If it's a long term partner, it's disrespectful to purposefully leave them out when inviting someone, you consider a close enough friend, to your wedding. If you don't know if they have a SO then telling them reserved them one seat is also rude as other people will be there with dates or partners, give them the opportunity to do that too or let them decide if they want to meet someone there. The ones getting married can do whatever they want, but I wouldn't go to a wedding if I was only invited and my wife was left out. And vice versa I wouldn't expect my wife to go to a wedding if I intentionally wasn't invited.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

There's nothing wrong with not accepting the invitation if there's no plus one either.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'll take it a bit further. If there's any reason you think I may not, as the bride or groom, appreciate your plus oneā€¦. Approve it. I have a list of people who can't attend my funeral and you better not bring someone to my wedding I wouldn't buy a coffee for.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I would find it weird if a +1 wasn't allowed but each their own. Now I can see if the bride/groom specifically ask you not to let so and so be the +1 because they can't handle themselves or whatever but to not have a +1 I think is weird for a wedding. Birthday parties, other events, a funeral haha I wouldn't expect a +1 but a wedding is that one exception I feel.

by Murky_Trifle 1 week ago

Dude I was best man at a wedding and I was single af. Who cares

by Jedidiah87 1 week ago

My parents invited our favorite waitress from a restaurant we frequented. She came too. My parents also only had maybe 75 guests altogether. For me though, I wouldn't invite someone I don't know. My venue may only allow X amount of people. Should My besties not show because their partners can't come so I can have all my favorite people there? I don't know your spouse of 2 weeks. Which means I wouldn't trust them around some of the smaller family members. Male or female. One of my aunts told her sil, her husband could come, if she paid the extra $150 his plate would cost, plus the cost of amending the contract to allow another person at the venue. She got big mad, but she shut up about it. Basically different strokes and all that. Unless you're footing the bill, keep your opinion to yourself and happy wishes to the couple.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

A significant other is not a plus one. It's fine to not give a single person a plus one most of the time, but only inviting one half of a social unit is tacky and rude.

by Nice_Acanthaceae7837 1 week ago

My wife was 8 and a half months pregnant when she got an invitation without a plus one, she did not want to go alone, we eventually got a plus one added.

by Crazy_Captain 1 week ago

If you forget my husband, I'll easily forget your wedding.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's fine, as long as the couple doesn't complain when people decline the invitation. Personally, I think if you can't afford or plan a wedding that your guests will enjoy, maybe just elope.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

If I'm getting dressed up and going out for a social gathering and celebration for someone's wedding, I would enjoy it 10xs more with a dateā€¦.so if I don't receive a plus one, then they may as well save their money on an invitation and stamp for me

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I think it's only wrong if you're actively in a relationship and your partner isn't invited. That's just rude and disrespectful, especially if you're cohabitating or long term. But yeah, not getting a +1 when you're not in a relationship shouldn't be a big deal. Who knows, maybe you'll meet someone at the wedding and hit it off.

by rodriguezestel 1 week ago

If it is not a close friend or family and they are not in a real relationship or a serious relationship, nothing is wrong with inviting only the person you know. The cost of each person varies, but I imagine if youre one of those people that go all out on unnecessary spending for a wedding, you may try and save $75-$200 by eliminating guests that would only be there to keep your invitee company.

by Pitiful_Cucumber_315 1 week ago

That's exactly what I do. Attending a wedding stag really sucks.

by Jaden59 1 week ago

This is the truth.

by Allan09 1 week ago

Wait till you tell them there's no kids allowedā€¦

by deangelooconner 1 week ago

It's very common here to invite colleagues, team mates or neighbours to a wedding. They never get a plus one. And I never heard anyone complain they couldn't bring a plus one. I only ever read it from Americans. It's very very weird.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ive been to around 10 weddings and all but one were not in the city I live in. I went to that one solo and it was totally fine. But for the other ones that require a long drive/flight and a hotel, its just not worth the hassle and expense if Im going alone.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'd agree with that. I've never traveled for a wedding though. I was a last minute invite to this wedding because I had only recently moved back to town.

by schaeferhardy 1 week ago

Im jealous, Id love for my friends to get married in our city, just never seems to happen. If I refused to travel Id miss just about all my friends' weddings.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I Mean that is okay when people are will to socialize outside of the people they know. But I've been to multiple weddings where people don't socialize with anyone they don't know in passing.

by Puzzleheaded-Wolf 1 week ago

Who the hell wants to go? It is always like the Groundhog movie. Just update the same fads you saw the last 2 years, and don't forget the cute Boomer dance routine that the cool kids love! Geeeshhhh

by Anonymous 1 week ago

A wedding meant to celebrate the bride and groom. It isn't a dating venue. Of course there is nothing wrong with not giving everyone a plus one. Now, there are exceptions, such as when one person gets one, yet another in very similar situation does not. But as a rule, every invitation need not include a plus one. That's just nonsense.

by Little_Way 1 week ago

Conversely, if we're friends and you invite me but my wife is not invited, I will not attend. And if we are family and my wife and kids aren't invited, the same applies. When it comes to weddings those are by personal minimum requirements. If that means I'm not invited, so be it.

by dietrichmelody 1 week ago