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It's rude when people say "I can't imagine going through that", amirite?
by Relative-Figure2 weeks ago
I think the intention is to say "I'm not going to pretend I know what that feels like"
by Anonymous2 weeks ago
It's literally the least selfish thing you can say. It's telling someone that whatever reaction you have is valid. What is it that you are seeking from people to say in situations like this, where you just have to experience it to really understand? Wouldn't all you want is a listening ear from someone who isn't going to judge you? Which like I said, telling someone that they have no idea what they would do is validating that however, you feel or react is valid…..
by Anonymous2 weeks ago
I think they are just trying to show empathy. Like I have no idea what you are going through but I'm so sorry. I'm not going to pretend like I understand but I care. Weird thing to get upset about.
by Major-Mix-73022 weeks ago
People tend to feel worse when you falsely say you DO know what they are going through. I accidentally did that once, I was talking to someone who was going through a rough time with a medical condition, and I said "I get how you feel." Literally the first thing she said after that was "Do you?" I acknowledged that no, I didn't really know what it felt like as I had not gone through the stuff she was going through. By saying you can't imagine what they are going through, you express your sympathies for their trying situation while not faking empathy for a situation you can't empathize with because, once again, you haven't actually gone through it.
by Anonymous2 weeks ago
Really? I can't imagine you feeling that way. Strange.
by RangerPuzzled93002 weeks ago
I don't say anything because nothing can make it better. I just say "that sucks"
by Anonymous2 weeks ago
chaotic evil
by Relative-Figure2 weeks ago
This is why I usually respond with "cool story bro"
by jeremy272 weeks ago
No. This is way better than responing with a sob story of yourself or act all sage like like you know exactly whst they're going through. This way you keep the focus on the person telling what als them instead of shifting it onto yourself.
by Anonymous2 weeks ago
I mean, at least its not as bad as I don't care.
by Interesting_Sand2 weeks ago
So can I ask what you'd like me to say in these situations? but it really comes off and selfish and unsupportive. Can you explain why you think that?
by Anonymous2 weeks ago
"I can't imagine how you feel" is an empathetic way of opening the door to let someone talk. It's a gentle way of saying "I can't relate to you but I'm hear to listen and comfort if that is what you need." It most certainly doesn't come off to rude to me, it's not like they're trying to make you a freak show. They're just trying to not downplay what happened while also offering support.
by Rueckereuna2 weeks ago
You are the only person I have ever seen who's felt this way about this issue. So, I can't imagine what it's like to feel that way.
by Anonymous2 weeks ago
I couldn't imagine how extremely disrespectful that could be. Except that I know what they mean, and it's not what you think it is.
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