Due to societal pressure Many people reach their late 20s-early 30s and rush to marry the first decent person they can find. amirite?

Yeah, because the people who got married really young and don't have issues aren't talking about all the issues they don't have. I got married when I was 20 and we've been married for 15 years. It's been a rollercoaster but things are good between us and always have been. Sometimes, it's just not that complicated.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Rushing in can bring problems but the ones that are good make the best possible scenario for a happy marriage/life.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

So true. Where I live most people don't even get married any more.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Buddy of mine is going through divorce, he didn't expect that it would cost that much as it does. Not only child support but all the hassles before that. I understand that young people are sceptical of marriage. My folks said wait at least 5 to 7 years, then you'll know if you are "made for each orher"

by Anonymous 1 year ago

My parents never wanted to marry and they honestly don't know who owns what when I ask them. I've asked them to make an actual will for when they die, otherwise the money automatically goes to myself and my brother rather than to my surviving parent.

by mariane49 1 year ago

Sweet spot for me. Met late 20s, part of the same friend group for 2 years and then got together, moved in straight away, lived together for 6 years before getting married. Married 6 years this year. Couldn't be happier.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

bla bla nla Hey hey, oh, good bye!

by Antique-Section 1 year ago

There are a lot of people that choose bad partners and are also bad partners themselves. The people that are in good, healthy relationships are off the market permanently. The older you get as a single person, the less compatible people are out there for you, in a lot of cases. A lot of people that get divorced never admit their contributions to failed relationships, so they just take their dysfunctional behavior, now wrapped in trauma caused by a divorce, learn nothing and move into another relationship, then expect it to be different, while behaving the same way.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I also feel like if you don't go through and deal with all the trauma and issues with the marriage you'll end up meeting the same person as your spouse in a different body and mistake that for a connection. When the advice is given to stay single after a divorce it's real and true- people need to work on themselves even if the divorce wasn't their "fault " per say

by Comfortable-Gap8470 1 year ago

My dad did this exact thing. He and mum got divorced - he turned around and got with a woman who's exactly like mum except in one key aspect (she works, my mum stayed home). But other than that - it's exactly the same and he's miserable. I have so little sympathy at this point 😂

by Anonymous 1 year ago

And I'm sure he probably doesn't want to go through her another divorce! We will just meet carbon copies of our exes until we figure out WHY we choose those people. I got out of my marriage and met someone and he ended up being - you guessed it- the same as my husband in a different body. So, I've taken two years now to heal and figure things out and I'm just getting back into dating. Crazy too, I met someone opposite of my husband which is just what I needed! First man I've ever been with that wasn't the same as the others! I feel bad for your dad and the millions of other people in those kind of relationships/marriages. People stay far too longer than they should a lot of the time!

by Comfortable-Gap8470 1 year ago

Yes! You did the work! That's why you're with the opposite! Good on you! May I ask- how long were you with the previous fiancé? Did you have a house together or anything intertwined?

by Comfortable-Gap8470 1 year ago

11ish years, house & kid. The split wasn't actually too bad. We got together young but he was still the final result in a line of bad partners between 18 & 23. Left when I was 35. I'd already been in therapy for about 5 years, so I had a good person in place to help me unpack it all.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm glad you're in a different pattern with a different person! We all deserve that happiness and a lot of people "fake it". Not to mention there's someone out there better matched for them that they are passing by staying in the unhealthy and unhappy relationship because you feel trapped etc there's so many factors

by Comfortable-Gap8470 1 year ago

Agree. Twice divorced and creeping up on 50 now. Im done. Even dating. No thanks. I wont take all the blame because I married some broken women but I too was/am broken and am difficult to live with. Never again. 100% celebate and single forever now. It isnt worth the hassle.

by rosaliaschmitt 1 year ago

Baby fever is no joke, I'm in no place to have a baby, but just try to tell that to my hormones. It can be such a strong pull I see how some people can't resist it

by Interesting_Spare 1 year ago

Man, baby fever is a bane. Especially in this kind of economic climate when the odds are stacked against you - financially, psychologically etc. It is rough.

by Chemical-Nose 1 year ago

Nah. Babies are good. Have them. People had kids at all eras. What a downer

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's definitely one of the easiest times to have babies in history. It doesn't mean that it's super easy, but it's definitely one of the best times.

by ZealousidealSweet625 1 year ago

Exactly and we should be having more

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Who's "we"? Because if you're a man it's really easy to say without having to experience pregnancy and birth. I've had 3 healthy pregnancies that led to healthy children. But because of this I don't ever suggest anyone have kids if they don't want them. They are work, they are human beings, they cost money, time, and they do come at a physical cost.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If you don't have them, some dumb f%#+s in a third world cesspool will have eight and then corporate-sponsored politicians will be telling you to import them (for cheap labor) or you are a racist. HAVE KIDS!!!

by Osinskichadrick 1 year ago

That is the worst reason to have kids. If you feel so strongly about raising good kids then go adopt, foster, or be involved in programs that help kids that are already here.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Men are equal parts of the human race and yes WE should have way more kids. Happy to help, just hit me up 🤙

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yo…you'll be hit with child support. And it's steep!!

by tina55 1 year ago

Lmao. Sure why not. More kids in the world are a good thing and money is worth that happening. Nick Cannon is going it right

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This. You do actually have a limited window as a woman to get married if you want kids. Sorry but that's life. Unless you want no kids in which case sure you can take your time but many men do want kids so you're filtering them out and aging which further filters out options 🤷

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Umm most people from the western world alive today got married for feelings(most call it love) not logic—like dowry or familial alliances…wtf are you on

by drakeharber 1 year ago

It's obviously not comparable but I don't think most dudes really want to be that guy who didn't have kids til later either, showing up to school events being mistaken for the grandpa. For the most part I think men who want kids want to have them around the same age women need to have them.

by Erikaohara 1 year ago

It's 100% different for women. 23 is my cutoff and I'm in my 30s

by lemuelwillms 1 year ago

Yeah and financially isn't even the worst. Emotionally, mentally and it's just so much time gone.

by Kulasdemario 1 year ago

I can confirm…. Someone who meant the world to me settled for the first person that came along their path almost right after our separation… They were pushing 30 and faced pressure from their environment to get married, have children etc… I'm beyond bummed and heartbroken, yet more so confused as to how do these things happen so rushed, in a blink of an eye … How can people do it?

by Ok-Actuator9905 1 year ago

Yep. Happened to me. Wish I could un do it

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If they were marrying "decent" people, the divorce rates wouldn't be as astronomical as they are. A large amount of the population enter into a life-changing contract with anything that has a pulse.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Or they have a kid with crappy partners. I don't even necessarily mean abusive or mean, but lazy, immature or petty. It's a shame getting pregnant is so easy, plenty of people miss out on maturing because they become a parent too young

by Anonymous 1 year ago

The majority of divorcees have been divorced multiple times

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Are divorce rates falling as a proportion of the population or in terms of raw numbers? Since fewer people are getting married, there will definitely be fewer divorces in terms of the latter.

by Secure-Shopping 1 year ago

Percentage of marriages ending in divorce. Yes people being pickier about marriage and getting married less helps that greatly.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's proportional to the amount of people that get married, so they're truly going down.

by ZealousidealSweet625 1 year ago

Yes this but also I'd guess that societal pressure to marry now is FAR less than it has been in the past so I'm not sure where OP is coming from. I'd also question whether people are getting married any faster now than they have in the past (not anecdotally but statistically).

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If they were marrying "decent" people, the divorce rates wouldn't be as astronomical as they are. Because they aren't. Getting married later in life is generally a better recipe for success since you don't change as much from 30->40 as say 21->31. According to 2021 Office of National Statistics data (the latest available), millennials' unions are performing better at the 10-year mark then their predecessors' – only 18.3% have divorced after a decade of marriage versus 23% of Gen Xers and 22% of baby boomers.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Percentages don't work that way. 48% of men plus 48% of women don't add up to 98% of the population. Assuming there an equal number of men and women alive, it would simply add up to 48% of the population. Is it possible that 48% of the population isn't decent? You bet it is.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Divorce rates won't exactly show how all marriage are until boomers/gen x aren't included anymore, they make up the majority of divorce rates (obvious reasons, no fault being enacted in their time and also worse societal pressure to get married). Millennials and elder gen z have the lowest compared. The rates also include people who have been divorced multiple times, since getting divorced once raises your chances of it happening again. First time marriages on average only have about a 20% divorce rate in general, though 48-50% rate sounds scary, but it's very misleading. If you look at all the variables individually that make it up, it's not actually as bad as people think

by Used-Definition 1 year ago

I noticed the opposite in my circle. They break up with partners at the sign of the first ick. Which is a good thing, don't tolerate things you don't believe they can change or know they won't change. My husband and I dated for 5 years before getting married. I wanted to know for sure, live together, have some major negative moments and see how we handle it together.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Wearing a seatbelt is "ick?" Interesting. Nobody rides in my car without one.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Wearing seatbelts is a ick? Is that sarcasm?

by ZealousidealSweet625 1 year ago

Probably yes and no. Many men, just like women, have initial bad taste or inexperience, or lack of options that drives them to seek out or settle for the exciting, risk taking types. I mean, it's also a measure of degrees. Do you wear a helmet every time you ride a bike? It's essentially the same thing. Now imagine how you'd feel if your date wore it or enforced it with you? To you the helmet might seem like being too cautious but there are sadly many men and women, especially younger, that view seatbelts that way.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

My grandmother died at 21 years old because she wasn't wearing a seatbelt, her head hit the car's door and she died on impact. Because of that I'm very strict with everything that involves vehicles and head's safety. Do you mean bike as motorcycle or a bicycle?

by ZealousidealSweet625 1 year ago

And for you that is the reason but there are sadly women, especially young women, that are very much the "don't care" or even the "dude's a wuss for wearing it or making me wear it". Do you mean bike as motorcycle or a bicycle? Doesn't matter. And that kind of illustrates the point. By asking it's a high probability you feel that if course wearing one on a motorcycle is a logical thing. But brain damage and harm is not that much reduced on a bicycle without a helmet. The helmet is the analog for a seatbelt for either. You seeing a difference is just like some of the risk taking "ick, a seatbelt" people. Some of them it's because it's "being a wuss". No judgement or anything here just trying to give you a perspective that there are people who don't think like either of us and legitimately have said "seatbelts give me the ick".

by Anonymous 1 year ago

then you have smarter friends than I have

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's a law to wear a seatbelt. You can get a ticket if you are caught not wearing one.

by Wonderful_Sign 1 year ago

bro what?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You also have to understand that relationships also move faster as you get older. Some of that is pressure/societal norms/hormones, but also experience. People in their late 20s-30s are more likely to already know what they are looking for in a partner and can discern quickly whether someone is right for them or not.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's called desperation

by BeneficialSetting 1 year ago

Can you tell when they're in a rush as opposed to actually funding the right one? We were engaged 9 months after we started dating, married 11 months after that. Going on 28 years together now. 6 months from meet to marry does seem fast. We would have married in a year if we hadn't been in college.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I feel it's more aging-pressure than anything.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Even earlier than that in my experience. I know so many people that married at 20-23 and they're all divorced within a couple of years. High school sweethearts can absolutely work out, but 9 times out of 10 you shouldn't marry the first/only person you've ever been in a serious relationship with.

by Norbertopfeffer 1 year ago

Same. Totally agree. To be fair with dating experience you just know what you are looking for and how to be in a relationship. You don't need to make the same mistakes again. You can move faster into marriage/children. It's not reckless it's just experience.

by Icy-Mongoose 1 year ago

My unpopular opinion of a similar vein is that marrying someone after 6months to a year is stupid no matter how old you are and having arbitrary markers for when you should be engaged or married is extremely naive.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

The first opinion is stupid, the second one is definitely right.

by ZealousidealSweet625 1 year ago

It's based on the fact you cannot get to know someone properly within that timeframe, the honeymoon period is approximately 2 and a half years. I think you should live with someone for at least 2 years before you marry them.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It is not a fact though. The honey moon is on average between 6 months and 2 years, could be longer or shorter depending on the person. People are different and therefore timelines also end up being very different. I definitely wouldn't say that everyone can successfully get to know a person in that period of time and that getting married in less than a year is a good idea for everyone; but it's not universal, it really depends on the person.

by ZealousidealSweet625 1 year ago

a lot of assumptions here. if you dig a bit deeper into divorce statistics you may find they aren't as high as you think they are and that there are a lot of variables at play. first time marriages that start in late 20s-early 30s actually have the highest chance of success. it's not purely societal pressure... this is a time in many peoples lives where a successful, committed, long term relationship becomes a realistic and desirable goal.

by LoudVegetable 1 year ago

Marriage is over rated. I never sought it out or made a goal for it. It naturally happened but it's over anyways.

by Born-Grab 1 year ago

Life isn't all roses , that's all. Not everyone wants marriage. I feel you can have a serious long term relationship but don't have to be married.

by Born-Grab 1 year ago

No, but the ceremony and symbolism is important for many people. The legal aspect can also be pretty important. I guess if you don't share property, have kids, and neither want to marry then there's no reason

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You'd love her the same if you weren't married.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Sure, but it's part symbolic, part legal. I don't particularly care about rings and ceremonies, but my wife does. It's also nice to tell the world you've found the one. In the legal side it's important. I wouldn't have been able to adopt my stepson for example

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I agree. And I certainly wouldn't have had children or bought a house with my husband if we weren't married.

by Jglover 1 year ago

Yeah of course but I don't think any of that is "marriage" it's just partnership in general. I get the legal aspect for you personally, but that's not the case for everyone. My partner and I have been together for over 20 years, have a mortgage, 3 kids etc. I personally don't think the marriage part matters outside of social pressure. Most of the people I know aren't married.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I guess it works for them then. If you don't mind me asking why didn't you and yours get married? If you've been together that long, share that much property, and have kids it seems contrarian to not be married. I don't mean that in a negative way, so hopefully it doesn't come across like that

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's not really the norm in my area of the UK any more. People do still get married but it's not expected or anything and nobody is religious. Most of my friends aren't married. It's common here.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah there is. I don't know the details but there's not much difference in terms.of parental responsibility and possessions etc. I believe there are laws that cover these things already.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I suspect it's more hormones than societal pressure.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I might have agreed with you if it was the 1950s but what percentage of the population currently waits to be married to satisfy hormonal urges?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Some people rush into it because of societal pressure. But people in their 30's also generally have a much better idea of what they are looking for (and what traits to avoid), better skills for navigating relationships, and are more ready to settle down. Thus, relationships tend to move faster for them. It's wrong to assume their relationship will fail based on that alone.

by Jazzlike-Contact 1 year ago

People who marry later when they are established tend to have more successful marriages. Also, by 30 you (hopefully) have matured in many ways, be it financially, mentally, and emotionally. People at this age are more ready to make the commitment to marry and date with that in mind. Common goals are important and it's more likely your prospective partner will be ready to settle down sooner than later at age 30 vs age 25.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I did this 25 years ago. However, I am not yet 50 and my two children are independent, so there's some level of trade-off. I didn't stay married to their father… But I don't think I'd have stayed married to anyone I'd married at that age (26)

by Global-Jeweler2004 1 year ago

Yep. I HATE when people give those "time to settle down" jabs, or "sound of little feet" thing. Leave people alone. Some people enjoy serial monogamy, just having bf/gf/partners, or just being single and playing the field. Married people with kids often have this "This is what we are doing and everyone else should too" thing going on. "Look at us, we're HAPPILY MARRIED!!" Yeah, maybe you are. Maybe you are not. And I know a lot of happily unmarried people including myself. If I had another adult in this house saying how things should be done because my way is wrong, I would pull my face off and eat it with fava beans and a nice chianti.

by Rlind 1 year ago

It's an aging thing. When you get to your thirties your dating pool shrinks and if you don't decide quickly you're stuck dating undateable people

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Almost Every guy I know that got married in their mid-20's ended up either broke, divorced, battling alcoholism, in an unhappy marriage etc. The guys who stayed married were the ones who waited to their mid 30's or early 40's.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

They disappear quickly after 30 so roll the bones.

by Wpurdy 1 year ago

i'm 27 and i'm not even trying to get married or date

by ywhite 1 year ago

i feel broken cuz i never feel this and im 33

by RegularSignificant58 1 year ago

One day a young friend of Plato approached him and asked him, dear Plato, I love my girlfriend, do you think I should marry her? And Plato told him: Dear friend, if you marry her you will regret it, but if you don't marry her you will regret it too, so better marry her...

by Anonymous 1 year ago

The people who do this are the people who divorce lawyers depend on in order to survive.

by Nathaniel34 1 year ago

And then having a kid right before the father packs up and leaves.

by Majestic-Milk 1 year ago

It's not only social pressure, there is also the wish/fantasy of growing old together, I know people in overdeveloped nations have a higher life expectancy, but for most of the world 40 is already old, so our only chance of "growing old together" is before our late 30s.

by ldickens 1 year ago

I got married at 20 lol

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Try early 20s lol

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I don't even see a purpose for marriage, think the whole thing is weird. I do agree social pressures make a lot of people do stupid things.

by Express_Swimmer 1 year ago

That's completely not true, social pressure was way higher in the past. Especially for women who did not have a lot of means to prolong their appearance and technically couldn't live a normal life without a husband.

by Individual_Ebb_6096 1 year ago

I've noticed that many are actively seeking a spouse, rather than waiting to meet someone naturally and then consider marriage only if/when they decide they've met the one. For far too many people, marriage is the goal. I believe that is unlikely to result in the best outcome in many situations.

by Sure_Traffic8273 1 year ago

I would have been married by 20 if I had found someone decent. 29 still no luck. Seems totally plausible for someone to go their whole life without meeting someone spectacular. Absolutely nothing wrong with decent.

by aleneledner 1 year ago

Because people are obsessed with being single in their 20s to have the most fun. There are some people who enjoy being single, but there are a lot more people letting good relationship partners past them by to prioritize their 20s FOMO. I'm not saying everyone can find a good partner immediately, but that they will reject said person to 'keep having fun', not that they can't be in a relationship. The worst part is when you hear said people complain that the person they rejected who was perfect, moved on with their life and didn't wait for them. This happens with men and women.

by Brief_Milk 1 year ago

Biological pressure as well as social pressure; if you're a single woman in your early thirties who wants children, you know that for every morning you wake up single you're probably a couple of years away from motherhood (given time taken to meet the right person; get to that point in the relationship; and successfully complete a pregnancy with ever diminishing likelihood) ... There's only so many mornings like that you can hold on hope but that's not society that's rushing you.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You misspelled rich

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It'd help if people looked for decent people earlier on lol but toxicity attracts

by Cartwrightverli 1 year ago

I got married in less than a year at 23 years old. There are people that do it at 18, 25, 35, 45… you're assuming that they're doing it because of societal pressure (which is a possibility) but how can you know for sure?

by ZealousidealSweet625 1 year ago

I'm a 34 year old guy and I don't feel that way

by Tasty_Ad 1 year ago

All marriage, everywhere. The very concept itself is a social norm.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

North America always puts such pressure on going fast fast fast in life First kisses, dating, marriage, losing virginity, why are teens pressured into becoming adult so quickly in those ways??

by Alvahdonnelly 1 year ago

Better than late teens early 20s

by Odd_Discipline 1 year ago

I agree, however I draw a different conclusion I don't think people put enough effort/emphasis on looking for the right dating partner in their early 20s. Selecting the right spouse can be the single most significant thing you do in life. We've rightly moved away from the old days of "get married at all costs," but we've moved too far into the direction of "don't worry about marriage at all." The reality is that your potential matches are getting snatched up throughout your 20s, limiting your dating pool as you age. Furthermore, denying yourself a financial partnership, which is what a good marriage is, in your 20s can have severe financial ramifications later. Also, it is WAY better to be single than to be married to the wrong person. Dating seriously early in life can let you break off relationships that aren't working out, while avoiding the time pressure that comes from waiting until later in life.

by Lavernefahey 1 year ago

I did this. separated after a year and a half; divorced by 2 1/2 years.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's true

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Are you a time traveler from the 1960s? Most people aren't married by age 30. Divorce rates are plummeting -- didn't you get the memo that Millennials are killing divorce?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah and as a 44yo never-married man I wish I would have married any of the decent people I dated in my 20s. Decent and stable looks very, very good in the rearview mirror, and the benefits of a partner in life are massive if you're on the same page about big-picture things.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I married the first decent person I found. Got married at 31. Found her at 18, but we waited. Two kids now, been together 20 years. Definitely decent, at minimum. Maybe slightly better. Or a lot. Probably very a lot.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I have no interest in marriage and feel no pressure to do so.

by Brilliant_Prior13 1 year ago

Getting older is not a 'societal pressure'. Its reallity

by Anonymous 1 year ago

The most important financial decision you'll make is who you marry - Warren Buffet

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Them eggs ain't good forever

by boyeralayna 1 year ago

I feel like most people should just be paired off at age 18 so we can stfu about how bad dating is and how hard it is living alone.

by treycormier 1 year ago

I will counter with this: what's so wrong with marrying a decent person? Life is hell.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's an interesting question whether divorce rates are higher among people who more highly value societal norms vs. those who don't

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Not me. I've turned down two proposals. I'm too picky, I'm not gonna marry someone who's not right for me.

by Wonderful_Newt 1 year ago

I read something once that said when men are ready to marry they marry the person they are currently in a relationship with, not the right person. This is why a guy can be dating a woman for years and not marry her but then break up and marry a different girl within 6 months. It wasn't the girl, it was him being ready. Not sure if this is true.

by TestZealousideal 1 year ago

You don't rush to get married in your late 20s or early 30s, that's not rushed. What is rushed is getting married in your teens or early 20s.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think this more so applies to the early 20-somethings fresh out of high school. I'm not dating to have sex, I'm dating to marry lol. And unless you're really close, you really never know what's going on in people's personal lives: someone who you've only seen for 6 months might someone your peer has known for much longer. Why be so critical of other peoples dating standards? What is more ideal?

by Fit_Air5244 1 year ago

We have been together three years and counting. We aren't married yet but probably soon

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Marriage is a very serious life decision with bad consequences if it doesn't work out. Rushing into marriage because of societal pressure seems incredibly reckless. Absolutely positively this. Definitely part of the reason for high divorce rates

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This is an odd assumption to make off of zero data other than "I've noticed my peers are getting married so I decided why"

by Anonymous 1 year ago

divorce rates in my country (US) are the lowest they've been since the 1950s

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Musical chairs

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I didn't see many "rushing" to marry around here. It was common in the past, but today so many are not getting married early, or at all. A huge number remain single. That wasn't the case in the past.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Look man I'm from utah, I know people who got engaged to someone the same month they met them.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

At BYU peole get engaged in weeks at 20.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Traditionalist has nothing to do with "love" like you're implying by waiting. Tradition is to stay together for the nuclear family, sometimes in spite of live. Again, no clue why liberals get married. If you have non religious liberal friends, ask they're reasoning

by Anonymous 1 year ago

they get bored. All the friends u have in your 20s start having families and dont have time to be young and turnt anymore. So they decide its time for them to settle down too out of fear of loneliness

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Which is a valid fear. Very few people are built for true loneliness.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This is terrible advice for unreligious people who romanticise marriage to a fatal degree.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yea I've found this too, more so with women than anything else, they just want the title of being called someone's wife, they don't care if it's with a fat guy they're not in love with or attracted to

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It seems like a lot of people just "settle"

by NoSite2117 1 year ago

I don't think I know a single person who married anyone they didn't meet until their late 20s or 30s.

by Anonymous 1 year ago