Asking someone to prom should just be a simple question. amirite?

I remember the days of asking a girl to anything was met by watching her friends giggle as you put her on the spot.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Because people like to make a show of things and have fun with it.

by hbraun 1 week ago

Yes. Let's make it a show and pressure someone (usually a girl) into saying yes. 🙄

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Nah people are narcissists thats all. Never once have i have felt the urge to do that. It's insecure people who have the look at me mentally of i am so cool.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ironically it's pretty narcissistic to think that you are the standard all humans are measured against. I don't like making a show of things either but that doesn't make me somehow better than those who do, it just means we like different things

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Nah people are narcissists thats all. Never once have i have felt the urge to do that. It's insecure people who have the look at me mentally of i am so cool. I don't do it, so everyone who does is wrong!!!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Kids can be narcissistic too

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Did i say they couldn't be or am i suggesting that a silly tradition around a school dance really isn't that deep?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Sure, it's all fun and games except for the wording being asked you is being pressured to say regardless of how they (usually a girl) actually feels about the situation. But apparently that's okay.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

maybe just let highschool lovebirds have fun, man. this time, it really isn't that deep

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Exactly. As long as they aren't hurting anyone, let them be creative and have fun

by Anonymous 1 week ago

But then it will escalate into gender reveal parties that start forest fires….

by Financial_Video 1 week ago

Found the wet noodle!

by North_Injury1434 1 week ago

Someone didn't get asked to prom

by Anonymous 1 week ago

When did all the signs and things even start happening? I dont ever remember them when i was in school. And if youre dating someone do you really have to do anything? Wouldnt it be common sense and implied that you would be going together?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I did A big promposal when I was in HS and don't regret it one but. It was fun to plan out and it made her day. Sometimes just let kids have fun and don't make a big deal out of things

by Flaky-Management 1 week ago

It's implied but from my experience women especially still liked to be asked it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I don't doubt they like to be asked. But that's all the guy has to do is... ask!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I guarantee you that most girls would prefer something more than you just walking up to them and asking, romantic gestures are nice, cute and appreciated, that's something she will remember.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I remember suggesting this when my brother in law and his friends were doing the most to Ask their girlfriends to prom. I just assumed it's just expected that they'd go together. Lol

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It started happening when Instagram became more popular among highschool students. As a former highschool student that had older brothers that didn't have to do a "promposal" having to do one for my gf seemed stupid and a waste of time. So much work just for a stupid Instagram story. I agree with Op

by Anonymous 1 week ago

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by Anonymous 1 week ago

I had been dating my girlfriend since freshman year so we didn't make a deal of it because like you said, it was expected. I still "asked" but it was more like "hey wanna go to prom this year?" in the way you would ask someone if you wanna go to McDonald's, not a big proposal.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Perfect! Simple and to the point.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

when i was in school i actually didnt go to prom with my boyfriend at the time since he didnt ask, it's not implied.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Not everyone likes loud dance parties

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Idk but it is very odd. And they just keep getting bigger and bigger. Same thing with gender reveals. Just say it!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

People are getting richer, let them blow their disposable income

by Toyalba 1 week ago

because... highschool students should be allowed to have fun..? where did this even come from? i imagine a place of saltiness

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No I just don't see the appeal of going all out for something so simple.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

right. why go all out for birthdays? why go all out for hangouts and reunions? why go all out for presenting yourself? why go all out for anything at all when you can be efficient and bland?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This is the way.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

it's a once in a lifetime thing, thats why a lot of couples or people in general go all out.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I can understand that the event itself is a once-in-a-lifetime thing, but the question is just a question.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

But like, why not have fun with it? You never helped plan a surprise or a gift and got excited going all-out? Knowing the person you're surprising is going to be excited by the extravagance? Yes, you can just ask a simple question, but if you're willing to have fun with it and the other person is going to have fun with it, I ask again, why not?

by zoie10 1 week ago

Just stating my opinion 👐

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Why? Some people like putting in effort to make the other person feel special and romanced. It's fun and sweet. People who put effort into making relationships memorable are going to be in the ones that last. Also kids in Highschool have basically nothing but time.

by Alive-Tumbleweed-386 1 week ago

Hit the nail on the head.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

And if anything I feel like it makes the girl look like the bitch if she just isn't interested (or just doesn't want to go/has another date). It's totally RomCom brain rot, IMO.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

There is reason. It would save people money and time just to simply ask the question and be done. Prom is the fun part, the question is just a question.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So your thinking here is what, exactly? That the people doing this are just too dumb to realize that doing the bare minimum would cost less time, effort, and money? Or could it be that for them there is sufficient reason to do it this way? Because they enjoy it, because they think it's more likely to be successful, because of some other reason. Why should others do something different because to you doing it their way isn't worth it?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

They shouldn't. People can do things however they want. I'm just stating my opinion on the matter 👐

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No, you're not just stating your opinion, you're prescribing what other people should do.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

They don't have to follow what I say, I'm just a random guy on the internet.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Making a sign is pretty cheap. It's also fun. It's just a creative way to get a laugh out and put on a show. No need to bash people for having fun.

by Pitiful_Bend 1 week ago

No, you're definitely bashing fun

by Pitiful_Bend 1 week ago

And that's your opinion.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Because everything has to be instagammable or it didn't happen (see gender reveal stunts). Seriously, in my day, there were two camps: If you had a steady bf/gf, it was just assumed you would go to prom together. No need to do like a mini marriage proposal over it. "Hey, how do you feel about prom? Should we plan to go" If you were asking someone who was less of a sure thing, the last thing you wanted to do was to create a big fanfare in asking. Your main hope was a "yes", but in the back of your mind, you hope that no one else witnesses the rejection if they say no.

by Macy88 1 week ago

Exactly!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's how it was done in 91 and 92 when I went

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Like most of life, it's only as hard as you make it

by Anonymous 1 week ago

And only as special as you make it.

by Alive-Tumbleweed-386 1 week ago

Exactly.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's stuff like this that makes me ask, why the hell do you care if others want to do this?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

We shouldn't even be making prom such a big deal.

by beerantone 1 week ago

I gave a lot of people the ick in high school by making it a big deal.

by Familiar-Tart 1 week ago

I feel so bad for the girls who don't want to go with that guy but he makes a big public spectacle out of it and now she can't say no without looking like a bitch.

by Miller40 1 week ago

This. It really puts a ton of pressure on the person being asked. If they have the strength to decline, it's super humiliating for everyone involved. If that person's already your romantic partner who expressed interest in going to prom, sure, go ahead.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I feel like sooner or later, there's gonna be a girl who believes an extravagant prom-posal from a guy she doesn't like is sexual harassment, and schools nationwide will crack down with strict guidelines including sending a video out to all parents to ensure they are enforcing it outside of school, and strict warnings that unwanted prom-posals made outside of school can result in detention or other consequences in school.

by Familiar-Tart 1 week ago

You saw one guy do this or someone on the internet and assumed it was real life for most people.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Fair point. Although I didn't say "most people" just people.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

There is always people doing absurd thing which if you think about it the person could just be doing it because he think it's absurd and funny too. There is people who mostlikely take it seriously but I'd be down to do something that crazy for something so simple because it's unexpected and way too much.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

In a world where gestures often speak louder than words, a well-executed promposal can be a powerful way to communicate your interest and admiration for someone. So why not embrace the opportunity to go the extra mile and make the ask a moment to remember? After all, isn't love worth celebrating in grand gestures sometimes?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

My prom was in 2018. This pretty much sums up how the conversation went between me and my prom date: Her: Are you planning to go to prom this year? Me: I'd like to. Would you like to come with? Would you like to be this minion's prom date (minion from Despicable Me)? Her: Hell yeah! Sounds fun!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Perfect! That's all you need to do. No overcomplication.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Exactly

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I agree personally, but with a generation raised by TikTok, things may be different. If the girl you want to ask to Prom expects a promposal, you can find that stupid and obnoxious, but you probably won't change her mind.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Social media is definitely a huge cause of it. I'm more old fashioned.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So you didn't get asked to Prom? Or did they say no to your proposal? Why would you care one iota about something so innocuous as a prom proposal?

by ImprovementLow 1 week ago

Because a lot of people nowadays take every opportunity to make a big deal out of pretty much everything. It's exhausting.

by Odd_Egg189 1 week ago

Very true.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

looks like op never got a prom-posal lmao

by Low-Criticism 1 week ago

Or maybe just let people have a fun moment in their life. God damn. Not everything has to "make sense". Sometimes things are just done because it's cute and they enjoy doing it.

by Wconnelly 1 week ago

People are allowed to have fun. I'm just saying it would save them money and time just to ask the question and be done.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Just stating an opinion 👐

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's fine, and if you want to just ask the question, do that. It's okay that you don't want to make a big deal about asking people to prom. However maybe consider shifting your view to "I don't like doing this thing. I personally don't understand why they enjoy that thing, but that's okay. It's fun for them. They enjoy it, so they should continue to do it if it makes them happy"

by Wconnelly 1 week ago

Yeah , it just keeps raising the standards for asking prom

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Social media.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Bingo!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yeah, it was a cultural shift that forever altered people's perspective of human interaction. Sucks but I guess that's the world we're stuck with now.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

They are doing it for internet clout plain and simple

by Marksmonte 1 week ago

I did the Harry Potter ask. You know, where you ask the girl you really like and she says she already has a date and you just feel awkward since you and your red haired friend took too long to ask anyone..

by Chemical_Sun 1 week ago

As someone who was extravagantly asked to prom, who cares? It was a nice gesture. He put in the effort because he wanted too 🤷🏻‍♀️

by rausantino 1 week ago

You sound fun to hang out with

by Own-Swordfish 1 week ago

Because it's cute and fun, probably? "Just ask the question, it'll save you time and money" lmao 🤡 People generally like to put in effort for the people they like.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You're forgetting that they're kids. They're all in highschool. No one has really done anything crazy special for any one kid in particular, or treated them super special except for family, and parents. Besides birthdays, romantically, this is a first for anyone to think of a way to make one particular person feel extremely special. So I think it's cute they go out of their way to be extravagant.

by Safe-Winner 1 week ago

Because social media has turned people into attention whores.

by Lower_Coach 1 week ago

I didn't ask, but that's cause I had a girlfriend and it was just kind of expected.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

In my experience the people doing this have usually discussed everything behind the scenes. The only question is when and how. Putting people on the spot never works out. Of course, that's not everybody. I also know people for whom it really was just a quick yes or no question because they preferred to emphasize other aspects of their friendship or relationship.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

For funzies

by Hubert94 1 week ago

Fun?

by Kaya50 1 week ago

Maybe for kids it is important to make a big deal of things because for at least a year (or more) they lost out on special events for school. While I think some of these things may be ridiculous, they also missed out on school dances, sporting events, and other social activities. I personally think they deserve it.

by Williamsonhilar 1 week ago

We had "promposals" every year when I was in high school over a decade ago. It's not a "trend" so much as it is a "tradition" at this point.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So should wedding proposals.... But people see all this BS on movies and tv and think they have to over do everything. It's ridiculous and just shows it's for attention rather than the actual question.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Sequel escalation. Like when movies add more explosions and titties to the sequels, but the plot suffers? It's like that, but with folks who peaked in high school...

by Justiceboehm 1 week ago

The extravagant prom-posals are not the norm, they just get attention because social media. My high school boyfriend asked me with a box of chocolates and a note. I wanted something cute but didn't want the whole sign at school thing, it felt excessive. I feel like something small is much more normal

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I just looked at my boyfriend and said "I assume you're coming with me to prom?" He was a year younger than me.

by Sensitive-Conflict 1 week ago

it's fun. high school is all too quick, things like these create good memories that last well into the future

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm 52 years old and it was just a simple question, when I was in high school. I feel horrible for young boys today (I assume 99% of the time it's the boys asking their dates). Asking, by itself, was scary enough. Making a giant overblown "promposal" must be a nightmare.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's horrible. People's ability to overcomplicate things never ceases to amaze me.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Heck, even actual marriage proposals should normally NOT be big production numbers. All those do is put massive pressure on the woman to say "Yes" even if she didn't want to marry the guy.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Prom was so overrated I left 2 hours early

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yeah I never had any interest in going.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

that explains a lot /j

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Mystery solved

by One-Buffalo7272 1 week ago

"Ugh, why do bands bring all their instruments on tour with them. They can just play a recording of the song. And what is with them moving around on stage. Just get it over with." "Why do movies have all these extravagant plotlines, settings, costumes, and dialog. Just tell us what the movie is about, in a few seconds, and move forward." "Why do restaurants put salad in one bowl, pasta on the plate, and soup in a bowl? Just dump in all in my mouth, it doesn't make sense."

by Long-Bed 1 week ago

All good OP. Just an internet stranger poking fun.

by Long-Bed 1 week ago