We should normalize asking for specific gifts instead of making the gifters guess, amirite?

Hard agree. I also hate surprises and while I do listen to my friends, I listen to them in a "we have a million inside jokes" sort of way, not a "I remembered that you mentioned ten months ago that you liked this necklace" sort of way.

by Kaelyn87 1 week ago

Making a list is already a normalized thing

by Carissakerluke 1 week ago

I like the surprise factor in gifts, but its just not very effective as you said. You could get them something they don't need, something they already have, something they don't want. So while I like the surprise factor of it I do agree with you to an extent.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Maybe a list would work. That way you'll get something you want/need, but you won't know exactly what it'll be. But the list should be long enough, like at least 10 items. If it's only like 3, it'll be less surprising. But at the bare minimum, always include a gift receipt, so they can return it if it's useless to them. Some people find it rude to return a gift, but personally I would feel worse if they just had to keep something they don't want.

by ulynch 1 week ago

I went to the store with my at the time partner and picked it out. I unwrapped it xmas morning having completly forgot what is was and was pleasantly surprised.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I keep a running Amazon wish list. Most of my family does. If people don't want to support Amazon, the list is at least an available reference.

by Yundtoceane 1 week ago

We need gift registries for birthdays and such. Just like wedding registries.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You can hire me to be your replacement. I love celebrations. My family and friends are too far to attend anything. Ill do my hair the same way you do yours. Just tell me your favorite color and animal and they wont notice a thing

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'm down for all the celebrations. Parties are great! No gifts needed, just bring that food and booze. Let's get together and enjoy each other's company, no need for handing out gifts.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yeah, when I tell my gf I want anal for my birthday I don't want it from Chris.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

In Denmark, we have an app that is getting quite popular. You have your wishlist that you send to your friends/family and they can tag specific gifts so there is no doubles, without you seeing which gifts are tagged/not

by ShapeLow6019 1 week ago

This is why I just tell my friends what I'd like and ask them what they'd like

by Anonymous 1 week ago