+25 Men who feel insecure by their gf/wives huge sex toys are absolutely valid. amirite?

by Open-Regret 1 week ago

It's always the Germans

by Adella94 1 week ago

YOU VILL ENJOY ZIS!!!

by Sea_Fee 1 week ago

Just how I like it

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No, an ai generated Hitler voice that only speaks in yells

by Brigitteconroy 1 week ago

It turns off after 8 hours of operation cause labour laws

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Sometimes it's the Japanese

by Fun_Bullfrog8032 1 week ago

They make precision screws

by Anonymous 1 week ago

They dead ass do have the best porn. We need to take note from them and restore the former glory of American pornography.

by Adella94 1 week ago

Iunno about that one chief, some of their extreme stuff is way too out there for me.

by Adaline20 1 week ago

Sometimes I just need to see someone eat a semen omelette

by Adella94 1 week ago

seriously? Americans have always been prudes, you cant even have sex until your an OAP :'D

by Rosie80 1 week ago

Idk our teen pregnancy rate is higher 💪💪💪

by Adella94 1 week ago

yes, its not surprising, because when you make something illegal you prevent people doing it in a safe and sensible way of course you will have higher rate of teen pregnancy when you dont allow people condoms or morning after pill until they are 18 as opposed to countries that have them available for basically anyone (as we would rather have kids having underage sex safely than unsafely) your country also classes sex education as porn, and the morning after pill as murder, its really not surprising what the result of all these things is lol

by Rosie80 1 week ago

Zee Germans

by Anonymous 1 week ago

or the Japanese

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ve Germans are not all smiles und sunshine.

by Human-Specialist7915 1 week ago

German science is the best in the world!!!!!

by spinkaaaliyah 1 week ago

Why would you judge a guy for having a fleshlight?

by dallinnitzsche 1 week ago

People seem to immediately assume that he can't find a partner and there's something wrong with them. My cousin accidentally found mine, and immediately started to give me dating advice.

by FabulousTale 1 week ago

If you have a low voice, you very much can moan/growl like a vibrator during oral.

by Ankundingdino 1 week ago

Why did the voice in my head drop to a deep bass when I read Donte...?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Hypothermia ?!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Omggg 😂

by Open-Regret 1 week ago

Wait, they make those?! *off to Google search *

by Anonymous 1 week ago

diesel thruster those rotary engines hit different fr fr

by Anonymous 1 week ago

these names are killing me, lmao

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Idk man, how could a woman possibly live up to the unrealistic standards set by that? I only have 20 personalities.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ah cool. You got in on the Kickstarter?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

To be fair you always gotta ask how they got the skin to feel so real

by mulleronie 1 week ago

I accept weirdness in this case, where can I buy myself one of these?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You really did yourself a disservice skipping out on the self-cleaning feature...

by Only_Ad 1 week ago

Feeling desired by your partner is an important part of sex for most people

by Euphoric-Anxiety7125 1 week ago

Honestly it's the most important part… otherwise it feels forced and like a chore

by Anonymous 1 week ago

yep, the most attractive thing a woman can do is desire me

by baileystreich 1 week ago

Yep. I've realized after awhile the common theme between my kinks and fantasies is that they all involve an extra level of enthusiasm, trust and consent from my partner that vanilla sex doesn't.

by Lafayette73 1 week ago

They can be a fun part of a couples sex life. But I can definitely see situations where it might make someone insecure I.e. over reliance or a lot of private use

by Gold_Pineapple 1 week ago

significant private use and then never being in the mood for your partner.

by Technical-Job 1 week ago

Of course, if you're feeling insecure, you should have an honest and vulnerable conversation with your partner. I think the issue comes with people using their insecurity to prohibit their partner from having sex toys that they enjoy.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Exactly. My partner has lots of them and I feel great she's exploring and enjoying and everything.

by HopeFriendly 1 week ago

I could totally see why this could be a valid sociological debate.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

My husband buys all the sex toys. I only had one when I met him, now I have like 20, all of them he bought. That includes a very girthy 8 incher. He likes to watch me use them and use them on me. He doesn't have any but I offered to get him a flesh light and he didn't want one. He‘s not insecure about me using the toys, quite the opposite. And he's not a small guy himself, we definitely don't need them.

by Ok-Coach 1 week ago

Guilty as charged…. Female orgasms are just hot as hell, plus who wants to listen to some dude grunt lol

by Simple-Requirement74 1 week ago

plus who wants to listen to some dude grunt ✋

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Idk I bought my man a double gawk 6000 . And he got me a 8in Girthy vibrating dildo. He did say he only want it to be used with him tho . But I guess everyone is different

by Anonymous 1 week ago

double gawk 6000 is taking me out 😭

by Anonymous 1 week ago

this feels weirdly specific

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Sounds like ko found his girls vibrator and started to weep

by Anonymous 1 week ago

OP is a woman so

by Apprehensive_Pain280 1 week ago

I'm honestly shook.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

She's doing a good thing imo. If a guy said this people would just drag him as being insecure like you were doing.

by Apprehensive_Pain280 1 week ago

she said she uses zero toys. It sounds like she just has a shelter sex life, and this opinion is based on zero experience.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

What are your opinions on using them on each other to enhance the shared activity? That sounds a fairly good boundary if couples were insecure.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

A sex toy isn't a problem. This is especially true if used together. Why aren't other men treating toys like a tool/aid instead of competion? Now, if your partner only wants to ever use sex toys instead of sex with you that's an issue. But the toy didn't cause that.

by Wilbert88 1 week ago

The same reason why many women feel insecure if their guy watches porn. It's an "am I not enough for you" insecurity. It's pretty obvious why having a partner that cannot achieve an orgasm with you alone would be a big hit to someone's self-esteem.

by osteuber 1 week ago

I don't care if my man watches porn. As long as it doesn't make him fail to perform in bed. It porn is making him unable to get hard without it then it's an issue. As if a dude cannot get hard ever then it means a sexless relationship. However, what's the harm of dildo as long as the guy still gets to cum through penetrative sex?

by Complex-Direction748 1 week ago

OP is really highlighting the differences in how men and women think. To a woman, no sex toy can compare to what her husband/boyfriend provides in the other million aspects of a relationship that don't involve sex; her SO is more than what he provides sexually. Most men can't seem to understand this because…well… you get where I'm going with this.

by CalmDesk2102 1 week ago

this is so true

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This!!! Boys, get you a cordless Hitachi wand and use it on her!!! She will have an amazing time. She will be a happy woman. She will return the favor. Trust me on this...

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Also try to use it in the base of your balls. And in doggy style so your balls get vibrated too while penetrating her. I had many men who loves it and one dude cum from just Hitachi vibrating his balls.

by Complex-Direction748 1 week ago

Same reason they just pound and pound and refuse to ask women what they can do better — pride. They can't handle the fact that they aren't doing something right and have too much ego to actually work to fix it.

by Whole-Context749 1 week ago

yep.

by Bkris 1 week ago

Nice strawman.

by Technical-Job 1 week ago

Lots don't.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's fine to feel a certain way, just don't act on it. Don't shame your partner for using it, I see that a lot and it's gross.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

If I start feeling jealous towards a piece of silicone it's all over.

by Correct-Fly7414 1 week ago

nah fr. self-reflection time

by VastWallaby 1 week ago

Boys, the dildo is your teammate, not your opponent.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I actually kind of agree with you that it's understandable to be insecure. But toys don't feel like the real thing so they kind of have to be big or have something special to compensate for the feeling of another person. There's a lot less stimulation when using a dildo vs having sex with someone who has a comparably sized penis.

by dean10 1 week ago

I don't get people being upset by their partners sex toys. Bigger than me or longer, idc. It's just a piece of plastic so to speak. I honestly think it's hot seeing it and using them on her. As long as they aren't using them to replace you then toys are fine.

by Character-Wait 1 week ago

Yeah I guess so but I don't think someone should be so insecure that a toy upset them. There are things you can do to satisfy your partner. You just have to put in the efforts.

by Character-Wait 1 week ago

Yeah. I guess it depends on how it's done? Like if someone has a dead bedroom / neglected sex life and one of them is using a toy but won't discuss improving sex life? So many ways it could either backfire or maybe even improve sex life depending on how it's handled really

by Open-Regret 1 week ago

Bingo. That's where the problems start.

by Character-Wait 1 week ago

I get what u mean , but she isn't taking the dildo out to dinner or anything ..right?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

💀

by Open-Regret 1 week ago

Sincere question - if you masturbate to women who are physically opposite from what your gf/wife will ever look like, is it valid for her to feel insecure about it?

by Jerel97 1 week ago

Where are you hearing about all these women buying dildos. Is that like a common thing in your social circle

by London57 1 week ago

Who's gonna tell him

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Honestly as a woman, most women I know seem to prefer vibrators.

by Busy_Orchid 1 week ago

Everyone's bodies are different. If dildos work best for you that's fine. Do you like clitoral stimulation? Maybe it's too much for you.

by Busy_Orchid 1 week ago

I don't like vibrators either. the feeling is too strong and it makes me go numb TBH

by London57 1 week ago

this reminds me about why im single. my exwife never really used oversized sextoys, but this reminds me about all those insecurities and conversations about insecurities and jesus its nice to not have to deal with that.

by Slight-Shock-6802 1 week ago

I honestly don't like dildos/toys. They do nothing for me. They feel fake and it's not the same as having real sex with real penis

by Anonymous 1 week ago

We pretty much exclusively use them with one another. I didn't even own any before my partner and I got together. Now that said Fleshlight I really just felt like I was working a butter churn Somehow all the laughing about "churning butter on the porch before supper" didn't kill the mood It's honestly wild to me how advanced toys for women are vs how basic mens are. Or rather Super basic or insanely advanced with no in between

by Anonymous 1 week ago

OP, I don't care what you say. I am NOT intimidated by my wife's 3 pound mega-vibrating car battery operated Dildo and neither are her 3 boyfriends

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Insecurities like this are why the orgasm gap is such a huge issue.

by FlatExcitement 1 week ago

It's valid, it's just not productive. There's better ways to react to sex toys than allowing your base insecurities to form the entirety of your reaction. I'd agree that there's nothing wrong with having a gut feeling of insecurity.

by No-Phase 1 week ago

Best response i've seen so far. People in happy relationships aren't policing each other's masturbation

by Anonymous 1 week ago

"you shouldn't have self-care unless its my weenie" head ass. i get why that could be an insecurity, but really? sobbing over ur s/o having a vibrator? maybe sex isn't as important to me as it is to you, but still, really???

by VastWallaby 1 week ago

I think any secure person would understand that a 8inch plastic toy doesn't actually compare at all to real human intercourse so they wouldn't feel threatened. I'll update your unpopular opinion - people who get jealous of their partners sex toys are just insecure people worrying about a lifeless plastic gizmo

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Is this a real issue? Or is it just memes but guys with no relationship experience whatsoever took it as reality? I truly don't believe most women enjoy big dildos

by Secret-Refuse 1 week ago

The issue is when the guy is like 5 inch and I get a 6 inch dildo. My exhusband used to be sooo offended my dildo is bigger than his cock.

by Complex-Direction748 1 week ago

You're upset over her vibrator? K. Toss your special lube, your little special pills, your Fleshlight, and those jerk it sleeves away

by Anonymous 1 week ago

my husband likes it when i compare his penis size to my dildos but to be fair he is usually bigger lol

by Anonymous 1 week ago

"Size queens" are really not as common as y'all think

by deven87 1 week ago

Most real men can't get women off bc they refuse to learn about their partners bodies and the things that actually get them off (which is VERY RARELY penetrative sex)

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Valid is logical. In scheme of things its like leaving the toilet seat up

by Tillmannicola 1 week ago

The only time that feeling is invalid is if your partner has repeatedly told you that they are not feeling fulfilled by your sex life & given clear & reasonable things to try & you have ignored all of them because you only care about your own pleasure. Then you have no business feeling insecure if she has a massive dildo or he has a fleshlight.

by Ihaag 1 week ago

I don't really care about dildos/vibrators or whatever if they use them while they masturbate, but not cool with them being used during sex, it's basically like AI taking your job…now stuff like vibrating cock rings or butt plugs, etc I'm a little more chill with during sex

by Jeremycollier 1 week ago

Eh true. But when my ex threw my dildo at me that crossed a line

by ComprehensiveAct8851 1 week ago

My GF straight up told me "you are good enough at sex that I have no need to get a toy" it would destroy me if she all of a sudden decided that she needed one

by turnerzola 1 week ago

Most women I know in relationships use vibrators instead of dildos

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I bought one for her but it was the same size as mine.

by Adventurous-Sun 1 week ago

I mean, by that logic, you should also feel insecure if your significant other masturbates by hand.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I don't feel like toys are in a competition with myself, actually my ex-partner had a wireless Hitachi and that became one of my best friends when we were in the bedroom together. I've never felt jealous towards toys and I'd consider myself average size. I read a book called " She comes first" and that really opened a lot of doors. Sides, sex isn't the defining thing of a relationship for me.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

This but for porn

by dietrichpreston 1 week ago

Use it with her.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

My friend and her husband have a sex toy collection that they use together. No reason to feel insecure if mutual pleasure is the goal. Also a monster dong is not enjoyable to have shoved up your cooch every time you bone.

by Ready-Wave8812 1 week ago

What if I use sex toys AND have sex with my partner?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I wouldn't hold my gf back from getting them, but it definitely feels like your replacement. If I'm bad at my job help me git gud, don't order 9 inches from Amazon and expect me to feel nothing.

by addison71 1 week ago

Feeling insecure is pretty normal when you're made to feel like you're not good enough. But in the case of sexual needs, I think some societies have developed very unhealthy views on how important it is in a relationship to for one person to provide sexual gratification to the other. In these societies, we often see a relationship develop between sexual gratification and power. And I think if you're using sex as a power dynamic in your relationship then you're likely going to be insecure if you think you've lost that power to something else including a dildo. But think about that last sentence. A simple tool now has the power. How silly is that. But the only reason it has the power is because you let it and not because you weren't it's equal sexually but because you've made sex an unhealthy part of your relationship and your ego.

by UniqueBarnacle 1 week ago

I'll care (maybe a little) when men take the time to satisfy women with whatever size they have. You know, instead of just using her body as a sex toy.

by breanne56 1 week ago

Their feelings may be valid… but that doesn't mean they get to have a say on what I use on or in my body. If they don't like it, they can go find someone else.

by Kristopherswani 1 week ago

Yeah, the good old ultimatum. The foundation of every healthy relationship

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Hit your wife, and divorce the gym.

by kirlinonie 1 week ago

I do agree with this. I think people are entitled to their feelings, but no one should tell you what to do with your body.. Yeah, okay ya got me there lol

by Open-Regret 1 week ago

they are valid but it's better to shrug it off you're not going to get anywhere showing your weaknesses with women

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You're not going to get anywhere with women with this mentality in the first place

by deven87 1 week ago