"How are you?" and "how did you sleep?" texts are annoying and unnecessary. amirite?

Wow someone didn't sleep well....

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Boy, there really is not one single social skill to be found on this website, is there?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

by Emerson65 1 year ago

Nope.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That depends. They CAN be, but sometimes it's important to remind the people you care about, that you care about them. One of the best ways to express that is to demonstrate interest in their health and happiness. Questions like "How are you?" and "how did you sleep" are a great way to ascertain a good picture of a person's overall well being in a given moment. It's also an opening that allows them to vent any frustrations they may be having if they would like.

by Reubenzboncak 1 year ago

You need therapy and probably more in person interaction vs online lmfaooo This is just empathy

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If these are coming from mom you're probably stuck with em

by SuccessfulHyena 1 year ago

Bro got the unflattering flavor of autism

by AggravatingMango 1 year ago

I love asking my bf how he slept when he wakes up. He tells me about his dreams or what happened throughout the night that I was too zonked to notice. (I think we have a little demon inthe house) if you truly love someone, those things matter and create connection, which are needed in a long term relationship

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Same here. At this point it's routine since I'm at work, typically, when my wife wakes up, and of course I love my wife so I want to know how she slept. Having someone text you asking how you are and such is such a nice simple way to let someone know you care

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Op, how are you? Did you sleep well? I myself am fair and slept poorly.

by ashlybartoletti 1 year ago

lol, wow. My bf and I exchange these very texts every morning, it's ritual and his favorite! Unpopular for sure, but maybe consider working out the one unresolved issues. I'd be scared to tell you hello!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I appreciate it when people let me know that they think of me and that they want to interact with me, even if the question they ask me isn't all that deep.

by shawn05 1 year ago

Wait until no one cares that you're alive and get back to me.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I hear you, I hate small talk too which is what these basic questions are supposed to initiate. But you can always steer the conversation into the depths and answer truthfully and with detail. If they back away slowly then they probably aren't down to get deep quick which maybe is a turn off for you and so by that response, no need to waste your time. Or move to Europe or the Slavic countries where asking "how are you" is very strange and you will get the truth, the messy, ugly truth!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Maybe I can thank my German mom for this mindset haha

by trystangreenhol 1 year ago

1000%. I'm married to a German. Lol.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Imagine not understanding empathy

by archrenner 1 year ago

This is just a way for people to have meaningless interaction with someone they care about. It's more of a way for them to tell you that they're thinking of you than actually asking the question.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

well how did you sleep?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah, that's the point. You want to say something to someone but don't actually have anything to say.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

As someone currently dealing with heartbreak, I would give anything for those little texts that meant so much

by Gustgutmann 1 year ago

How are you OP? Did you sleep well?

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by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm with you there. Texts should be something funny/interesting, something important or making plans. I don't like frequent "how is your day going" type texts.

by PatientLonely 1 year ago

Isn't it important to know that they think of you and that they care about you?

by shawn05 1 year ago

I agree tbh. I have perfectly fine social skills and those questions are not the beacons of social interaction. They just seem a bit lazy. To each their own though

by Anonymous 1 year ago