I think it's supposed to speak on the character of that particular person. If they have zero standards for the type of company they keep, can you ever really trust them as a friend?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I dont know i think this is also mistaken and paraphrased. There's a difference between a friend and a company. A person can hang out and have plenty of people to keep them company but very few trustworthy actual friends. I think people who say that sound salty and jealous. Sorry but someone isn't two faced and fake just for hanging out with people other than you

by Public-Sprinkles 11 months ago

As you get older, you're less inclined to be friends with people who's morals don't align with yours. I wouldn't trust or think someone is my friend if they were friends with morally reprehensible people. If you're friends with everyone by trying to please and appeal to them, who even are you as a person? No one is universally liked.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I still think there's a fine line between "being friends" with someone and just hanging out with them occasionally. If you go out and start asking multiple people about someone, and majority of them reply with "yeah, theyre pretty cool, we've been hanging out once in a while and theyre pretty fun", then they're 99 percent a good person. That doesn't necessarily mean you share the same religion, political and ethical beliefs. No you wont be universally liked, but if nobody has got anything bad to say about you, then that says something about you. Maybe not everything, but still something.

by Public-Sprinkles 11 months ago

I still think there's a fine line between "being friends" with someone and just hanging out with them occasionally I think Aristotle was talking about being on good terms ("friendly") with multiple people. So yeah, "hanging out" would fall under "being friends". If you go out and start asking multiple people about someone, and majority of them reply with "yeah, theyre pretty cool, we've been hanging out once in a while and theyre pretty fun", then they're 99 percent a good person Yeah, that's not how that works. I'm assuming you're speaking of some very tiny sample, like your high school friends or something. Hitler had thousands that would vouch for him. Did that make him 99% a good person? No. The sample group matters. Broaden the scope in your mind of the types of awful people that exist in the world. If you were friends with victims and perpetrators, are you really anyone's friend? Or are you really only your own friend, using relationships with everyone for your own gain?

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I suppose it means more that if you please all the people then you're probably not being your authentic self.

by Left_Mastodon 11 months ago

Are they? Or are they just an easy going fun person who isnt stuck up? Plus, hanging out with a lot of people doesn't necessarily mean -you- only please them and go with them, it might also mean the opposite

by Public-Sprinkles 11 months ago

MISTER RODGERS IS NOBODY'S FRIEND NOW

by NecessaryVivid 11 months ago

The people who are friends with everyone are those who need to engineer their behavior to please everyone. Some people do this authentically because they are hard-wired to be people pleasers, but others do this as a means of manipulating others. The latter are people you should absolutely look out for. They are all over the place and can be very hard to spot.

by Danehuels 11 months ago

I always follow a rule of hierarchy best friend (only can be one) friend(s) people I can trust and count on Acquaintances people I'll talk to if convenient or we are caught in the same place Associate (someone I might know by name or face, but not much deep rooted) stranger (obvious) I hate throwing the friend word to everyone I talk to. Feels dishonest

by PomegranateMuch8566 11 months ago

My point exactly!! I perceive this phrase as "you, who you hang out with a lot of people are not a good person because you cant be liked by everyone", not just being actual friends. I dont even think thats possible.

by Public-Sprinkles 11 months ago

Everyone who likes you isn't your friend. It's ok to have acquaintances. If you think 50 people are your friend then you probably don't even know what a friend is.

by Anonymous 11 months ago

I understand this phrase as "being likable" instead of being friends. People usually use this phrase every time they see a person hanging out with plenty of people when thats not a case ,i dont even think its possible to be actual friends with a lot of people. Im perceiving this completely differently.

by Public-Sprinkles 11 months ago