Most people are bad at remembering people's names, the reason they do so, is because they put mental effort into it. amirite?

So if I don't remember your name, for whatever reason, I'm self centered? Oh okay

by Dependent-Cut8452 10 months ago

If you don't remember mine? No. If you don't remember anyone's the first time you meet them? Yes.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

what

by Dependent-Cut8452 10 months ago

If you never make it a point to TRY and remember peoples name when you meet them, it means you're self centered. Being young and self centered is almost a given, that's why as you grow and mature, you make an effort to learn people's name and focus on them as a person, not yourself.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

Yeah... that's not how that works.

by Dependent-Cut8452 10 months ago

If it happens over and over again, yes.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

People often forget your name I'm assuming?

by Dependent-Cut8452 10 months ago

Not really, but I have people in my family who use that excuse all the time and it annoys me. If I'm honest, I grew up thinking that it was normal, untill going to work in places where everyone remembered my name in day 1. I put some effort into memorising everyones names and it was easy. The people who don't, just dont care.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

The people who don't, just dont care Whats the problem with that....?

by Dependent-Cut8452 10 months ago

I'm not saying that having difficulty in remembering people's names is self-centered. But some people just don't try and just use the excuse that they are bad at it.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

That would be an adequate description of being bad at it. It is not everyone's job to suck your ego by remembering your name.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

Everyone I work with wears a name tag so I don't have to remember names. Eventually I learn the names of those I work closest with but anyone outside my immediate office area is just, "that one person with the xxxx distinguishing feature." It's not that I intentionally don't learn people's names, the name tags just make it so I don't have to remember.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

Sometimes interactions between people can be so quick and insignificant that even if you've met multiple times, they still don't remember your name. Because they don't really feel the need to expend the mental energy for such short interactions. It doesn't mean they're self centered, it just means they don't really need to know it until they need to know it, if that makes sense.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

No. its that when you first meet someone, you are concerned about how you are coming across to them and what they think of you.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

It can be just as simple as they don't care and have no reason to care.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

Or some people do actually have it harder and it either doesn't matter if they put on the effort (because their memory is less controllable) or it's an unreasonable amount of effort to expect - and they are the people saying they are bad with names. You'll notice that people that are bad with names are bad with concious memorisation attempts. Like, they might have good general memory but will be terrible at intetionally memorising something; this is something that also commonly comorbid with ADHD (though not always).

by russel90 10 months ago

Definitely doesn't apply to this sort of situation.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

Meh. I have ADHD. I try to remember peoples names but sometimes I just don't. Especially if it's someone I only see once in a while. It's not because I'm self centered. It's because if I don't see someone enough I won't remember their name. Why are people so dead set on taking everything personally? Jesus.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

That's why they make name/desk tags for the first week or two.

by Caesarvonrueden 10 months ago

I'm sure the boys on Normandy would be proud to know you have this problem.

by Cummingslera 10 months ago

Very well, them. Salute!

by Cummingslera 10 months ago

I've reached my limit of knowing people.

by Anonymous 10 months ago

"I have no idea what your background in math, physics, or astronomy is, but calculating the orbit and phases of the moon is not that hard of a problem; a decently smart high school student could do it" Bingo. It depends on how important the person is to you, and how many other distractions you have in your mind at the moment. Sorry You aren't the center of everyone's universe. There are 100 or so people in the building I work in. I know about 20 of them by name because the rest I just say say hello to in passing. I don't care to commit them to memory. If we have a memorable conversation, share a laugh, something like that, I will probably remember you. If not, who cares.

by IllFlatworm2743 10 months ago