Weddings aren't necessary. amirite?

Well, yeah, in general, I've always been a logical and practical person. I've never seen the use of a celebration. The only kind of celebration I have is within myself when I am happy or proud of myself or of someone else.

by EmergencyTeach 7 months ago

So you don't like sharing happiness with other like close family and friends? I can understand not liking huge extravagant celebrations but not even small private ones?

by Confident_Tank 7 months ago

I don't necessarily agree with your OP (I might distinguish between "getting married" and "massive lavish wedding", unless you're super rich). But celebrating is an important thing - it's an intentional action that kicks us out of the work / life mindset. Christmas and co are commercialized events based on nothing, but you can make them something with the people around you.

by Adriel66 7 months ago

I've never seen the use of a celebration. Believe it or not but some people do have a need and enjoy to celebrate with their friends and family. Celebrations and get togethers are cornerstones in many cultures. Just because you personally have the preference to celebrate with yourself doesn't mean it doesn't serve an important purpose for others.

by Garrison92 7 months ago

You sound fun.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I'm the same. I don't like wasting resources for something artificial and doesn't have any practical benefits whatsoever. But it doesn't hurt spending a little or a handful on making a memory. Celebrations doesn't need to be grand, you just have to make it memorable. Like my birthdays. All the people I know celebrate and have birthday parties, while I spent it going to the cinemas to watch a movie and eat a burger. That's my way of celebrating. "Celebration" by itself isn't exactly necessary or useful, but it doesn't hurt to celebrate (like actually doing something) on our own way or with others once in while, simple or extravagant (I'd rather stick to simple celebrations)

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Birthdays don't cost thousands, and thousands of dollars.

by kilbackthaddeus 7 months ago

Yet some people spend thousands to celebrate their birthday.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

weddings are theater, a grand production for the benefit of making a show of their actions to everyone else. they don;t make sense since they cost a fortune better spent on other things like a down payment on a house

by Extra-Case-4398 7 months ago

Well the government doesn't care if you're boyfriends/girlfriends. But when you're married, you get special privileges and protections

by Mental_Preparation 7 months ago

Location may apply. There's not a lot of difference between how marriage and a de facto relationship is legally viewed here in Australia

by kaylahkrajcik 7 months ago

i agree 100%! for many, the cultural pressure of a good wedding weighs heavily on the bride and groom on the day of, so many of them aren't even able to enjoy their special day. of course this isn't always the case, but even still, the money, planning, and time spent for a single event could be spent doing much more fun things to further the loving bond between a couple. at the same time, not all weddings are extravagant, or terribly expensive. either way, i'd rather skip the wedding and use the money and time to go straight to the honeymoon. also, the idea that you need to have your love for someone approved by the government through paperwork you pay for is one of the dumbest scams i've ever heard of! yes, there are many valid reasons to get married. i'm just over generalizing here, but (imho) overall, the "sanctity" of marriage is one of the dumbest uses of our imagination.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I got married cos it was a traditional thing to do, and also it makes transition of assets easier upon death. The next day i was asked "how does married life feel?". Exactly the same

by Anonymous 7 months ago

By your logic any celebration is a waste of resources at time. If people want to celebrate their union there's nothing wrong with it. They shouldn't spend too much if they don't have the right finances, but you don't need to spend a fortune to have a nice wedding.

by Alarmed-Bet 7 months ago

It's also a party for families to meet each other under lubricated circumstances.

by Street-Setting-5316 7 months ago

Congrats.

by abshiretyshawn 7 months ago

Marriage symbolises commitment and for many, religion is also a factor. The wedding itself is a set of traditions followed often for fun, and is a party for people to spend time together at.

by Bulky_Target9359 7 months ago

Not all weddings are religious.

by Alexandrialuett 7 months ago

I dont understand the mindset of wanting to be at a party or large social event at all

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I understand that from your logic, all celebrations are a waste of time and resources. I have to disagree because they do serve a purpose. Let's dissect it practically and logically. People need to break the daily routine and use an opportunity to get together to share some emotion, whether it's joy (weddings) or sadness (funerals). It helps them integrate a big life event. It's how we're wired as a society. I personally don't like to celebrate too often because it's time consuming (my husband's family is very focused on celebrating everybody's birthday and name day), but when I look at it from a distance, it really glues the family together, which is rare nowadays. Of course as an individual, you can live without celebrations, but Imagine a society where we wouldn't celebrate anything. No parties ever. It would be much harder to socialise, to share emotions, integrate life events in the society's context. Wouldn't you miss something? But I absolutely love weddings, they are the best thing to celebrate.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I think they're stupid as well lol

by Aggravating-Milk 7 months ago

Agreed but with nuances. A small dinner with super close friends as a celebration sounds nice. Shelling out a few thousand sounds insane.

by Gullible-Mix 7 months ago

Many / most things we do are not necessary. People choose to them because they like to If you don't want a wedding and your partner agrees than you don't have a wedding Simple simple

by Anonymous 7 months ago

You legally can't be married without the wedding. I think what you're saying is that you don't want the huge expensive ordeal that Weddings often turn into. Which I agree. Mine only ran us 100 bucks. Not trying to be pedantic even going in front of the Justice of the Peace with two friends is a Wedding.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

You can't legally be married without a marriage license. A wedding is 100% optional.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

It wasn't for us. Judge had to perform a ceremony. That's a wedding.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

A friend of mine was married at the court house by a clerk. She doesn't consider it a wedding. The whole thing took 15 minutes. She didn't want a wedding. She didn't have one.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

the term is elopement, a marriage in the eyes of the law is very different than a wedding in a church, you can legally get married at the courthouse in front of a magistrate

by Extra-Case-4398 7 months ago

That's not true. Depending on where you live you can get married at the local town hall on a say, Tuesday morning for free. It's legally registred. No need for any wedding stuff or celebration stuff.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Mine we had to go in front of a judge and he had to do a thing.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Boaring kinda person then.

by Alexandrialuett 7 months ago