Expensive weddings are stupid and an obscene waste of money. amirite?

Not an unpopular opinion.

by Swimming-Tear6759 6 months ago

Popular opinion

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Perhaps the most popular

by Subject-Addendum-140 6 months ago

Really expensive weddings are more the typical complaint, not strip clubs or activities.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

My friends daughter wanted a 25k wedding and then expected to get an equal amount for a down payment on a home. Her reaction after being told it was either or was a total meltdown, resulting in her dad refusing to pay for anything. It's been 10 years and the family commotion still continues

by oswaldorodrigue 6 months ago

Lol, was just coming to say, not my kid.

by oswaldorodrigue 6 months ago

Good on the father -- screw that spoiled rotten behavior. Rewarding it would only make it worse.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

This is a man that could really have used that 25,000 elsewhere

by Impressive_Court_393 6 months ago

Yes! Spend your money how you want as long as you aren't taking on debt you can't afford! Idk why people get so pressed about other people wanting to spend money on a wedding. If you don't want to spend your money that way then don't, but who cares if other people are?

by Sea-Long7057 6 months ago

Rich people problems.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

If the person paying for it doesn't think so - then it's not.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I know of this guy who is spending $600 million on a wedding. I couldn't imagine.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Like you know him personally?? Wtf. Where does he work, are they hiring? 🤭

by obode 6 months ago

talking about son of mukesh ambani richest man of asia

by Anonymous 6 months ago

They're talking about Jeff Bezos' wedding today.

by dimitri47 6 months ago

he remarried??

by Anonymous 6 months ago

... wow. I'm not normally judging somebody by their visuals, but she sure looks like she was made from plastic.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I agree! She was beautiful before all that cosmetic work.

by dimitri47 6 months ago

oookkk

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I actually love this kind of wealth redistribute.

by Emotional-Chard9629 6 months ago

I know people who are long divorced and still paying off the loans they took to have a wedding

by Anonymous 6 months ago

That's pretty damn funny. I'll never understand the big/expensive wedding thing (and I'm 50 and married twice) even with enough money to afford one. It's purely an ego trip, right?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Taking out loans for a wedding is absolutely stupid.

by ExtensionDress 6 months ago

They are stupid if you have to borrow money to pay for it.

by Massive_Wallaby4857 6 months ago

Even if you pay out of pocket, it's still a colossal waste of money. Go to the courthouse, get hitched, throw a party in a field afterward, and save the money for something that will help you in life.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Weddings and massive entertainment based celebrations are one of the few ways to extract real money from people who hoard wealth and get it into the hands of working class people. Artists, roadies, chefs, servers, truck drivers, equipment rentals, hotels, bellboys, cleaners,... The transfer of money can't by definition go from one big pile into another person's big pile because these events require SO MANY people to pull off the logistics of them. If rich people have the money we should be encouraging them to have the biggest, most lavish events possible because few things they do can inject positive benefits into local economies like a huge wedding. People borrowing money to copy that scale and style is the issue as the interest on the loans decreases their future buying power and hoards it back to a bank.

by HamsterUnhappy1319 6 months ago

My girlfriend wants a backyard wedding with close family and friends. Im down with that as long as she is in a beautiful dress

by Nilsbins 6 months ago

Popular opinion but also plenty of people do this because they have the money to do a big wedding and all the other things

by Anonymous 6 months ago

It's my money and I'll spend it on what I want.

by Joondricka 6 months ago

Looking back on it, we wouldn't do it any other way. It's truly a unique opportunity for friends and family from all parts of your life to celebrate you. We also lived in an area where it would always be a destination for most people (neither of our hometowns, and we moved cross country as adults), so we didn't want people traveling for us to just set up a Bluetooth speaker in a field.

by BigBed5820 6 months ago

I agree, I would have done BBQ in a garden with a bluetooth speaker if I ever got married.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Depending on the garden, that might cost more than assumed.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I meant like...a friend's garden

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Yes, also consider (if not too far) a beach wedding. Had one and it was nice.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Just go down to the courthouse, sign your marriage contract and boom all done.

by raukeeley 6 months ago

I suspect this is more and more of a popular opinion these days. My fiance and I are going to the courthouse (I plan to wear a really nice dress, not a wedding gown) and then we will have a small party of family and friends. We'd rather spend any money for a wedding on our honeymoon.

by obode 6 months ago

My wife's wedding dress was a prom dress purchased at the mall shortly after school had got out for the year. I think she paid $120.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

That's a damn good point. I'm all for encouraging the wealthy to spend back into the economy rather than hoarding.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Not unpopular. But I will definitely say that many things have an up charge for services that are provided for a wedding. Hair, food, venue, entertainment, etc are all guilty of this. And honestly I wouldn't be surprised if adjustment for inflation still wasn't accurate. If anything the cost of if you got married now would probably be more expensive than your estimate using inflation alone.

by Key_Plastic1733 6 months ago

I don't think this is an unpopular opinion. I struggled with growing a wedding photography business the past few years because fewer and fewer couples are interested in investing thousands of dollars for the experience and there is so much competition. And now that Gen Z are primarily the ones getting married, and moms and dads aren't putting down huge deposits for it so they are basically paying out of pocket, people are settling for small weddings and elopements. A lot of times couples will just get a chapel or spend their budget on a venue so they can have somewhere pretty, and then ask friends and family to provide the rest. It's unfortunate for business owners, but the industry is changing and traditional weddings are becoming less popular among the middle class

by Anonymous 6 months ago

As a parent, I gave my daughter $10,000 for the wedding and said do with this what you want. I was hoping they would make it last, do a smaller wedding. But they took the $10,000 and then matched it with their own and had a big fancy wedding. They don't have any regrets and it was beautiful. But more parents should do this if able, write the check rather than pay piecemeal for things. That way the couple learns to budget for themselves and hopefully make it last. I cringed like crazy over that open bar, argued that it was not necessary and like flushing money down the toilet. I argued at least for just wine and beer but they wanted the whole thing 🤷‍♀️ Anyway, as a parent of the bride, just give whatever it is you can afford and then hands off afterwards. Because there will always be so many extras - upgraded chairs, upgraded string lighting, things that ultimately no one else will really notice. Weddings are such a racket

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Didn't get married until late 30's. We were making fantastic money. We paid cash for a destination wedding. It was pretty expensive. About $20,000 25 years ago. No regrets. But, we could afford it.

by deckowalvah 6 months ago

My husband and I did something similar except only invited a total of 12 ppl. We had it in my parent's backyard & I got my wedding dress at Ross for $50. We bought some platters from Publix & it all came out to around $300. Then for the honeymoon neither of us could take off from work so we went to another city in our state where we did a few cool activities on a budget using Groupon which with the hotel, food, & souvenirs came out to about $600. Overall if I could do it again I wouldn't change anything, but maybe gone on a road trip to another state nearby for a week instead of 2 days.

by National-Change-3614 6 months ago

Our wedding was about 5k all in. Was a blast. Had a keg and cheap wine from Trader Joe's.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Popular opinion. We did a backyard wedding for this reason but it was still so hard to keep the price low. The photographer alone was $1250 but that was worth it because the pictures were beautiful. We probably spent 6-7k.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

This sounds reasonable. Still expensive. Definitely worth having a photographer at a minimum.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Unpopular opinion is that don't call it a luxury wedding, if you have a buffet instead of providing table service. I don't care if you spend 100k lol.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

You could take that chunk of money and throw it in a savings account and vacation off the interest for the rest of your marriage

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Yeah this is not controversial

by Unlikely-Escape 6 months ago

I always wanted an extravagant wedding until the time came and I actually had to pay for one

by Elisabethkshler 6 months ago

Stupid. If u spend more than five k then you pissed your money down the drain. No one cares about this night or the flowers you got. Food, booze, dj, that's all you need.

by Humble-Wheel2982 6 months ago

This is quite literally one of the most popular opinions, down to you thinking you're better because you didn't spend as much.

by Remarkable-Analyst 6 months ago

Yikes married before 21? I wish you all the luck in the world.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Well we've been married for 20 years, our kids are 10 and 15, we're doing ok. Lol

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Why are people up-voting this very popular opinion?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Agree, however sometimes the wedding turns what would otherwise be debt (expenses) into cash gifts which can be used to buy a house. Not ideal, however we got a decent chunk from our wedding in this way lol

by Loud-Action 6 months ago

I agree in general. But is also spending any money for any celebration then, yes?

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Where I come from (South of Europe, the famous Balkans), the average decent 150-200 guest wedding costs around 10-15k. However, it's not money you pay upfront. You give a small deposit to the venue, music, photographer which are obviously the most expensive parts of the wedding. The rest you pay usually with the money from the gifts you get. Here we don't give actual gifts like toasters and such. Rather money in an envelope, which covers the cost of the guest and something extra (depends on the relationship you have with the couple). So the wedding kind of pays off by the guests collectively, and they all have a big party together. Some couples even have leftover money which they use to buy a car, or as a down payment for a house. Rarely do the couples have that kind of cash lying around thinking: what should we do? Have a wedding or buy a house? They get that money from the gifts. It's kind of a transactional event in its core but that's how it is here, good or bad.

by Character_Rhubarb 6 months ago

Yes and no. If you truly cant pay for it on your own, yes it's stupid. My wife and I paid cash for our wedding of about $35k. We already owned our home, cars, etc. and have great careers so paying that for a wedding (essentially just a big party for all of our family and friends) was not a huge deal for us. We had an open bar and some great food catered. I strongly believe that going into debt to do this is insanity though.

by ExtensionDress 6 months ago

How do you feel about someone spending $600 million on a wedding? I can't express my disgust enough.

by Icy_Pack 6 months ago

If you have the money, do what you want. We got married later in life in our 40s. We lived in NYC so weddings are insane there to begin with. We were able to do a destination weekend for $50k where everyone got to hang out for 3+ days. Multiple nice catered meals, full bar, beach, pool, fireworks. The amount of cash and gifts from my wife's law firm probably covered that cost anyways

by Anonymous 6 months ago

not un popular at all

by Danial89 6 months ago

If you think $25K is a lot, hate to think what you're opinion would be of a wedding I worked where the flowers alone cost $445K. (It was a $3 million wedding). Yes, it's a lot. But a LOT of people got paychecks.

by Alessandralowe 6 months ago

1000% correct What are they trying to prove anyway? Bigger the truck, smaller the 🍆 — Bigger the wedding, shorter marriage.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I've been married 26-years. I STILL think I should have gotten the grocery store flowers then eloped.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

We are trying our best to keep ours under 10k. A venue, food, photographer, bar lol it adds up fast.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

You get $50 worth of presents from me. There is a 99.999% chance I don't even want to be there and the one plate of food I get doesn't cover the $50 IMO.

by ryleightowne 6 months ago

My wedding was a blast - my wife and I come from families without a ton of money. We placed a huge value on throwing a big party for them. My favorite picture is this completely full dance floor with a seven piece band in the background. My invested assets earn ~$15k a month. The difference for me between a $35k wedding and a $10k wedding is less than half a hockey season in the market. My kids are going to finish college with no debt, I'm retiring early, and we give generously. Don't tell people what they should and shouldn't value, and don't look in people's pockets unless it's to make sure they have enough.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

We spent $200 on our wedding. Instead of blowing money on some stupid ceremony, we waited until the off season and did a long and leisurely honeymoon, it was great. Almost everyone agrees with you except a tiny number of bridezillas.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I think if you can afford it you should spend money on whatever the hell you want.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

How dare people spend their money the way they want to.

by Ambitious_Policy 6 months ago

It's the prices. They're outrageous. Flowers on the wedding tables? $100 a table? Venue for 4 hours? $10,000 and you better be out by 6 cause we booked a second wedding the same day. Open bar? $10,000 these days, not $200 like in your time

by Anonymous 6 months ago

I spent $100 on my "wedding" and we used the money to put a nice down payment on our home. I married someone who also couldn't care less about an expensive party and has financial goals and strategies that align with mine.

by Veumkennith 6 months ago

Tell this to Jeff Bezos. A $600 million wedding planned. Like, how?

by briahackett 6 months ago

I meant weddings between actual humans, but yeah.

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Hey. I'll fight for anybody's right to spend their money however they please. Doesn't mean I don't think they're an idiot for doing it...

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Weddings are a waste of money. 80% of the time they're going to fail

by Anonymous 6 months ago

Why? Men could have the same opinion. May not be as prevalent but it's still possible.

by obode 6 months ago

It's a very gendered thing.

by Anonymous 6 months ago