Marriage is a status symbol and waste of money, amirite?

Do you mean marriage, or weddings?

by Anonymous 4 months ago

So the event and the status of the people afterwords is the same word?

by PandaNo 4 months ago

Yup, same word. But you'd know which is which from the context of the entire sentence.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

For me, as well.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

What language?

by elissabergnaum 4 months ago

French f.ex.

by Majestic-Passion 4 months ago

I wonder if this is true of all Romance languages. Seems like a major flaw to not have evolved to adapt a separate word for "wedding" by now.

by elissabergnaum 4 months ago

Another case of an opinion neing unpopular because it's based on not knowing how things work or what words mean.

by Big_Pomegranate 4 months ago

Yup, those are very very different things and not strictly a prerequisite of each other

by Anonymous 4 months ago

I mean, it's not unpopular. Many people do low-key weddings. I think you don't mean marriage, but wedding ceremonies.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Someone didn't get invited 😂

by Anonymous 4 months ago

So get married at a gas station on the cheap

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Marriage or wedding? Two different things...

by Glittering_Owl_9605 4 months ago

Yes

by Anonymous 4 months ago

You can say the same thing for any celebration. It's a party to confirm a status change. Thst doesn't mean it's meaningless or a waste of money.

by Far_Employment6555 4 months ago

Oh you mean weddings, not marriage.

by Suspicious-Book4900 4 months ago

When I think about my wedding, I think about the reception more than anything. Having my best friends and family all together in one place. I have a big family spread all over the south so it's hard to see them all. And dancing. And drinking. I love dancing. And I like having some beers and margs. And I love eating. So...it's not about flexing money it's about having a blast and making memories. It's celebrating finally finding a man worth being with and telling the whole world how much I adore him. And making sure we're well drank and well fed along the way. And yes I want to show our kids pictures of the happiest mutual day of our lives second only to the children being born of course.

by Silly-Flower9685 4 months ago

Exactly. To me, it's mostly about celebrating a huge thing with the people I love the most. Also, I want to celebrate it somewhere nice. I don't want to celebrate it in a restaurant or a courthouse if I could help it - I want to celebrate it near a beach or in the hills because I absolutely LOVE those places and it will just further add to the immense joy on that day for me. It has NOTHING to do with "flexing".

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Imagine being mad how others spend their own money for their own enjoyment lmao.

by zoie76 4 months ago

I eloped with my partner. Our ceremony cost $700, and then we had dinner with our parents. The next day we went on a honeymoon which was really just an excuse for a holiday. It doesn't have to be expensive and in this economy, most people can't afford to do expensive and extravagant.

by Icy_Vanilla 4 months ago

Marriage is not the same as the marriage ceremony. You can marry with no ceremony at all.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

You mean weddings, not marriage. Lol. "Oh, look at Benjamin flexing his wife Margie. What a waste of money." 😂

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Weddings. Those are weddings you are talking about.

by Active_Poet 4 months ago

You mean wedding ceremonies not marriage lmao. I can understand that tho and plenty of ppl do lowkey or even just straight court house weddings. Nothing wrong with either way. While I doubt I'll have a super expensive future wedding unless I happen to marry rich or something since I literally just don't have it but tbh that's the one day I get to full on feel and be treated like a princess and I don't wanna miss out on that. Tbh a lot of women want large weddings bc of that. It's one day that's just about you (and your hubby or wifey ofc). My sister is getting married in oct. and tbh I'm just excited to even be IN the wedding. They are having a nice wedding of a decent size and has managed to do it on a teachers salary mind you (her finance works at a Jewish community center so she doesn't make a lot either). It's all about budgeting and prioritizing but ppl can have the wedding they want and it not be an insane amount of money or about status. Ofc ppl do have huge weddings sometimes for status but that's not why everyone does it.

by Pretend_Duck584 4 months ago

I mean there are tax benefits and other reasons to get married. it's not just a religious ceremony anymore. It is a religious ceremony for a lot of reasons, but there are legit reasons to get married other then a 'status symbol'

by Anonymous 4 months ago

My wedding was free besides legal paperwork afterword, not sure what you're on about you don't have to go that all out

by Anonymous 4 months ago

It only cost me $160 to get married…. I think you're referring to weddings. That I can agree are overrated

by Brakusmaryjane 4 months ago

You're not talking about marriage, you're talking about weddings. We spent less than 2k for our wedding, there's no obligation to make it big and expensive.

by rennerporter 4 months ago

Agree tbh, for me it'll be about having that one day where I can feel like a princess. I could care less about status tbh but I've always wanted a big wedding. I doubt it'll be insanely expensive bc I'm poor but having a large celebration doesn't necessarily have to be expensive. My sister is having a decent size wedding on a teachers salary and her fiancé works at a community center so she doesn't make much either. They just planned super well and found deals so they could make it work plus family chipped in a little. I think it's judgmental to say everyone does it for status when not everyone or even most ppl do it for that reason but I suppose that's what makes it an unpopular opinion lol. On another note, not sure how recent it was but happy for you and glad you had a really great wedding!

by Pretend_Duck584 4 months ago

Thank you!! I had a 150 person wedding in September! We chose a much less aesthetic location and stuff so that we could have so many people. It was still a lot of money but honestly so worth it. Best of luck to your sister! Wedding planning is so tough especially on a budget. I'm sure she will have the best day!!!

by Jarvisabshire 4 months ago

So you're broke, got it

by balistreribella 4 months ago

We are all broke.

by Spiritual_Tower 4 months ago

OP obviously meant wedding. Probably a non-native English speaker or just super dumb.

by elissabergnaum 4 months ago

I got married for cheap. At the courthouse then had a party for friends adn family at the house. Mine is not a status symbol or a waste of money lol. Many aren't, some are. But I also dont care how anyone else spends their money, it's not my business to be judging. Mine was full of memories I will forever cherish. Dancing with people I haven't seen in years. The perfect drunk moments. Laughing with people I hadn't laughed with in too long. Seeing my husband with his friends having a good time that would be remembered. Seeing him with family that was on the other side of the country that he hadn't seen in decades. The food, omg the food. But this or say this is my partner so stay away Seems like an issue you really need to work out.

by Unhappy_Sandwich9493 4 months ago

This guy doesn't party

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Marriage I think is not overrated, expensive weddings are however

by Anonymous 4 months ago

You mean weddings not marriage dear

by Just-Rip7995 4 months ago

I think you are confused. Marriage and a wedding are not the same thing lol

by Dry_Platypus_592 4 months ago

I used to think this until, assets came into play and taxes 😂 it's been a long time it's only right for us to

by Anonymous 4 months ago

I think you mean weddings, which I totally agree with.

by Unlikely-Risk-8006 4 months ago

I think OP is trying to say weddings, not marriage

by NumerousCurve 4 months ago

Weddings are, but not martiage. My wife and I attended multiple weddings before we were married and we noticed the bride and groom looked exhausted and miserable. We went to a judge and got a simple civil marriage, then told our (disappointed) parents. They got over it and it was one of the best decisions we ever made. We saved money, didn't expect money or favors from friends, and avoided a lot of drama/stress.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

marriage carries legal repercussions like property rights, and like medical and end of life decisions. But sure, strip all of those away then maybe it's just symbolic status if you're looking at it in a secular way.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

nahhhhhhhhh

by Hermannnader 4 months ago

I've never understood those extravagant wedding ceremonies especially when the divorce rate is 42% in the United States.

by Silver-Historian2832 4 months ago

I work in weddings for a living. Some people have family come from all over the world and have a remarkable event joining game, some do it for status, some do it because they dream of a wedding, some because they're expected to, some do it for the party, some do it lowkey, some elope, some prime never Wed and have domestic partnerships. It's literally whatever you want it to be.

by garret06 4 months ago

Agree, but we don't have that "your wife owns you financially". So it's just another excuse to have a party.

by Intelligent-Post 4 months ago

not unpopular when it comes to weddings and marriage is a legal contract with certain benefits but is ultimately a social construct

by estefania00 4 months ago

it doesn't have to be very expensive and the best weddings aren't the one's that cost the earth. yes I think it's fairly pointless but the ladies like it

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Marriage is a legal construct that can be quite valuable. Weddings are expensive princess for a day events.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Yes it is and we are superior to you /s While you think of me, I clap some cheeks and then wait for my sandwich. Also, I can afford it, what makes me more superior /s

by Difficult_Act 4 months ago

Wait, in America you don't cover the wedding's cost off of the guests gifts?

by Ok_Horror97 4 months ago

'this is my partner so stay away' — very immature way of thinking. Marriage is a public announcement of commitment and public acceptance of it. It has a big importance in society and supported by laws. And for women it is very, very special event.

by Inevitable_Mail 4 months ago

People take opportunity to have the weirdest status symbol: tattoos, jewerly, spectacles… it's no surprise it could be marriage or venues for some. Friend of mine wanted their naturalisation to happen in a central location, for prestige. Ugh. My status symbol is not caring about that: small wedding ceremony, went to a normal local pub afterwards, normal miserable life that day and after that! Quite proud of it.

by Anonymous 4 months ago