Cancelling hangout plans made if one or two people are unavailable is not ok and should not be normalized, amirite?

Depends how many people are supposed to go and what it is. If 50% or more can't make it I see no problem in canceling an event. If it's just some buds hanging out doing nothing then it would just turn into a regular hang out sesh?

by Longjumping_Dirt8558 5 months ago

Plot twist: The hangout was just OP and two others.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

50% or more sure but cancelling because one or two people can't make it and they will complain afterwards about you hanging out without with them is stupid.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

This really only happens when the available people aren't comfortable hanging out with who's left.

by Amyajacobson 5 months ago

Yep. I'm going to hang out with my friends, who invited their friends. Their friends aren't necessarily my friends.

by PresentAdvanced663 5 months ago

No not necessarily, there can really be situations where someone in the group is just not available for a hangout/event for whatever reason.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Take it for the hint it is.

by nrice 5 months ago

What hint? This isn't based on personal experience, it's just a discussion I heard on talk radio recently and it got me thinking.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Who cares if this is based of your personal experience? It's a hint. If you invite two people to do something, one cancels, and then the second one cancels because of the first, one of those two people didn't want to hang out with you. Expand as necessary on either end.

by nrice 5 months ago

I'm not talking about a situation where you invite two people to do something, one cancels and then the second one cancels because of the first. I'm talking about a situation where a friend group made up of 4 to 6 people cancels a planned hangout just because one or at most two people can't make it.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Reading comprehension, read my last sentence slowly.

by nrice 5 months ago

Hangout for 1

by Carlotta20 5 months ago

That's not a hangout, not a proper one anyways.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

People are perfectly allowed to hang out even if not everyone in the friend group can hang out at a planned moment I'm really not sure why you'd think anyone disagrees with this.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Some might, I know some people who would. It's a matter of mindset.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

They don't want to hang out with only you. Whoever cancelled might have been the bridge in the friendship you share with the others.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I'm not talking about hanging out with only me, I specifically mentioned a 'friend group' so at least 4-5 people or more. Also this isn't about me, it's not something that happened to me, at least not recently.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Yes. The 4 or 5 do not want to hang out without the buffer friend.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

That's not what I'm talking about.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Seems like what you're talking about

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I don't think it's really normal to be relieved when plans are cancelled no matter how old you are but hey you do you. If I know I will be relieved when plans are cancelled then I just take myself out of the equation prior (in this case the hangout plans).

by Anonymous 5 months ago

In my experience it's as others have already stated with the "read the room" vibe. If one or two people are the ones that tend to make the gatherings fun and entertaining then they end up cancelling, it's not really surprising that the others follow suit and just opt to cancel the outing altogether. Very rare for a friend group to be that tight knit, especially the older you get. Usually have a couple great friends, a few good friends, and the rest are recurring background characters. I typically do not want to go out in bigger groups, but there are a few people I'll bite the bullet to go out for if they invite me. If they end up not being able to go out, best believe I'm staying home as well.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

You are missing the point. This isn't about others opting to cancel the outing altogether because those that tend to make it fun are absent, it's about them opting to cancel everything because they are afraid that those missing out will get upset at them.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Op YOU are missing the point lol

by Anonymous 4 months ago

The point that you're missing is that you are an asshole and no one wants to hang out with you

by Anonymous 4 months ago

You're adorable, this again ISN'T about me and ISN'T about a personal experience.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

You're acting like you're 3 years old and no one wants to slide down the slide with you lololol

by Anonymous 4 months ago

For the hundredth time, this is a general discussion, it's not about me.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

I was gonna give you the Benny of the D for a language barrier but your responses have proven that isnt rightfully due

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Oh no! You speak languages!!!!! How threatening. You must be VERY VERY SMART

by Anonymous 4 months ago

I am, I have to be in order to speak that many languages. How many languages do you speak? You want to play games, we'll play games! How many languages do you speak?

by Anonymous 4 months ago

You're missing the point if you think they're really opting to cancel everything because of the original friends cancelling and a "fear of missing out". Judging by the combativeness you've had with every reply trying to highlight this fact, guessing it's a lost cause to continue beating the dead horse.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

I'm not missing the point, they literally say that this is why they're opting to cancel everything.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Op your responses are gross I think we know why no one wants to hang with you and it doesn't seem like it's an unpopular opinion atp

by Anonymous 4 months ago

How are my responses 'gross'? I don't think you understand what the word 'gross' means, I didn't insult or lash out at anyone. Also this isn't about me, it's a discussion I heard on the radio a few months ago and it got me thinking.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

lol maybe you don't realize it but you actually are coming off like someone who no one would want to hang out with

by Anonymous 4 months ago

It very much seems like it's about you and that's ok

by Anonymous 4 months ago

I did and I very much understand no one wants to hang with you and you're pissed about it and we're all trying to tell you why and you won't believe

by Anonymous 4 months ago

So see… this is my point you're talking to me like an asshole and I think we see why no one to hang with you and I think I, along with everyone except you, is receiving the point extremely well. And if it ISNT ABOUT YOU as you keep screaming to all of us then maybe STFU and say chalk it up to a "who cares" moment because for someone who isn't involved "ALLEGEDLY " you seem to very much care

by Anonymous 4 months ago

This is just a butt hurt rant.

by True_Relation_2567 4 months ago

The glue of the group cancelled

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Not necessarily, it has more to do with others being scared that the person missing out will get upset later on for the friend group hanging out with them.

by Anonymous 4 months ago

Get less codependent friends then

by Anonymous 4 months ago

My friends are fine, this isn't about me but a discussion I heard on talk radio where the guy was saying essentially what I wrote here.

by Anonymous 4 months ago