Do you also believe that people who are extremely confrontational are great at communication? If not, why do you think there is a clear correlation between the two concepts?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

You're overreacting by using "red flag".

by krislaurianne 3 months ago

If you're otherwise good at communicating then I'd say it's not necessarily a skill issue it's more psychological

by HornetApprehensive45 3 months ago

I am no confrontational as a preference and that's how I assume most people use it. When i have to do it for my job I am able..though I'll admit it takes some practice conversations on my own. That said I'm an excellent communicator. BUT I am not very confident....that's why I'm nonconfrontational

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Thank you. This guy doesn't know the difference. Trying to keep your emotions out of a disagreement or pick random stupid fights is not the same as not being able to speak up when you need to. Being non confrontational is a sign of maturity in my opinion. You can come out looking and feeling better in an argument if you don't let your ego or feelings get the best of you.

by Main-Tourist-8314 3 months ago

Non confrontational people are in control of their emotions. They are mentally strong and do not allow the words or actions of someone else, take them out of character A lack of communication skills has nothing to do with being non confrontational

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Not always mentally strong. They'll hold their tongue to avoid a confrontation but then seethe about the situation for months

by Hquitzon 3 months ago

I see it more as passive-aggressive. I'm surrounded by it and those people never get satisfaction.

by Working-Valuable-957 3 months ago

Calling someone's self admitted poor communication skills a red flag, is a red flag. See what I did there? People aren't perfect. Not being good at communication doesn't mean you aren't willing to grow. Thinking people are toxic because they aren't as skilled communicators as you by their own admission suggest you probably also antagonize people for other flaws they might have and be working on. People can grow. Calling every little thing a red flag just diminished the meaning of the word at all.

by Jacquelyn13 3 months ago

When people label themselves as "non-confrontational," they're often using softer language to describe what is ultimately an avoidance strategy. Healthy confrontation is absolutely essential in any meaningful relationship! Without it, issues fester under the surface, resentment builds, and you end up with much bigger problems down the road. Here's the thing though - there's a difference between being genuinely conflict-avoidant (which is often rooted in anxiety or past trauma) versus someone who simply doesn't want to put in the emotional work. Some people genuinely freeze up or shut down during conflict because they've developed these patterns from childhood or difficult past relationships. I'd argue it's not always about being "bad at communication" but rather having unhealthy coping mechanisms when it comes to difficult conversations. The red flag isn't necessarily the avoidance itself, but rather someone's unwillingness to work on this aspect of themselves.

by Routine_Progress 3 months ago

You got to find a good middle ground lol There is you getting treated like a doormat vs you assaulting people Gotta find the in-between

by Anonymous 3 months ago

depends on why they are non confrontational and to what extent. i find people pleasers incredibly exhausting to be around and also oddly manipulative in an unintentional way and they can certainly be exceedingly non confrontational, but a lot of non confrontational people simply have low fuses and/or are actually good in communicating their emotions before it ever needs to get to the "confrontational" level.

by parisianvergie 3 months ago