People start families too soon, amirite?

You're right on that

by Competitive-List5735 1 month ago

I know it seems a lot of people are getting married and popping out kids but that that's just where you live. We're actually at the most childless we've ever been. Around half of women under 40 have not had a child. It's actually worrying some people that were having so few children for economic and demographic reasons

by Anonymous 1 month ago

A 17 year old trying to tell people how to live lol

by Satterfieldkame 1 month ago

because 17 year olds aren't human 👍

by Haunting_Bird6428 1 month ago

They're human they just arent wise

by Anonymous 1 month ago

So are 5 year olds.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Everyone's timeline is different. I get where you're coming from, 20s are a great time to build your career, travel, and grow financially. But for some, starting a family early just fits their life plan. The key is making decisions that work for you, not following a one-size-fits-all approach.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

"Someone 20 can be mature and financially independent" - I'm sorry but that is very very much the exception not the rule. Just because you can drive with your feet doesn't mean you should do it!

by Icy_Art 1 month ago

Thanks captain obvious. Obviously it's not as common but life is a case by case basis thing. There aren't general rules for a lot of things. Plus try to include relevant examples instead of pulling stuff from the clouds.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Im guessing you had a baby young or married young too. Seems to be offending u

by Icy_Art 1 month ago

Im 19, going to college soon, single, no kids. Assumption without good reason and being ignorant aren't good qualities to have. Sorry you feel that way.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Its not an assumption i am 34 and have way more life experience than you. You still a baby at 19 and think u know it all

by Icy_Art 1 month ago

I got married 25 years ago when I was 20. No regrets. Longer you wait all the good ones get snatched up. All the things you say people should do in their 20's we did together.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That's what a come to the internet for, to listen to life and relationship advice from a 17yo high schooler

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Honestly the opposite is a much bigger problem right now. People are waiting too long to get serious about starting a family

by Existing-Education83 1 month ago

Yeah, OP is relying too much on their limited first hand observations. The average age for marriage and procreation have only been going up in the past decades.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

This is definitely silly and wrong..you don't have unlimited time to start a family.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I completely agree with you Mid 20s to early 30s is the best time to start for a family Having some sense of stability and a career Having something to offer your kids and not just having kids just to have them So many of these young people just have the kid have them watch tv and YouTube and don't even raise them Have no wisdom to give them, nothing to offer but trauma and stress. I know this isn't the case for everyone and I fully acknowledge that I'm a little biased bc I was born to an older mother who had all her ducks in a row before having me.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Plenty of my friends got married early. Most of them are on their 2nd marriages now, a few working on a 3rd. It worked out for a few of them but everyone has their own journey.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Gran ejemplo de la decadencia estadounidense

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Its a catch 22. While I agree that 20s is for traveling, finding out who you are, and figuring out career, 18-25 is probably the best time to have all your kids, physically speaking. Thats when I had boundless energy and no health issues. Im 42 now, plenty of money and own a house but I would literally die if I had a baby. Or even a toddler for that matter.

by aurelie01 1 month ago

"I am 17, now let me tell you how you should spend your 20s" wut lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Nope have never and will never support folks having kids before 25, even with the $$$. To much life to live and all that. Really early 30s seems the best. Im childfree though so there is all that.

by Ameliamertz 1 month ago

I don't even recommend getting married until AT LEAST 25.

by Formal_Ask_1912 1 month ago

I got married pretty early. We did a bunch of traveling and financial growing together, then I have my first kid at 24. That's what works for us! It's a very personal choice. I do think before 20 is probably too young for most, but it really just depends.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

No they don't. Don't fall in to the trap of putting it off. Biologically speaking getting married at 30 and trying to start a family after that will lead to a greater risk of one person being infertile or birth defects. Not worth it to wait. Trust me.

by Mission-Result 1 month ago

Oh boy found the science denier. Good luck with your geriatric pregnancies.

by Mission-Result 1 month ago

I am not saying to turn the retirement homes into whore houses. I'm only saying that people need to have a good foundation to give to their children before they have them. That usually comes with time.

by Competitive-List5735 1 month ago

One might argue you can lay all the foundation you want, but that home might still end up being vacant.

by effiekshlerin 1 month ago

You said the absolute minimum age to start a family should be 30. This is the age where infertility and birth defects start to become much greater risks.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm just saying don't put off starting a family. You're going to regret it.

by Mission-Result 1 month ago

There's plenty older couples who have children who're completely fine

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Statistically speaking you run a greater chance of it going south. Anecdotes aren't reality.

by Mission-Result 1 month ago

So you'd rather people have kids just to have them? No career? Stability? Wisdom? Education?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Alright 🤷🏾‍♀️

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Why do people start families? What kind of question is that lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

With the way relationships are these days I don't blame anyone for "waiting". If I got married to the people in my early 20s and teens and be stuck with some less than stellar options. I was with a man for 3 years, we were going to get married have kids and such. Then he decided to cheat. Thank God I didn't marry him.

by ReserveParticular 1 month ago

18 is definitely way too young. 30 is way too old IMO, although the current economic climate makes it more the reality, unfortunately. If not even older. IMO, you need to at least be over 21. I've seen way too many young marriages fail. Because they rushed things before 21. You hit that age, drinking age. When most peers are going out to bars and parties, enjoying a social life. That's truely the freedom age. Young adults need to get that out of thier system before settling down. You go getting married and having kids before that and you become bitter and resentful for being tied down too soon with a family and will eventually cheat, leading to a failed marriage.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

The cheating part always seems to come before kids or marriage anymore. I've seen so many couple about to take the leap into marriage only for one of them to cheat. Can't marry a cheater no matter how much of your 20s you waste on them.

by ReserveParticular 1 month ago