The vast majority of catfishing leading to IRL interactions are women on datings apps, amirite?

My unpopular opinion is that online dating would work if people were honest. Honest in their pics, honest about their background, honest about what they're looking for. Like I don't know if people are lying with the intention to be manipulative or if people are insecure or actually delusional. But the dishonesty is exhausting and sad, and that's what's ruining online dating. Not the apps' fault.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yes I've been on dates with guys from dating apps who lie about their height, have used pictures of their better looking older brother, have lied about their age, have used pictures of when they were skinny and had hair and show irl fat and bald. They hide kids and the last date I went on hid the fact that he was in a relationship which has happened to me before with other men too

by Anonymous 1 month ago

my biggest complaint from my lady friends about guys on apps is that they don't know what a guy currently looks like from his profile bc of how common it is to have pictures from like, over a year ago. I feel like this interaction is so classic among stubborn guys: "You can improve your profile by having a bunch of recent photos of you out and about" "I don't really take pictures when I'm doing stuff" "Okay, well can you ask your friends to take pictures with your friends so your profile can improve?" "We're guys, we don't really do that" "Can you ask a friend to take photos of you?" "No"

by Anonymous 1 month ago

"I don't really take pictures when I'm doing stuff" "Okay, well can you ask your friends to take pictures with your friends so your profile can improve?" "We're guys, we don't really do that" "Can you ask a friend to take photos of you?" "No" I feel like that's not stubborn guys, it's just guys. We don't take selfies and the only time our friends won't make fun of us for asking them to take a picture of us is if we are holding something we caught, or holding an object to our crotch and pretending it's our penis. All the pictures I have of myself that don't involve one of those things was taken by a woman in my life who decided there needed to be a picture taken. We do make endless amounts of videos of ourselves being dumb and/or breaking things, but women don't seem to enjoy those that much, so they probably wouldn't be much use on a dating app.

by Electrical-Goat-3980 1 month ago

respectfully mate, are you so worried of your friends making fun of you for wanting to better your chances of getting a date that you just think not trying is the better alternative? it's just so illogical. "Yes, I am using a photo based app to hopefully meet women, but no way in hell I'm going to actually take photos for it!"

by Anonymous 1 month ago

used old pics when he used to have hair One of my friends matched with a girl who used old pics from when she used to have two legs instead of just one.

by Electrical-Goat-3980 1 month ago

I mean yeah…let's just agree people of all genders are awful and we should adopt some rescue animals instead of dating 🤣🤣🤣

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Same!

by Mission_Diet 1 month ago

I would say they in average suck in different departments. Hard to come with an overall suckmeter.

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

Filters, angles, old pictures, and excessive makeup isn't catfishing. Its catfishing when you just pretend to be an entirely different person.

by Ernestschamberg 1 month ago

remember a date i had where the girl looked size 10 on her selfies, but when i met her, she was 350-400lbs

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Ok, still not catfishing though.

by Ernestschamberg 1 month ago

You said "entirely different person". That difference in percieved weight off pics and irl IS the difference between two entirely different people. And practically everyone would agree

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Comparing haircuts to weight is crazy. Haircuts can influence how your face is framed but being surprised with 350-400 pounds is literally an entirely different person than what was presented. Thats morbidly obese, weight affects EVERYTHING, from head to toe

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Do not give importance to that profile that is against you. He knows you're right, but he won't admit it.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Again, you don't seem to understand what catfishing is. Being misleading about your appearance if something that can be annoying to deal with, but it's not catfishing.

by Ernestschamberg 1 month ago

Youre being a bit too strict on the definition when everyone uses it for "misleading" bro Also you seem to think being surprised with someone thats morbidly obese would just be an inconvenience 😭

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My God... counterattacking is your favorite sport, right?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Wrong filters angles and old pictures is the literal definition of catfishing

by Anonymous 1 month ago

No the *literal* definition of catfishing per google is the activity of catching catfish."with the Mississippi River far below its normal level, the catfishing kept getting better and better" informal•US the process of luring someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

No, I would not call lying about your job catfishing, try not to jump to your assumptions too quickly there.

by Ernestschamberg 1 month ago

That is an excellent defence of your point. I completely agree

by Budget_Lettuce2213 1 month ago

If everyone had such a scam detection radar scam attempts would not exist. Being scarred and paranoid from being tricked or from research doesn't make it their fault for falling for the scam.

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

I used the term scam because I'm taking about it overall, any kind of scam. Catfishing is just a tiny fraction of it.

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

You are scarred and paranoid because a woman you went on a date with was not as hot as she was in real life? Wow. The trauma.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

No. Maybe partially from a long LTR which ended from my end for some misrepresentations about who she was which became even more apparent after it ended. Nothing related to looks or cheating. But I dated after that for a short while

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

What I've learned is that if you're shopping for partners on apps like you're shopping for trinkets on Amazon, you're going to get what you pay for.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Getting what you pay for is a very fair deal. Buying a Civic listing with pictures of a Ferrari Enzo is not

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

RemindMe! -3 hours

by Anonymous 1 month ago

A. That's not what catfishing is. B. Men will really complain on the internet that you didn't look picture perfect in person after using the photo filters they invented to live up to the beauty standards they invented, while giving no importance to your kindness, humor, personality, etc. OP sounds like a boring date.

by jadonlowe 1 month ago

The biggest critics of women's looks has always been other women.

by Upset_Individual 1 month ago

Even if this was true, it's quite obviously not something that came into existence devoid of male influence. The patriarchy and men, who are always so proud to have been the once "making the world", are the reason why women compare themselves and others to what men find attractive. Reducing women on how they look is why some of them feel to have to compete on that level. The less women need men, the less they need to compete with each other about beauty and the less they will care. So, it is definitely getting better and there is hope it will continue to get better.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You want to put a square in the silhouette of a circle... don't embarrass yourself this way.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

"Men will really complain on the internet that you didn't look picture perfect in person after using the photo filters they invented to live up to the beauty standards they invented" HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA this is so wrong and any rational woman would agree

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I have a 6-year-old niece who has a greater capacity for debate and conceptualization. Not to mention contextualizing. These types of people have to include in every argument something that blames the man. They bore and tire...

by Anonymous 1 month ago

It is quite right. And absolutely ridiculous. Not a current concern of mine right now as I am no longer single, but it has been like this for a very long time.

by Forrest57 1 month ago

I mean I get the point you are trying to make. But it's kind of out of the point to tell a random guy , you are the reason we are using filters, when he feels deceived. Imagine a guy telling you he is super tall and comes up shorter than you. And he says it's your fault and women's fault for setting up height as a standard for men . It makes no sense , just an excuse . I am just shocked that people can't tell when someone is using a filter. Especially if it makes them supposedly look totally different.

by BidPast9194 1 month ago

What gender are you attracted to?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm apacheattackhelicoptersexual. I identify as a Boeing 777

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

I think he meant are you dating men or women. I'm assuming women

by DocumentUpstairs6695 1 month ago

For the last 6 years, neither

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

Why do you have such a convicted opinion that most catfishing is done by women on dates when you don't have much experience with women or dating?

by DocumentUpstairs6695 1 month ago

I have a past. And non personal research which tend to leads to a far better view about reality rather than personal experiences

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

I see. What did your research consist of?

by DocumentUpstairs6695 1 month ago

Hahaha attack helicopter ur so funny 😐

by camdenaufderhar 1 month ago

I didn't ask

by camdenaufderhar 1 month ago

You are joining the conversation with criticism. No difference

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

Your "joke" is an unfunny transphobic right wing meme so yeah

by camdenaufderhar 1 month ago

I treat disrespect with disrespect. It was on purpose

by marjolaine77 1 month ago

Even if it's true it's way lower stakes

by Anonymous 1 month ago