I find it comical and funny, when people say yes tell me what burdens you, amirite?

Who says this?

by Traditional-Taro-682 3 months ago

Dunno

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Are you talking about people who offer to listen while you vent but then use it a reason to ditch you or as ammunition for gossip? Took me a minute to decipher that. When did we decide commas can just go anywhere? Either way, yeah, I'd argue that's a commonly known and agreed upon toxic trait.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It sounds like you're expecting one person to take on the whole of your burden, and solve it somehow- this is not realistic. It's hard work to understand someone else's story, their feelings. Listening with real attention isn't easy, and it's even more difficult if a disjointed, angry, hours-long rant comes your way. It sounds like you're overwhelming those who offer tp help. Maybe dial it back a bit.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

...so laugh at them and walk away?

by Few_External 3 months ago

Fair point but why would someone ask you to open up to them and then not want to listen when you do?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I wouldn't dream of trying to defend the reasoning behind that... hence why I'd be inclined to just peace TF oot. 😅

by Few_External 3 months ago

I agree. Too many supposedly deep people in the world. But once you actually open yourself up, it's 'oh, bye!' I'm not saying one should overburden others with their own problems. I'm saying there's too many people out there who actually don't care about anyone! There's definitely a balance. I don't burden people with my issues by dumping the whole truck on them. But a lot of people could learn to be less shady and have deeper conversations every once in awhile.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Bless you! What a beautiful answer! Honestly

by Anonymous 3 months ago

There was once this person who came in every day with a problem. We're taught to be nice to them. Give them space to talk. However, it can be draining when it's every day. It's worse yet when you overhear them complaining to others about something you did and something that should've been brought up to you as opposed to others. Figuring out what we project into the world may allow yourself to understand why people behave the way they do.

by Illustrious_Court 3 months ago

Okay good 👍

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Yeah, that's a fact too

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Maybe don't burden fair weather friends with stuff you should work out in therapy.

by Nina56 3 months ago