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I find it comical and funny, when people say yes tell me what burdens you, amirite?
by Anonymous2 months ago
Who says this?
by Traditional-Taro-6822 months ago
Dunno
by Anonymous2 months ago
Are you talking about people who offer to listen while you vent but then use it a reason to ditch you or as ammunition for gossip? Took me a minute to decipher that. When did we decide commas can just go anywhere? Either way, yeah, I'd argue that's a commonly known and agreed upon toxic trait.
by Anonymous2 months ago
It sounds like you're expecting one person to take on the whole of your burden, and solve it somehow- this is not realistic. It's hard work to understand someone else's story, their feelings. Listening with real attention isn't easy, and it's even more difficult if a disjointed, angry, hours-long rant comes your way. It sounds like you're overwhelming those who offer tp help. Maybe dial it back a bit.
by Anonymous2 months ago
...so laugh at them and walk away?
by Few_External2 months ago
Fair point but why would someone ask you to open up to them and then not want to listen when you do?
by Anonymous2 months ago
I wouldn't dream of trying to defend the reasoning behind that... hence why I'd be inclined to just peace TF oot. 😅
by Few_External2 months ago
I agree. Too many supposedly deep people in the world. But once you actually open yourself up, it's 'oh, bye!' I'm not saying one should overburden others with their own problems. I'm saying there's too many people out there who actually don't care about anyone! There's definitely a balance. I don't burden people with my issues by dumping the whole truck on them. But a lot of people could learn to be less shady and have deeper conversations every once in awhile.
by Anonymous2 months ago
Bless you! What a beautiful answer! Honestly
by Anonymous2 months ago
There was once this person who came in every day with a problem. We're taught to be nice to them. Give them space to talk. However, it can be draining when it's every day. It's worse yet when you overhear them complaining to others about something you did and something that should've been brought up to you as opposed to others. Figuring out what we project into the world may allow yourself to understand why people behave the way they do.
by Illustrious_Court2 months ago
Okay good 👍
by Anonymous2 months ago
Yeah, that's a fact too
by Anonymous2 months ago
Maybe don't burden fair weather friends with stuff you should work out in therapy.
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