Calling you wife "my wife" instead of by her name is rude, amirite?

I refer to her as my wife if I'm talking to someone that doesn't know her or know of her. Otherwise just calling her Jennifer would seem odd

by allanfeest 1 month ago

Especially since her name is Mary

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Exactly this. It's no different than me saying "my sister" when I'm talking about her to someone who doesn't know her.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You can just say "my wife Jennifer" and from then on refer to her as Jennifer.

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Blink twice if "your wife" has you tied up and held hostage

by weissnateunice 1 month ago

Or they can just continue to say "my wife" because they aren't concerned about some random internet stranger going out of their way to be offended by something completely harmless.

by madisyneichmann 1 month ago

Sounds like you're just really looking for something to be offended about.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I immediately wonder if you're offended when people call their parents Mom and Dad vs their names?

by mafaldabailey 1 month ago

Who wrote this? As a wife, I love when my husband calls me his wife. Nothing to do with possession, we're just proud to belong together.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My wife has the same opinion but hates when it comes out as THE wife. The wife has us going to the beach today.

by willthora 1 month ago

Ahahaha that I understand. It's like saying 'the old ball and chain'.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Came to say this 💯

by Anonymous 1 month ago

literally. i see it the exact opposite way. when someone says it, i think "aw that's so cute!" it's like they're really happy to call their spouse their wife/husband. I think it's endearing. to be honest, i can definitely see how someone would think the other way i think it's an optimism vs pessimism thing.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

So the typical conversation with him would be like "wife pass me that salt" 😂

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Stupid thing to say. You talk about introducing or talking about, not talking to. Tell me you're frustrated and single without telling.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You know that people talk differently in private than public right?

by Repulsive-Bid 1 month ago

Maybe she doesn't want her name known.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That wh we use the codename Shelly. All my coworkers think I am married to Shelly.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Very odd. What is she a secret agent? Give me a break.

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Is Frodosoul your legal name?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Prime example of taking something normal and inoffensive and turning it into a huge deal.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yeah, a stupid one too.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Well aren't you a smart one 🙄

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Only use name if the person doesn't really know me or my wife

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Same

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I think this more about you than them. You must feel some way?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Do you also find it rude if someone says my brother or my friend?

by Aggravating-Ebb8094 1 month ago

If you're talking about your brother or your friend a lot but never by their name yes it's odd

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Yeah this guy doesn't know you. The less you know about him the happier he is

by Anonymous 1 month ago

In all fairness, with co-workers, etc. I routinely use "my husband" when talking about my spouse. I have to consciously remind myself to use his name occasionally. Though for me this is partly a habit grown out of the fact that he and my brother have the same name. So its not that unusual to refer to them by relationship rather than name even among family.

by Wide-Island-5702 1 month ago

Better than saying "my old lady"

by bcollins 1 month ago

The moosis?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

😂👏🏼

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

The old ball and chain.

by Grand_Sleep 1 month ago

Well this certainly is an unpopular opinion lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

He definitely hit the mark.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I really don't see how saying "my wife" in any way implies being an object or a slave

by Anonymous 1 month ago

1) you don't need to know my wife's name 2) I myself never call my wife by her name, nor does she by mine.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Personally I feel that using my partners actual name with casual acquaintances feels overly familiar, you don't need to know her name if we're not actually friends/family.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

In your own example, you used "the kids" instead of referring to each of them by name. Using your relation to a person is very normal. My wife, my boss, my doorman, my father, my sister . . .

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I think sometime people refer to their mate as their husband or wife so you will know who they are talking about, rather than some random name .

by Anonymous 1 month ago

If I'm talking to someone who hasn't met my wife I'm just going to say my wife and not her name. They have no need to know my wife's name if they haven't ever met her and are likely never going to. It also helps prevent confusion. Imagine if your wife had the same name as someone else's wife, or a coworker, now every time either one comes up you need to clarify. If I just said my wife there is no problem. I actually have a close friend whose wife has the same name.

by Educational_Bit 1 month ago

Maybe they're proud that they have a wife, or just protecting some form of their wife's anonymity whilst she isnt there. It also lets people know the persons relation to you straight away, instead of just saying a name and expecting people to just assume they're your partner. In your particular example, it's almost certainly for anonymity, not everything requires thorough introduction and explanation

by Anonymous 1 month ago

People don't always remember others' names, but they will relationships.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Soon to be engaged here and i cannot wait for my partner to refer to me as his wife hahaha

by Anonymous 1 month ago

No it isn't.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I think you're over thinking this. If they know your wife, fine, but do you tell stories about your siblings at work and use their name? If people know your wife then it is rude, but otherwise it's weird to use the name of people the other party don't know in a story

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Maybe he doesn't want to use his wife's name since he's being filmed.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I would be upset if you called my wife "my wife" as well.

by ComposerTotal8593 1 month ago

I think this guy is jealous that he doesn't have someone to call "my wife"

by Feisty_Brilliant9296 1 month ago

You ok, Borat's wife?

by doraharris 1 month ago

As if I remember that my co-worker has a husband named Steve. Although I do remember her cat's name

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I understand completely, thats why i exclusively refer to my wife as "the ol' ball and chain"

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I can pretty much guarantee OP isn't married

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Or he just doesn't want you to know his wife's name.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I mean technically its a title too

by Anonymous 1 month ago

When telling a customer you don't know that you have to talk to your boss, do you say "I need to go talk to Jim first"? No, it just makes it less confusing for parties who don't know each other.

by auercolt 1 month ago

How is it arrogant? And how does it imply she's property? How does it imply she's a slave?

by candidoreynolds 1 month ago

Nah over sharing with strangers isn't always good

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Mine gets annoyed when I introduce her as 'my first wife' for some reason.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

True story. One of my colleagues was, say, "Sharon". Another colleague's wife's name was also "Sharon". He used to mention her wife often by name during small talk during calls and all of us confused that with the coworker "Sharon" every single time Sharon will pick up the kids... Wait what? Sharon is going away for a week to attend VP's meeting ... What? Sharon told me so & so ....

by tracy64 1 month ago

What if her name is wife? What if she's not my wife but someone else's and I'm just borrowing her?

by arlenewiza 1 month ago

Why do you need to know her name? Often I will use "my wife" because of context.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You only get a name if you know the person too. Otherwise, my wife, my brother, and I took my son and my nephew to Disney since my mother always wanted to take us, but never got the chance to

by Sauereaston 1 month ago

If I'm having a conversation with how do I know if Mary is your wife or your cat

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Who the hell is Patricia?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

If people lack the context of who 'Sarah' (e.g.) is then it's easier for everybody to describe them as 'my wife'. As you would with your brother, sister, nextdoor neighbour etc.

by JuggernautVisible 1 month ago

Sounds unnecessarily confusing if said person doesn't know who the wife is. Every time "Patricia" would be said, the listener would probably have to pause to connect that to being the person speaking's wife, and may not connect it at all. Names are a dime a dozen, while people tend to have at most 1 wife.

by Ebertalfonzo 1 month ago

I just call my wife (woman) and she calls me (man). We never call each other by our actual names.

by rettahegmann 1 month ago

If my wife didn't want to be referred to as my wife then she shouldn't have married me

by Miller12 1 month ago

I just think it's weird when I meet someone for the first time and they refer to their wife by their name directly instead of letting me know that they are speaking about their wife.

by erna64 1 month ago

Women generally refer to their husbands by their names!

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

I don't think I know any woman who calls their husband or boyfriend by their name when mentioning them, unless I actually know them. Otherwise, its always by title.

by karinapfannerst 1 month ago

I call her the wife. The wife is working today.

by MentalMistake2768 1 month ago

I get offended when my husband says my name. I'm your wife, honey, bubs, etc. I feel like he's angry with me if he uses my IRL name.

by Benton00 1 month ago

So the typical conversation with your husband would be "wife where did you put my glasses?" 😂

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Do you think it's rude to call a queen by her title? When I say my wife, I mean that she's my queen. She also calls me her husband. Which means that I'm her slave. Is that also rude? I refer to her as my wife to people who don't know her and usually call her by her name around people who do know her. I personally think it would be less appropriate to call her by her name during a YouTube video, unless she was involved with the video, simply because we don't know her.

by karinapfannerst 1 month ago

My husband hasn't called me by my first name in a decade, it sounds so weird to hear him say it lol

by Street-Net9022 1 month ago

Nice! So he calls you "wife" instead of your name? "Wife, what's for dinner tonight?" 😂

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Babe, honey, sweetheart, my love, honey bunny, an endless stream of mushy gushy grossness 😆

by Street-Net9022 1 month ago

Don't be so naive.

by Pbaumbach 1 month ago

Yep. Unpopular. And OP seems unclear on what constitutes rude behavior.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

🙄

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

How rude!

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Frodosoul, you're pretty whiny for someone with an unpopular opinion. Does your wife like that sort of behavior?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Her name isn't your business and he's making a YouTube video, which is entirely different from holding a conversation. And even within a conversation it depends on the relationship. Some of my colleagues are friends my wife knows and vice versa. Most aren't and wouldn't even know that I'm married until I drop "my wife's sick, so I'll work from home the next few days" M

by Freidabaumbach 1 month ago

I could care less about her name. But it's rude to act like she doesn't have one! We already know she's your wife! But it's rude that you act like she's nameless.

by Inner_Scallion 1 month ago

Again, her name is not your business. You are rationalising your nosiness, that's all.

by Freidabaumbach 1 month ago

"My wife" seems fine to me as a woman. "The wife" however, is like nails on a damn chalkboard. That one comes off as disrespectful and arrogant to me. Like she's a nameless, faceless object and service worker, like "The maid" or "The nanny."

by Anonymous 1 month ago

But what if I say it like borat?

by Gabrielle99 1 month ago

This is truly unique and unpopular. Sheniqua is gonna get a kick out of this

by Willmsroselyn 1 month ago

If I do my best Borat voice "this my wife" are you going to crash out?

by Maytreutel 1 month ago

I refer to my wife as The Wife.

by orvalfadel 1 month ago

No, it's not. You're just overthinking a perfectly normal behaviour.

by Anonymous 1 month ago