Having a tall boyfriend is terrible, amirite?

I'm a 6'3 guy and my ex was 5'2, I couldn't believe how much more comfortable and easy things got when I started dating my girlfriend who is 5'8

by Brandtnitzsche 1 month ago

I totally get that, the people I dated before were basically the same height as me and I was blissfully unaware that there even could be anything to think about

by Anonymous 1 month ago

100%. I had the same situation and she'd get mad when I wouldn't want to hold hands. It was impossible without me leaving over. I always looked ridiculous next to her in photos too.

by johnnygoyette 1 month ago

Because 5'8" lifted 5'2" when you wanted to do kissies?

by Living_Confusion_860 1 month ago

Big Neck Brace is a power deeper than we know 👀

by Dangerous_Cup8583 1 month ago

I never understood that either. Some women are like 5'9"+ so I get it, but when someone is 5'6" or under demanding north of 6', it's like, do you want them to trip over you? lmao. A 0 to 6 inch gap sounds the best for height tbh.

by Cultural_Syllabub 1 month ago

it's peer pressure and hypergamy. An anthropology teacher once showed us a bell curve saying that most adult men are in the 5'8" range (think of all the people in China and an average) and that people like himself and me, who are taller than 6'2" are taller than about 95% of the human race. By landing a "genetic freak"* (*anthro teacher's words, not mine) you have selected a man who is more rare than others, and that is hypergamy. It also gives you a cheap excuse to reject 95% of the human race by using "you're too short" as a tool to discriminate against most of humanity. It might not be a sincere excuse, but it still works when you have no other disqualifier readily available

by Corkerykylee 1 month ago

I get the hypergamy angle at least, but I still feel like that goes out the window the moment you've been with someone that you got stand further back from, or crank your head back just to make eye contact. I guess it's just the desire to seek out a "genetic freak" rather than actually being with one.

by Cultural_Syllabub 1 month ago

My boyfriend's height wasn't a factor in what attracted me to him. I had no idea of his height before I fell in love with him, and never felt pressure from society etc to date a tall man. Most of my exs are not this tall.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

In my language hypergamy is about societal rank of a person which is more about diploma or money then heights lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My guy, you don't need an "excuse" or a "disqualifier" to reject someone. You can do it because you feel like it and you don't even need a reason.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

As someone who is 5'2, having an SO that is 6'+ sounds like a lot of neck pain

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Idk man, it just sounds weird and the thing is, some tall guys (not saying all of them) can have a really weird and infantalizing view of short girls and I just find it weird

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm so confused…wat

by Anonymous 1 month ago

If looking slightly up is giving you neck pain you might want to talk to a doctor lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

As a 5'7 man this isn't unpopular in my book! 😂 For one thing, we live longer.

by DogPrestigious2820 1 month ago

Wait. Tall men live longer lives than short men, on average? Or tall men live life elongated?

by Living_Confusion_860 1 month ago

I'm half a foot shorter than you and my husbands much more than a head taller. We don't have these issues.

by adriannaondrick 1 month ago

5'2" woman here. My ideal guy height is 5'5." Everything is so much easier!

by Qspencer 1 month ago

Girl you should not have to look up all the time! I am 4'11" and my boyfriend often bends down or picks me up.

by Minute-Foundation 1 month ago

This was written by a short dude, for sure!!

by Anonymous 1 month ago

100%

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Lmaooo fr

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Dude I wish, then they would finally take me seriously at the hardware store xd

by Anonymous 1 month ago

feels like you're maybe exaggerating as i'm 5' married to a man who's 6'7" and never experienced anything close to what you're saying

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Holy moly that's gotta be like the 99th percentile or something.

by Complete_Grab 1 month ago

yes, I was literally shown a bell curve in Anthropology class, and it's true, 6'7" is in the far end of the bell curve. People between 6'1 or taller make up about 5% of the human race

by Corkerykylee 1 month ago

we're on opposite ends of the spectrum, hahah! what makes it even funnier is that as a kid i was the tallest in my class for a bit (151cm at 9) and he was the shortest in his for a while (around 162cm at 15). we found our height/weight progression charts when organizing our documents after we got married and found this super interesting

by Anonymous 1 month ago

A head taller at that.... doesn't sound very "tall"

by Visible_Program 1 month ago

I'm 6 foot and my partner is 5'1 I've never had a problem kissing her either

by Plus-Constant-7522 1 month ago

That means your neck is most likely stronger then mine

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Or he needs to bend farther over. My wife's 5'2 and I'm 6'3 idk we've been together almost 10 years not really an issue.

by Right-Magician 1 month ago

Or her husband has better knees

by Anonymous 1 month ago

naw, the secret is to take out the knees first

by Corkerykylee 1 month ago

what would OP do without your infinite wisdom

by Old-Stay 1 month ago

Well I was not aware of this issue before I committed So I guess this is me, folks, I'm spreading the word XD

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yes she should fall out of love with her bf and go date someone shorter, cool.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Because other women want it. That's it.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

not females. women. and it just comes down to preference for some people, the same as hair color preference or style preference. i'm about the op's height and agree about dating someone around your own height, but i can understand why some people might disagree. to each their own.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

"not females. women." No, females. "and it just comes down to preference for some people, the same as hair color preference or style preference." Absolutely not. Hair color and style does not create the same problems as OP's situation

by Anonymous 1 month ago

yeah. women. female is an adjective. do you refer to men as males? are you the ferengi? okay. it's still a preference lmao. the op prefers dating people their own height. it doesn't matter the reason. it's a preference. something doesn't have to be a problem for it to be a preference.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I call us males and females

by Brooklyn53 1 month ago

are you the person i was responding to?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Not every woman wants this. Some of us want someone who we are compatible with. Being tall doesn't mean a relationship will be good

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You didn't specify. You said women, and not some women.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

where did i say that all women want a tall man?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Haha, true. Medium height is much better, I also prefer that.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

1,81cm here. GF is 1,50. To kiss her I go down to her. Just lean my head. Not as comfortable as just kissing ahead, but nothing that tires us off or anything

by Specialist_Sir 1 month ago

Like genuinely most of the time me and my gf kiss is also lying down or sitting. Only time we really struggle is doing 69 but other than that neck issues sounds insane

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Have no issues with 69 either

by Specialist_Sir 1 month ago

I'm 185 and my wife is 165, most activities are fine. But with my ex, she was 157? Yeah that caused issues, especially since I don't have the greatest back. I think a 20cm or less difference is ideal. Anything more you're asking for trouble. But I do remember someone here a few years back who was 200cm and his partner was 150cm, which ended up with his partner standing on a stool when arguing with him just so she would feel she was on equal footing.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yes, huge height differences is a pain in the ass and very hard to manage.

by sengerkatelin 1 month ago

Imo, dating people your own height makes the most sense So it was the tall men and not short kings who were 2nd class citizens all along...

by Haunting_Teaching 1 month ago

I agree. I love short kings!!!!

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm 6'1, my girlfriend is 5'1 and sometimes jokes around that I'm too tall

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm 5'6" and my girl is 4'11". She's like up to my shoulder. We have never had major issues. The rule I had read growing up was something like "date a woman 5-7 inches shorter." I think the sweet spot is actually around half of that. I find 3-4 inches to not prevent any issues during sex in various positions.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm 6'4 (193cm). One of my ex girlfriends was 4'11 (121cm). I'd basically just always pick her up when we kissed/hugged. She loved it.

by Caden58 1 month ago

I'm 5'4" and my husband 6'4". You always stand on your toes to kiss.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

There's no way this isn't a troll lol that XD

by Objective_Thanks 1 month ago

I'm 6'0" and have been with women who are 5'2". I never noticed any issues. I guess maybe if it were 6'6" and 5'2" it might be different but idk

by Financial_Sea 1 month ago

My boyfriend and I are the same height as you described but he's not the one with the neck pain, I (5'2€) am.

by averyankunding 1 month ago

Tall guy here. Have heard that girls can wear heels and not tower over me. You're on the shortish side so it's less of a big deal but a 5'8 women in heels can feel big next to a 5'8" guy. That's also part of the attraction, is it makes women feel small (not in a bad way).

by Perfect-Search-2761 1 month ago

Typically height isn't important in a horizontal plane

by Anonymous 1 month ago

It can be if one person has a longer torso compared to the other person

by averyankunding 1 month ago

Lol. True

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Ok, man, now that's a win. Smooch your perfect height match queen for me 💕

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Leave him with someone shorter.

by Lower-Stretch 1 month ago

Nah man, he brings me candy, I have too much Haribo riding on this

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My wife is a foot shorter than me. I always like to try for kisses when she's standing on stairs, or slightly up hill.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

But the forehead kisses!

by Round-Tangerine-4407 1 month ago

Ok, true, I respect that

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Everyone is the same height lying down…

by Franciscomoscis 1 month ago

Oh i disagree, I'm 6'2 and I found when I was dating that girls love it when you pick them up so they can wrap their legs and arms around you to make out & get frisky. The shorter the better in my opinion lol.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I mean, can he not pick you up? My ex was a lot shorter than me and I'd always bend down or pick her up for a kiss.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I swear that this reads like a short guy wrote it to vent about being short.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

OP, was height a basic attraction thing in the first place? Is it still? I mean was it always "terrible" and you liked other features, or you like something about it?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm 6'4 and my wife is 5'8 - 5'9.

by Brooklyn53 1 month ago

My boyfriend is 6'2 and I'm 5'6 but I often wear shoes with platforms. They're called creeper shoes lol, they're a gothic type of shoe, or I swear platform flip flops in the summer.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

and there are women in my country they day that they Date only Guys who are 180cm + but they are only 160 cm 💀

by Annalise25 1 month ago

I've tried to explain this to girls before. I'm a tall girl so when I say 'I want a man over 6ft' I really only mean I want a man who's 3/4 inches taller than me. Which would be a decent height difference as I would like to be shorter than my partner (tall girl insecurities). But I've spoken to shorter women 5'2-5'6 who also want over 6ft men and I just can't understand it. A 5'2 woman could date a 5'8 man and still be significantly shorter. The insistence of shorter women on someone HAVING to be 6ft or over is so confusing to me.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm 5'6", my husband is 6'3", zero problem so far. Been 10 years. How tall is your boyfriend?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Go find a twink your size then

by Icy-Apricot 1 month ago

I'm 5'1 / 5'2 and my partner is around 6', we never have any issues kissing or anything

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Lol, Mr. WineAndDogs2020 is nearly a foot taller than me. It's nice when I need something off the high shelf and don't want to break out the step stool. He's also an amazing cuddler cause he can wrap himself and completely envelop me.

by eusebio89 1 month ago

Okay and YOU agreed to date him. If it's an issue, just break up with him 🙄

by Anonymous 1 month ago

As a 5'2 girl with a 6'0 bf I feel you!

by averyankunding 1 month ago

Omg, it goes without saying, but you are the girl that makes the most sense for claiming that height equity makes the most sense! I'm average as a guy and I wish most American girls are as sane as you are on this matter.

by Particular_Price 1 month ago

I'm 175 cm and most of my girlfriends were in the 165-170 cm range, which always felt perfect. Just a bit shorter, but no life altering differences. I don't get the height difference appeal either.

by oreillyshakira 1 month ago

I'm 5ft7 married to a 6ft5 man, I have never found this to be an issue at all, I think you might have a neck issue or something.

by Elliechristians 1 month ago

Just sit down when you kiss?? (Hating rn bc I want a tall bf)

by Medical_Mark 1 month ago

If you are interested in the guy a massive height difference is a barrier, but if you're interested in an accessory to show off, the tallest is best

by Accomplished_Bet 1 month ago

Im 5'6 and had a 6'9 boyfriend. When I held his hand, I felt like a child.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I'm a full 13 inches taller than my girlfriend, it's a constant source of amusement. I'm not even that tall, she's just 4'11 and petite. I call her 3/4 of a person.

by Present_Knowledge325 1 month ago

I'm 164 and my husband is 185. I like him being tall, like he can reach all the stuff for me I can't reach. And idk why his height interferes with your frisky times..? All he has to do is lower his head a bit and you need to lift yours, not that difficult lmao.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My boyfriend is 6'8" and I am 5'1". I beg to differ. My man leans over though

by Upper-Park3827 1 month ago

install a ladder...for fun

by Corkerykylee 1 month ago

I'm not tall at all, 5'8" but I dated a girl who was 5' and it was absolutely problematic. Being specific, our personal relations were too tight. I'm not big at all but you could absolutely feel the uncomfortablility between the two of us. For some guys I think that's a big win, for me, not my thing at all. Comfort and love is most important

by Humble-Ant 1 month ago

My significant other would disagree, albeit I'm the go-to getter of things outside of her reach, but it's fine For reference I am 6'5 and she is 5'4

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My husband is 9 inches taller than me. It's never been an issue.

by GreatSignature 1 month ago