Proclaiming that your relationship survived cheating is lame and delusional, amirite?

People dont like that part because some people do make it work and do have self respect Thats it You can think thats not true, but that doesn't make it not true. People are fine with the idea of if someone cheats and you dont give them a chance. I would say most people are fine with that. But not everyone relationship and every situation is that same. If some people make it work and theyre ultimately happy, thats fine. I dont know if I could. I feel like it would always be there in the back of my head. But Ive known people who have, and good for them.

by Individual_Cake_5270 1 month ago

This is a popular opinion.

by Zestyclose_Writer 1 month ago

I think you're presupposing that any relationship that persisted despite cheating must not be in a good state. This cannot be empirically proven, and the only way to "defend" it would be to define (ad hoc) a "good state" in such a way that precludes prior cheating.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I think their real point was cheating shouldn't be glorified but yeah, they went off! Somehow made the popular opinion seem unpopular..

by Anonymous 1 month ago

OP clearly reads too many ig relationship memes and now thinks they're an authority

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Spoken just like someone who was cheated on and lacked the self respect to walk away

by Muted_Breadfruit_671 1 month ago

And the projection?🙂‍↔️

by Realistic_Living_959 1 month ago

Everyone has their own idea as to what is acceptable or a deal breaker. You should let them pursue the relationship that they want for themselves and keep your opinion to yourself.

by Initial_Dress 1 month ago

You can share your opinions but we are also allowed to say how unhinged they make you come off as.

by Kitchen-Bid 1 month ago

Oh boo. This is not an unhinged take.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You're the best man

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That wasn't the point the OP was making when they said keep your opinions to yourself. It's pretty clear cut.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That is funny I just noticed that too. That's hilarious actually

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You tell em

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Nah y'all wild. Personally I'd never give some a chance to cheat on me TWICE, but that's just me. Live you're life, you wanna go back to back, that's all you

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I would absolutely never stay with someone who cheated on me, it is one of not the biggest shatter of trust and respect you can do in a relationship. Anyone who cheats has no respect for their significant other, simple as that. If you cared you wouldn't cheat. I have no sympathy if someone stays with a cheater and it happens again

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I don't resent it because of what they mean to say; I get that. I resent as an R victim them comparing the two. There really was no need for that, and it derided their whole point. People on the internet always need something BIG to make their point. A real point stands on it's own. Once you start comparing cheating to that... you sound like an insensitive tool. Way worse than the people just doing their own thing and possibly making bad decisions.

by SpiteOk 1 month ago

Saying 🍇 isn't on the same level, but still using it as a comparison is wild. It's like saying.. I know of this really awful thing people probably don't want to be reminded of that greatly affects many women, children, and men... but I am going to use it to make my point. While also admitting "This really doesn't coincide with my point at all" It's on par with people who say "I am not racist but" or "I don't mean to be offensive but"

by SpiteOk 1 month ago

I refuse to believe you haven't been scammed by some random Indian.

by Remote_Area 1 month ago

LOL i havent

by Anonymous 1 month ago

if one of the experiences of life is getting cheated on and staying with a partner… i do NOT want to experience that 😭

by Claudine72 1 month ago

I would never risk being cheated on by the same person twice.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I will admit it's probably a nasty habit and not a good thing to openly say, but whenever people say that their relationship survived cheating, i'm like, "oh, your relationship sucks". One time I completely forgot that my co-worker was married. Because she had mentioned that her husband had cheated on her several times and they had survived it. So my brain categorized her as single.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Interesting how you seem to know the interworkings and dynamics of Someone's relationship more than they do to make such a statement.

by These-Opening 1 month ago

More of an abrasive opinion than an unpopular one

by joanie42 1 month ago

👏👏👏

by Some-Purchase 1 month ago

It is a lack of self respect. Tough times are a high tax bill or a lupus diagnosis. Not a full breach of contract. Y'all are insane out here.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Lol. Sure. And yet I could find a million boundaries that I would not accept that you probably have in your relationships where I believe you don't have any self respect. But I don't judge others because I don't know where they've been, come from, or the ins and outs of how their relationship has been. But yeah, go ahead and call everyone who works through rough parts in marriage or partnerships having "no self-respect" because a rando internet stranger says so lol.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I hate to tell you this, but if your partner cheats on you they don't particularly respect you. And if you accept that, it is highly-unlikely that you respect yourself.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Lol. I hate to tell you this, but things are much more nuanced sometimes. A woman cheating on her husband who hasn't had sex with her in 10 years, A husband cheating on his wife who is emotionally abusive, All of these people cheated but yet I would also call them victims of their own right, too. I wouldn't ever excuse cheating. But there is nuance and while you can keep your black & white thinking, the real world isn't like that, and you're a fool if you think things are just always so simple and easy. You are a fool if you think that you can judge someone else's self respect based upon things like this. It's so cute that people online wanna tell other people what their boundaries should be. Ya know one of MY boundaries? Letting other people tell me how I should think or if i have self-respect based upon their own projections. 🤷‍♀️ I literally have never been cheated on or have cheated, and yet still I can find and understand the nuance.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That you know of 😉 Stay sassy.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Nah. If you have respect you don't stick with people who trample your boundaries and self esteem. That's pathetic behavior.

by dante51 1 month ago

It's not for you to decide. It's up for each of us as individuals. And cheating can happen for so many different reasons. Acting like there is not a single chance that someone can redeem themselves over a single mistake is wild. I've never been cheated on. Never cheated. So I dunno. But I do know a marriage + kids + shared assets = I'm definitely going to try my best to work thru something that could be salvageable if they prove to me they are willing and able to change with consistency and honesty.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Where do you draw the line then? Verbal abuse? Physical abuse? At what point does passivity in the face of disrespect become a matter of self respect/sense of self worth?

by Muted_Breadfruit_671 1 month ago

That's up to EACH OF US AS INDIVIDUALS to draw the line. Cheating once when the couple hasn't had active sex in 10 years is hardly the same as emotional or physical abuse, something i know very well.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Bragging about driving a car that's "Totaled" isn't good. The car is still Totaled.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I have an even more unpopular opinion: cheating isn't the end of the world

by Acceptable_Pin_4217 1 month ago

I don't think it's crazy to think a relationship survived despite a breakup and outside dating. I can see how this might be cast similarly. (But I also truly believe only suckers think people will change, so I don't think that would ever be me.)

by Derekmraz 1 month ago

I mostly agree with you, with the exception that I think forgiving cheating could be warranted if you have kids with your partner. Not saying it justifies cheating, not by a mile. But you gotta just do what's best for the kids at the end of the day. But yeah besides that, yeah I know it's tough but if someone cheats you just gotta clean break, have a nice day.

by Time-Struggle8683 1 month ago

Too broad. At its most basic element, cheating is a betrayal of some sort. This is nuanced and can mean different things to different people. For instance some polyamorous relationships can be based on the fact that they place more value on an emotional connection than a physical one. In otherwords they've very clearly separated love and lust. When people feel cheated on, it's often emotional based. They are sharing an emotional connection with someone else AND being dishonest about it with their partner. Sex is usually just a byproduct. So often, yes people can survive cheating when the act of cheating was a coping mechanism, vs a belief that they found more value in their life from someone else. The latter is much harder to recover from.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Tf are you even talking about lady

by Anonymous 1 month ago

What exactly are you confused about? They don't like cheaters and people who make excuses for them. That was pretty clear.

by Remote_Area 1 month ago

Cheaters deserve rights too

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Extramarital sex is ok as long as you've discussed it w ur partner. It's the lying and breach of trust aspect that's harmful. Open relationships are a thing ya know

by Muted_Breadfruit_671 1 month ago