You shouldn't be ashamed to still be partying hard late past the age of 30. amirite?

33 is old? wtf?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Everyone's brains are tiktokified now and it's tragic. 23 is considered 'getting up there' now

by Technical_Exit 3 months ago

What does TikTok have to do with it? It was much worse before TikTok btw. An unmarried woman at 23 was a crying shame

by Dependent_Kale 3 months ago

Just the way they blame millennials for a lot, it's time to blame Gen z for things like "hating aging." No generation before has done that!

by Potential_Shopping63 3 months ago

It's an easy scapegoat. It's like the satanic panic. People pointing fingers at whatever

by Dependent_Kale 3 months ago

Agreed. Tiktok actually would promote living at home at 23 or channeling your inner child at 27 In the past, you had to grow up way quicker

by Extension_Catch_7853 3 months ago

i think it all scales. being 20 in your town and still partying with high schoolers is kinda sad, being 2 years out of college and hanging out on campus is kinda sad. I'm not saying don't party but every city has those bars/clubs that have mostly young people, super loud music, people getting sloppy drunk, and at a certain age it's kinda sad to be frequenting those places too.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

People are dumb and ignorant in the internet age. Thinking life ends at 29 🤦🏽‍♂️ lol It bears zero resemblance to actual reality. I know people in their 80s who still go out to dance and have fun every other weekend.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

tbf it wasn't too many decades ago since global life expectancy was mid 40's, so 20's would be mid life crisis back then.

by Beneficial-Turn 3 months ago

It never really was, though. That included massive numbers of infant/young child deaths dragging the average age of death down.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

There has never been a time when forties was average life expectancy. Even to the extent it was once lower than it is now (more like centuries ago), that was mostly due to infant mortality dragging the average down. If you made it to your fifth birthday, you had a pretty good shot of seeing your seventieth.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Tbf nobody likes you when you're 23

by Key_Kaleidoscope3807 3 months ago

Disagree, I think the opposite is true. 23 is way younger now than it was in the past In the 60s, we were sending 18 year olds off to die in Vietnam. Now, it's perfectly acceptable to be 23 living at home with your folks People had to grow up quicker in the past

by Extension_Catch_7853 3 months ago

I also feel like people are aging quicker in the younger generations. At 43 I'm younger looking and in better shape than a lot of mid 20 somethings I see. I think it's a combination of stress factors and fitness habits but don't know for sure.

by Jaredabernathy 3 months ago

The average American is 39 years old. So you really don't get to be old until you're 40 now. In the baby boom era it was 29. It's all relative

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Wait what? You think people only made it to 60 in the ‘baby boomer era'?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I'm 31 and I feel like if you looked after yourself in your 20s then 30s is pretty much the same. Physically I feel no different to being 25 I can still do all my running and weights the same. The only change is needing a bit more sleep to recover.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Studies have shown that the age related drop in physical performance hits at about age 60. There's some 5% drop in most performance metrics from 30-40 (enough that pro athletes have to hang it up) but not so much that your average person is much worse off I'm 40 and still spar in a boxing ring with teenagers / early 20 year olds without much issue. The biggest difference is that they have the spare time to go every day and I have a team to manage at work

by Sonyakihn 3 months ago

Yeah, the unfortunate truth that most people don't want to acknowledge is they feel old in their 30s because they take terrible care of themselves, never exercise, constantly eat junk, sleep 4h a night, etc. If you're healthy, you shouldn't really decline noticeably until after 50 at the minimum

by Hansenorlo 3 months ago

I still have a few drinks on the weekend in my 30s, I also track my water intake, make sure the majority of my meals are healthy, and average about 4-5 workouts a week. I actually find a workout the morning after is the best hangover cure because it forces you to re-hydrate. Probably helps with blood sugar imbalance and electrolytes as well.

by runteestevan 3 months ago

I literally turned to dust reading that.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Not in the working world. But yes in the clubbing world. 90%+ people in the club will be younger than that

by Anonymous 3 months ago

My 17 year old cousin was having a fit the other day saying she wasted her life and isn't successful. She follows a lot of fake rich young people. Social media is giving people stupid expectations and creating depression and self pity for no reason.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Well beyond 30s is 33! People need to chill. Go to a Club or Festival if you want to. Do it at age 50. Anyone who judges is jealous

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It's not old, but it's old enough the hangovers can be gnarly and you know the value of waking up well rested on a Sunday after a sober Saturday night.

by hodkiewiczgwend 3 months ago

yeah it's not old but it's a little old for having a "working to bar hop every weekend" lifestyle

by Anonymous 3 months ago

It is when you're 33. It's the oldests you've ever been.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I feel like Brunch/day parties solved the staying up late issue

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Yes!! I always preferred day drunk, then you can go to sleep at a normal time… falling asleep past 2:30am is a worse hangover than alcohol for me

by Anonymous 3 months ago

This is the way

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Our most common going out style in my early 30s is definitely the afternoon bar crawl. Part of the fun is changing up the pace from spot to spot - from casual taproom to somewhere with a DJ set in the afternoon and all levels in between. At night it feels more like chill cocktail lounge or rowdy spot.

by runteestevan 3 months ago

Im 56 and still party pretty hard, it's all about knowing your limit.

by emmitt75 3 months ago

My friends and I never really did the stereotypical partying in our 20s, so now we want to do it in our 30s and ya people judge us... lol

by Anonymous 3 months ago

A lot of my friends from my 20s no longer live local, so we "relive the glory days" a bit when we see each other. Nothing sketchy or untoward, just finding a bar with a live band, a good DJ, or some karaoke. "Throwback" house parties can be fun too, with the added bonus that people don't trash the space anymore.

by runteestevan 3 months ago

Well you really just described "chilling with the homies" haha! Which I think is awesome, but I'm not sure that's what OP had in mind when they were talking about "partying"

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I still go pretty hard at 40 sometimes. Always been into EDM and unfortunately the headliners rarely go on until 12:30AM. I don't have kids, I don't have any responsibilities to anyone but myself. If that's what you love to do, do it.

by Traditional-Ride 3 months ago

I'm with you on the EDM scene lol love it, but hate how late the headliners go on 😂

by ManufacturerOpen8083 3 months ago

also a raver pushing 40 here. being in the dance music community gives you proper training at partying til dawn (or til 3 AM lol). You just become more responsible with age and know your limits better.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I've noticed you get a second wind in your late 40s, early 50s. We party in our 20's, everybodys too tired and most have small kids/tweens in their 30's and early-mid 40s and when thats all done they're desperate to get out there and enjoy life again. I've seen it over and over again in friends and colleagues.

by Hopeful-Suit 3 months ago

I grew up with a single mom and she never ever partied because her major responsibility in life was toward us. The idea of like, having a super late night then not being able to make us breakfast in the morning just didn't appeal to her at all. But now her kids are out of the house, she moved to a neighborhood where 90% of people are retired and don't have kids at home, and they're a bunch of freakin party animals! I think a lot of the "judgment" comes from the people who skip the middle step and just seem like they plan to enjoy the party lifestyle into the grave instead of settling down.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I also see a lot of judgement from people who settled down super early and act holier-than-thou at every turn.

by runteestevan 3 months ago

A lot of biases towards it I'm 32 and I still drink and go out often. You're right it shouldn't be frowned upon. I show up to work. Grind. Pay bills. If you wanna go out and party go for it If that's all you're doing though I feel like it becomes a problem

by Agreeable-Parfait 3 months ago

Yeah, going out regularly to clubs every week kinda raises red flags. There's this expectation that partying hard and getting pissed drunk are stuff for college aged folks. Agree but partying hard doesn't necessarily mean pounding drinks. It can just mean having the time of your life.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Ashamed? No. But don't expect allowances for hang-overs or being exhausted at work the next day (honestly, we shouldn't do that for the 'youts' either).

by ansley25 3 months ago

I discovered raves at 35 haha

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Haven't started lol. Don't know where to begin tbh. Eventually I'll have to

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Wouldn't be ashamed, just can't be arsed.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I'm not. I'm going to a rave in May and can't wait. I have no kids. My bills are taken care of. Who cares what other people who don't pay my bills think?

by Smooth-Noise 3 months ago

Partying doesn't have to mean getting black out drunk. I'm 36 and I go out a few times a week, but I know my limits and stick to 1-3 drinks.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

What does "partying hard" entail? I always assumed it meant hard drugs or getting blackout drunk. If so, yeah you should be ashamed ngl

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Ashamed? Lmao? For who? Get out, Karen.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I occasionally party till 3am at 31. It's easy and where I go is mostly late 20s - mid 30s. People thinking 30 is old is CRAZY. I feel the same as 22 but with more money

by Ziemannbeverly 3 months ago

Nope unless you get absolutely HAMMERED WASTED WRECKED you are not partying!!! /s

by Thin_Cheesecake 3 months ago

If i can remember last night, then it wasn't fun!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

"can I bring a tent and camp outside the club?" I know you were joking but you should consider getting into music festivals because you genuinely can have this experience. Many are just dance parties that you camp at, many have much older crowds, some even ban alcohol all together (like my favorite festival of all time, Shambhala)

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Im 47 and still go out and enjoy myself, I do pretty much the same thing I did in my 20s and 30s. I wouldn't call it partying hard, more like enjoying my time off. You do you, it's your life, it's the only one you got! Don't let other people tell you what you should or should not enjoy. There are a lot of bitter, sad, angry people out there who want everyone else to be as miserable as they are. Party on Wayne!

by LopsidedValuable2248 3 months ago

I like parties but I think the stigma is more towards older people who make partying with young people their entire personality. It's like the older guy who thinks he's cool buying alcohol for teenagers.

by ken43 3 months ago

It's still using party as a verb that's the problem.

by Bubbly-Ant 3 months ago

Different strokes. I front loaded my time with career stuff and didn't party much. Career and finances sorted out, now it's party time! But the same aged people who prioritized partying earlier in life are now exhausted by it, so you get judged for being old lol.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

To be fair, a bunch of people in their 30s are still in college. Most of the phd candidates i know that are finishing up are around 30

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Idk, hangovers can creep up on you, especially as an adult over 30. Getting blackout isn't the best because by 30 you should know your limits. But I've had a hangover because I had more cheap beer or cheap liquor than normal, which cause worse ones for me.

by runteestevan 3 months ago

Yeah, party's over for me. Single in my 20s, full-on raves every weekend, but now I've got a marriage, two kids under 13, and a cat, beauty sleep is key! Still enjoy a night out sometimes, but it's all about balance these days. Friends' birthday drinks instead of clubbing all night. And hey, when grandkids are older, they might even hear stories about their grandma rocking out at concerts back in the day... just like our grandparents! I'm cool with not being that crazy party animal anymore, my youthful antics have been replaced by a quieter, more mature vibe

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I moved to partying at private events. Much more fun, much more action, much better people.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I had the same after 30. Hangovers lasting 2 days. May i suggest drinking less sugar and more water? I usually drink 1500ml of water during the evening with the alcohol. 1h before sleep no alcohol and just drink water. Thank me later.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I live in Los Angeles. It's common to see people in their 50s at underground parties. Techno/house music all night!

by Beautiful_Word 3 months ago

Any recommendations for techno/house clubs?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I used to party hard with drugs and booze. I'm better off without doing that stuff but if people can handle booze by itself and not become depedant on it then that's cool.

by OneAffect 3 months ago

I'm way older than 30 and I had no idea I was supposed to be ashamed. Damn.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Depends on where you are in life. In your 30s you should have a good source of income and somewhat be on a path to more future success. If that's not the case then partying isn't a good thing.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

As long as you're not hurting anyone else? You shouldn't be ashamed of anything. Especially if it's fun to you. I'll die happily at 60 or 70 with anime on my tv, face down in a pile of lego. I'll have lived a good life. Screw everyone else's expectations. Enjoy smoking cigars in your study or whatever you "adults" do.

by idellstrosin 3 months ago

I still go to parties and clubs maybe once or twice a year. Partying hard? More like hardly partying.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Old people? Be for real… Calling people in their 30s old is so toxic. You're a teenager until 18, a young adult until 30, and from 30 to 60, you're just an adult. Only after that do you count as old. In my opinion, 30 is nowhere near old—let's be serious.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Depends on the party. Lots of places I go have like half 30 year olds. And most of them are on ketamine, Molly, lsd etc and not drinking. You should see Berlin

by Annalise08 3 months ago

Bet. Signed a 45 year old who routinely parties hard when the time calls for it.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

F32 here. Still love getting really drunk!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I worked my ass in normal party years, but now I'm 35, rich, and i can party hard without limits.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Psh, I'm 32. See ya'll at Tomorrowland this summer!

by Anonymous 3 months ago

My friends and I are all Djs and producers in our 40s and 50's. When we go to festivals and clubs, we bring the party with us. No shame.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I partied this weekend two nights in a row. The casino and sports were involved. I didn't go to bed until 2:30 the first night and 3:30 the night after. I turned 38 on Saturday. My body hates me right now.

by Camryn62 3 months ago

Back in my day, "partying hard" implied cocaine usage

by Anonymous 3 months ago

32 and I feel this. I haven't felt truly awake in years, let alone awake enough to stay up all night dancing.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

People allow teenagers who don't have a concept of becoming an adult and aging tell them what is and isn't appropriate to do at what age.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I'm 42 and I want to start partying. Or at least having some kind of fun because trying to be good and not do fun things just ends up dull for someone like me that struggles so much to work for anything if I'd been a party girl at least I would have done something other than fail.

by windlerkatelyn 3 months ago

Meh, I'm 36 and still party pretty hard. It don't see the big deal, though I understand why it's not for everyone.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Who the hell thinks this is an unpopular opinion?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

The college student at the bar wondering why someone mid 30's is at the club

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Love hitting the club after gambling for hours at the casino.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I'm never going to actually "grow up"

by Anonymous 3 months ago

40 and still love to send it on occasion. For this I have no pride nor shame.

by MaterialOne7092 3 months ago

33 isn't old.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I'm ashamed that I never partied nor kissed a girl. I'm past 30.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I just start early in the day, in bed at a decent time 😊

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I see you are also immature like me. Welcome to the club!!

by SadMeringue 3 months ago

Nah. Around mid twenties you should start to get serious about life and stay that way.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

My father just turned 84, and still goes dancing every Saturday night until past 1am. He cuts up that floor, too.

by Ahoeger 3 months ago

I'm 62 and pretty much all my friends who continued to do it into their 30s are all dead and most didn't see 50..

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Idk if you have never been to a major city or what but you can go to any drinking district in DC, Sf, Chicago, NYC, or international and you'll see people of all ages drinking til the sun comes up

by Anonymous 3 months ago

You're confusing partying and clubbing.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Perfectly fine, as long as you don't go out to hang out and pick up 20 yo's

by Routine_Diet3050 3 months ago

Dunno where everyone is getting the idea that 33 is too old to be at the club or bars. Depends on the scene, I guess, but the more upscale bars and clubs are pretty much only 30+ and full of well-dressed and well-behaved adults having a good time. I wouldn't really want to be in a college bar at my age, 29. I enjoy being around mature adults, but I still very much like to go out and enjoy the nightlife. I feel like it's actually better when you're past your young 20s.

by Abernathyisaac 3 months ago

WTF. I will be 50 this year and I am partying a lot, including underground techno parties.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

After the first kid, I traded in dodgy dive bars for tea parties. I wasn't a party animal by any means but I had my fun, now life has slowed down a lot but I love it.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

📌 I'm not getting old, I'm getting vintage... 🧠

by Pitiful_Geologist694 3 months ago

I just turned 38 and I'm a night owl, so even if I'm not drinking much its easy to stay out until the bars close. I'm not partying with 20 year olds but I'm def going out (mostly concerts and bars)

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I feel like every city has the party spots where the young people go to get sloppy drunk, make bad decisions, and hit the dance floor, where most of the crowd is 25 and under. If you're still going to those spots when you're in your 30s and 40s, it's a bad look. I know when I was at those spots every weekend we heavily side eyed any people that age who'd try to mix and mingle with us. But there are also plenty of ways and places for people of any age to party that those same people could go to and I wouldn't side eye.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I say shame should only happen if they are neglecting hard responsibilities, like children, especially infants. Otherwise stay safe and drink plenty of water.

by Exact_Working_5132 3 months ago

Meh, maybe if a club is known for having an older crowd i entirely get it, but if you're in your 30s, hitting up clubs of mostly people in their early 20s or younger (ppl lying to get in ofc) you're kinda creepy.

by PromotionConstant 3 months ago

Tbh partying hard is an adult activity and I will not be shamed that I still party as an adult!

by quintentoy 3 months ago

You can do it but your body will be less forgiving about the drug abuse.

by garnet52 3 months ago

U need to relax. Lol

by norvalfahey 3 months ago

Have you ever been to Ibiza? There are people at the clubs in their 60's living the best years of their lives. I'm not sure where you live but 30's is not old and no-one is shaming them, at least not where I live.

by SeniorAd 3 months ago

No.

by Anonymous 3 months ago

I look at it as everyone needs to grow up sometime, if they are regulars at clubs it's odd…

by Anonymous 3 months ago

That depends on what "growing up" means to each person. If you party it up at a club, but go to work and your bills are paid and your chores are done, what more "growing up" do you need to do? Is pounding a 6 pack while watching a sports channel better than drinking at a club? A lot of younger folks are getting back into things like crochet and knitting, does that mean a 40 year old who crochets now needs to "grow up" and find a "more adult" hobby?

by Anonymous 3 months ago

yes you should

by johnathonschmel 3 months ago

Nah, you're just a prude. What's wrong with getting your drink on once or twice a year like OP says?

by Euphoric_Summer 3 months ago

I feel like it's kinda counterintuitive to frame it as "you shouldn't be ashamed to still be partying at a certain age" when that makes it sound like more of a regular / lifestyle thing. Then go "once or twice a year, we go out and party!"

by Anonymous 3 months ago

Only people who were never invited out in school or college say this. Feel sorry for you.

by metagrady 3 months ago

What's the problem? Life doesn't end after 30.

by ManufacturerOpen8083 3 months ago

Just what I was about to write

by Jadakiehn 3 months ago

You can literally party & goto clubs without drinking lol this is such a weird take.

by ManufacturerOpen8083 2 months ago

No one says "partying hard" and means doing it sober buddy

by Anonymous 2 months ago

I took it as staying out late or going to clubs lol but even then, "partying hard" once or twice a year, like OP says, doesn't necessarily make you an alcoholic buddy.

by ManufacturerOpen8083 2 months ago

Not what he said at all

by Bayereffie 2 months ago

So by partying you mean drinking ethanol. Have you tried not drinking alcohol when you go out? Or is it not a party if you're not drinking? And if you drink at home alone is it a party?

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Most people drink alcohol at adult parties. Hope this helps!

by Anonymous 2 months ago

I think a lot of it depends on the spaces you party in. My mom is in her 60s and is a "hard partier", she goes to see local bands, her and her neighbors are all getting together to drink and have a good time, she'll sometimes travel to see bands and get a hotel and do all of that, and I love that for her. If you're 40 and you regularly go to friends and family's house parties and safely have a good time, more power to you. But if you're 40 and you're spending every weekend at a nightclub with a mostly 20s crowd and try to meet women there, it comes off pathetic to me

by Anonymous 2 months ago

imagine being 40 and thinking that dating someone your own age is "dating down"

by Anonymous 2 months ago

It's an analogy... But you haven't refuted the point, because you can't. Thanks for playing.

by LopsidedValuable2248 2 months ago

no I can.. I'm in my early 30s and no matter how hot she is, I wouldn't wanna date someone who's 23 because there's gonna be a huge maturity gap and I value people's whole personality much more than their looks. Plenty of beautiful, single women my age!

by Anonymous 2 months ago

In your 30s, sure.

by LopsidedValuable2248 2 months ago

How is this an unpopular opinion?

by Anonymous 2 months ago

How do you find the energy though seriously

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Most of Gen Z are broke and can't afford a night out or they are still not old enough to enter clubs.😂

by Anonymous 2 months ago

This should definitely be unpopular or at least I hope so. At some point you cease being a cool party person and are just a creepy elderly person trying to mingle with people you have nothing in common with. It's really weird and kinda sad. By the time you're 30 you should have discovered fun is boring and fulfillment is what truly makes life worth living.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

WTF of course you should be ashamed LMAO

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Why?

by troy88 2 months ago