Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't go out!! amirite?

Don't know why but the whole first part give me a scummy vibe... Listing up all that he does and wants to do without you doing anything or giving points on what you do feel really one sided to me.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

He doesn't "do everything." We split chores, I work part-time, and I go to university full time. I buy groceries, take care of the pets, I go help his grandma with whatever she needs, make sure he has food to come home to, he just does a lot of the cooking because he loves cooking. I support him emotionally, physically, and mentally every day Just because I didn't list all my contributions doesn't mean they don't exist.

by irmaschuppe 2 days ago

He pays rent bills and cooks and cleans? Do you also cook and clean?

by Jastmorton 2 days ago

Yes we pretty much split it evenly

by irmaschuppe 2 days ago

That's a lot of words to say you like to go out, your boyfriend likes to stay in, and neither of you have a problem with it. As long as you are happy and aren't hurting anyone, then who cares what anyone else thinks?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

If you're going to places where people traditionally go to hook up or meet potential romantic partners, I don't really get why you're surprised that people are surprised.

by Responsible_Loan 2 days ago

I've yet to ever hookup with a man or know anyone who's had success at a club 😂

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Having boundaries is healthy; it doesn't mean someone is insecure or controlling, it's called having respect for your partner

by Anonymous 2 days ago

People trying to go against it, even for the sake of "boundary" is wild. Forbidding your partner to go out isn't a boundary, it's control. Boundaries are for yourself, not others. Not wanting your partner to go out isn't "a healthy boundary", it's just controlling behaviour based on own insecurity. If you do not want to go out, that's a whole other thing, but if you try to control your partner's behaviour then you are the problem.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

This is a perfect and convenient way to flip the script. Me not wanting someone I'm dating to do something I'm uncomfortable with is me trying to control them. That way you're never the bad guy and can avoid accountability. Gaslighting like a mf. It's actually genius if you can find a person with a weak mind to use it on

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Going out with friends is fine, what is concerning is he does everything. What do you do for him or at home. Should be shared equally.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Would you like your boyfriend to go out to a club where women are hitting on him all night with his single friends? What if you suspected some of his friends might be bad influences who would encourage him to cheat on you? I am not saying women can't go out and have fun anymore but when you're in a relationship you have to recognize how inappropriate certain activities are, and how toxic some of your friends may be. It comes down to respect to your partner that you won't go into situations that are inappropriate for your relationship status. Every guy who has been involved in the hook up scene knows how incredibly common it is to pick up cheating women in these situations. They get a couple drinks in them, they get encouraged by their friends, and they go home with a random stranger.

by Kaelacorkery 2 days ago

There's plenty of fun things to do to be social that don't involve going to places where people go to find hookups. You admit you get male attention, and even the dudes there are confused as to why you're there because the main reason people go clubbing is to get attention from the opposite sex. We all know exactly why you like going out clubbing with your friends. You like the attention and validation you get. Otherwise you'd be going out with your friends and being social doing other things.

by Terrible_Cod_3275 2 days ago

This just reads like your partner loves you to pieces and would do anything for you and you have no respect for him ...

by Gutmannhenri 2 days ago

Soo, he pays the bills, cooks, cleans … what you bring to the relationship?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

So I agree with your opinion broadly but damn he pays for everything, cooks, and cleans? What do you do?

by Dillon54 2 days ago