Wearing white to a wedding should be a non-issue, amirite?

If people can't distinguish who the bride is Your premise is false. It's not about being able to say who the bride is. People knows. It's about not upstaging the bride and trying to look better than her. Having a dress the same colour as the bride is almost like you want to competition for the attention.

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

if the bride's dress is that plain that you can't distinguish it from an ordinary guest dress, that's a separate matter altogether. it's usually quite obvious which one is the wedding dress regardless of colour

by garnet99 6 hours ago

Again... not about knowing who the bride is. It's about letting the bride stand out. She could wear a very simple dress, and you could wear a designer gown that is blue, you wouldn't be an issue. Do the same with a white designer gown, and all of a sudden, you are standing out, just like the bride. Honestly, I don't get people that needs that much attention : but it's the bride's day, so she get to have something that makes her stand out. People wanting to match her are just selfish.

by Anonymous 6 hours ago

What's wrong with upstaging the bride?

by Immediate-Apple 6 hours ago

Are you joking…?

by Ashamed-Scratch 6 hours ago

A wedding is the only time in your adult life (aside from maybe college graduation) where you get a day entirely about yourself. The social importance of birthdays drop off after 22-23. Upstaging the bride, or even the groom, means you don't care about the couple's future, and is highly disrespectful.

by myrakuhlman 6 hours ago

Because a wedding is not a competition, and it's the bride's and groom's day. You are not supposed to want to take more place than them.

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

Are you seriously asking what's wrong with upstaging the person of honor at one of their life's biggest events? Especially when said person, or at the very least their family, is usually footing bill for the event you are now upstaging them at? Like it's just obviously rude.

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

It's a common mistake, happened to me.. ended up bedding the best friend by accident!!

by harveykolby 5 hours ago

Of all the colors to choose from, it's not that hard to wear something other than white. People who know this custom and still wear the bride's color are inconsiderate.

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

I really don't understand the motivation that so many people have to tear down all traditions that they can't fully rationalize in the moment. Sometimes its just nice to have traditions so that things feel special

by Anonymous 4 hours ago

Okay, but if someone is aware that wearing white might upset the bride, why not just wear literally any other color? Is it really that hard to just...not wear white? Also, the impression I got is less that people would think you were the bride, and more that it gives creepy 'I want to pretend I'm marrying him instead of her' vibes.

by Anonymous 4 hours ago

I think its more about decency and respect. Its courteous to let the bride stand out.

by Anonymous 4 hours ago

The color of someone's clothing is beyond a first-world problem! I And insisting on wearing white to a wedding is also a first-world problem. There's so many other colors in existence, so unless every single outfit you own is white, its quite easy to pick something else.

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

Meh. I get it. It's the bride's special day, and they should be able to be the most prominently dressed one. Not wanting anyone else wearing the same color to detract from that makes sense. It's not overly burdensome to not wear white

by Jewell75 3 hours ago

It's not about not being able to distinguish who the bride is, if you're going to someone's wedding you'll know how the bride and groom are. It's about making sure on her special day, she is the center of attention, and respecting that. Wearing white gives off "pick me" girl vibes, and it's not cute. Wait till your own wedding to wear white.

by RevolutionaryPen7725 3 hours ago

It's literally just a tradition. No one wears white except the bride. It has absolutely nothing to do with being able to tell who the bride is.

by Ok_Strength 2 hours ago

First of all, the point isn't actually because some people truly don't know who the bride is… it's just a tradition that's basically about respect. It's not that difficult to understand. But really, what is the big deal? I don't see the issue with complying with whatever the bride wants. It's her wedding. If you didn't care about it, great, people could've worn white to your wedding - doesn't mean nobody else can care about it or that you get the right to wear white to other people's weddings. Also, if you think a bride not wanting people to wear white is such a non-issue, then what does that make this behavior - being upset that you can't wear one single color? Pick a different dress. A lot of things are super minor, petty problems in comparison to the major issues of the world. Doesn't mean people can't care about them… lol.

by Ashamed-Scratch 2 hours ago

Let the bride stand out. Wear hot pink instead.

by schadenbrenna 2 hours ago

It's up to the people getting married, but personally I think that the dress just shouldn't be in the same style/length as the bride's. A floor-length white dress is very different than a knee-length one.

by Evening_Reach_687 1 hour ago

Low effort

by Important-Cap 1 hour ago

I know, but people get so precious about their weddings Believe me if someone wants to outshine the bride, grab attention and make a spectacle of themselves, they can do it without wearing a white dress anyway

by Anonymous 1 hour ago

Traditionally white was used as a symbol of purity that's why it became part of culture for the bride to wear white.

by Sad-Condition 1 hour ago

Uh do you know the meaning behind a white dress? Seems like you have a sparse understanding of why dresses are white for brides besides the one did you know fact videos.

by Feeling-Escape 1 hour ago

Please enlighten me, oh wise one, about the longstanding tradition of white wedding dresses before the 19th century. Regale me with its rich history and ancient symbolism.

by Anonymous 41 minutes ago

Pay me $200

by Feeling-Escape 20 minutes ago

How about you just put your ego aside for a day and show some respect towards others.

by Anonymous 9 minutes ago