As a man, I like dating apps and am glad they exist. amirite?

Dating apps: Saving us from bad pick-up lines since 2012.

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

I just don't think I can build a proper connection over text 🤷🏼 I don't have a huge problem getting matches. The conversations are just boring and mostly don't go anywhere. Texting is all about the literal meaning of what you're saying, but connections are built on something else entirely, i think

by Ok-County-6831 6 hours ago

I mean, the idea is that you meet up and talk with them in person… Dating apps don't prevent you from having human conversations with people in real life…

by Mean-Nature-9148 6 hours ago

Exactly.

by Alternative-Catch213 6 hours ago

Yeah, i get that, but the conversations tend to kinda just fall flat b4 i think it makes sense to get to the point of asking them out.

by Ok-County-6831 5 hours ago

No offence, genuinely, but that's a user error. You're just not meshing with your intended date.

by Mean-Nature-9148 5 hours ago

I think you're missing the point that if you're having boring conversations with everyone than make less boring conversation and you won't have that issue.

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

The point is that you move from texting to setting up a the date very very quickly. You don't become pen pals trying to get to know each other before even seeing each other in person. The dating app is just to get past that initial awkwardness of wondering whether the person is single, open to dating, and is at least attracted enough to you to give you a chance. You get to know the person on the first in person date and not over texts.

by Luciestrosin 5 hours ago

Exactly. You already have the biggest initial barriers out the way from the app. Just set up a quick date to see if you vibe. Doesnt have to be the first message, but you also shouldn't be waiting weeks either.

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

What would you consider to be "very, very quickly" (roughly, obviously)? 4 total messages? 10? 20?

by Ok-County-6831 4 hours ago

I mean I usually have a very short text conversation then make plans to meet up. I hate texting but I've met a number of awesome women from dating apps.

by Anonymous 4 hours ago

Same. I always propose a date within two or three days, or just one day if we message a lot right off the bat.

by Alternative-Catch213 4 hours ago

so.. ask them out

by Kindly_Class_5189 4 hours ago

It'd be better if they didn't cost so much.

by jacey59 4 hours ago

You've basically just described my life except straight. I too have little social life, don't drink, and don't enjoy parties. You've had more luck than me though. I went on two dates with a guy when I was in college. More recently, I went out with a couple other guys. Turns out the second one was actually the first's ex, and he told me stories about how the first guy was a total psychopath. Guess I dodged a bullet. Maybe. I have no way to verify the truthfulness of his claims. So of course the only guys I could pull were a psychopath and his ex

by Flat-Garage 4 hours ago

I say this as someone who despises apps, I think there are a lot of people out there in the same position as OP so I recognize that apps can serve an important purpose

by Anonymous 4 hours ago

Based answer.

by Alternative-Catch213 3 hours ago

Wow, so brave

by Novel-Medium1908 3 hours ago

Maybe you should focus on getting a life? Not shade, but seriously it would massively benefit you

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

How is that anything but negatively judgemental? What defines "a life" to you? Good for you OP but you would also have "singles events" if the dating apps didnt exist

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

I've considered speed dating but just haven't signed up yet. I have a Hinge date this weekend tho.

by Alternative-Catch213 3 hours ago

Lol no shade? That was pure rudeness

by Weekly_Strategy 2 hours ago

I'm good with what I got but I recognize that that is generally solid advice.

by Alternative-Catch213 2 hours ago

If only there were something that would help him do so, like an app that gets him dates

by Anonymous 2 hours ago

Lol no I would not. My in person track record is a lot of Ls.

by Alternative-Catch213 2 hours ago

So you truly believe the app makes you a different person? Lmao no man your the same person. Keeping count of in person L's is weird. Don't be weird like you are here and people will like you. You will get backed up by the other incels here who think we're being mean to you but I hope you don't let that echo chamber get to you. Cheers and good luck with your self image!

by Anonymous 2 hours ago

Well no, of course not. I guess the online interaction keeps me safe from giving off any ick vibes?

by Alternative-Catch213 2 hours ago

Idk, man, I can't read women's minds so I'm just guessing.

by Alternative-Catch213 1 hour ago

I am enjoying it! Thanks to dating apps.

by Alternative-Catch213 1 hour ago

I enjoy plenty of other parts of my life. You've also been assuming a lot about me in this convo, mister.

by Alternative-Catch213 1 hour ago

You will get backed up by the other incels here who think we're being mean to you but I hope you don't let that echo chamber get to you. Incels hate dating apps So you truly believe the app makes you a different person? Lmao no man your the same person. Dating apps means you start talking to some in a dating context. Meeting women irl they may not be expecting something like that, and someone like OP might have a hard time communicating their intentions So its easier for OP to talk to a woman romantically when she knows from the outset thats what he's doing

by Weekly_Strategy 1 hour ago

Have you ever considered the macro effects? Or if it benefits you a handful of times per year, you're good with that?

by Anonymous 1 hour ago

Macro effects? I'm not sure what you're referring to. Yeah, dating apps giving me a handful of women to date is awesome.

by Alternative-Catch213 55 minutes ago

What macro effects?

by nilslueilwitz 28 minutes ago

Dating apps: the survival of the flirtiest.

by Anonymous 10 minutes ago