+44 Women that don't approach men are missing out just as much as the men are, amirite?

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Not some women, the vast majority of them.

by Fit_Inspector 4 days ago

I think the reality is that women do approach the men that they want. The problem is that women just don't want most of the men so most men just never get approached.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

This too. I don't mind being the initiator at all, I've just been single for a while and as I've gotten older, I've just lost the desire to date and many men just don't appeal to me at this point in my life.

by river79 4 days ago

i have a hard time believing anyone of either demographic approaches the people they want more than 20% of the time tbh

by DoughnutGlass79 4 days ago

Truth has never been truer

by Typical_Valuable 4 days ago

I can see that, women do tend to be more picky about their options

by Anonymous 4 days ago

That's because they have way more options in the first place. They can afford to be picky. Online dating makes it so much more obvious. Look at one of your female friend's dating profile and compare the amount of DM's being sent vs how many men get sent. Face to face, women do NOT approach men nearly as much as we do. Most actively refuse to do so.

by Kiehnzoie 4 days ago

If that was the reason (it is true, juts arguing about your logic) then so many women wouldn't choose to stay alone.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

We may have a bunch of options but if most of the options are awful/terrifying, then really we don't have many options at all. We are picky because males are our only natural predators. Someone once said that being a man is being thirsty in a desert and being a woman is being thirsty in the ocean. You can be surrounded by water but drinking it is gonna kill you.

by Schadenstefan 4 days ago

Women do not have more options. That wouldnt make statistical sense

by Serious_Hunt 4 days ago

My experience with approach men first is you get boxed into a casual sex category out of the gate.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I think more women "approach" men than we realize, they just have a less direct way of doing it and are more likely to send signals. It just so happens that most men couldn't pick up on a signal if their life depended on it

by Tevingottlieb 4 days ago

....which is not approaching them. sending vague signals is not the same thing as stating your intentions outright.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

The OP never said anything about "Stating intentions outright". He said approach and talk.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

True, it's not stating outright but it IS an approach. Not everything works the way you want it to in life buddy, some people win a game with brute force, others win with technique, some even win by exploiting the game. Also, no one said anything about vague, I've seen dudes miss signals the size of a Boeing

by Tevingottlieb 4 days ago

when a signal's obvious guys usually don't miss it, they're just scared they'll misread it and get insulted

by Fluid_Negotiation916 4 days ago

Yup, that's a dangerous game to be playing with today's societal climate. "the worst she can say is no" isn't true. She can say something else that would keep you up at night.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Scared money don't make money. Being afraid of rejection, being insulted, being "embarrassed" it's all a perfectly good excuse but that's all it is in the end. All the biggest players I know learned to let it's just part of the game

by Tevingottlieb 4 days ago

you know what's easier to notice than a "signal the size of a boeing"? stating your intentions clearly and honestly. Why are we acting like men are stupid for not being able to read minds.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I agree with you. Maybe women are more cautious and want to know if the guy has the same feeling towards them. Men tend to be more interested in physical attraction. Not all of course. So maybe those women just want to sense if the guy is into her before blatantly asking him out.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Connection is a two-way street and confidence is attractive in everyone.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I don't know lol every relationship that started because I approached the man ended up with them being lazy and not putting any effort in 😬

by kiaramohr 4 days ago

I literally know men who don't approach for this reason outside of OD

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Yeah this is less of an unpopular opinion and more just a bizarre string of assumptions and generalizations

by Inside-Village 4 days ago

Have you ever considered women are not particularly approaching yourself?

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I think most people would be happier alone.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Regardless of gender or characteristic (shy, introvert, etc.), relationships require mutual desire and effort not only to continue but just to start at the first place. If one party just waits for you to make all the effort, they'll keep doing the same during the relationship too, so you're good losing them and moving on to someone who is actually interested in you. Trust life.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Women doesn't have a problem with approaching to men they like in any way. They can be a verry direct at that.

by clairearmstrong 4 days ago

Around half of my relationships came to be because a woman approached me, I don't think it's all that uncommon really.. I'm a fairly average guy, I'm 45 now, so this is a recent thing either.. it's been over say 20 years. The ones that think it's on the men, obviously didn't.. but that's good because they're unlikely to be my kind of person, nor me theirs. Do you feel you're approachable as a person?

by Key-Instruction8011 4 days ago

I've had bad experiences with it. When I've approached a man they just immediately go for sex, which is extremely off putting. Or they are surprised and go out with me without even considering if they really like me or not, just because I asked, which has sucked as well.

by kaylahgaylord 4 days ago

IMO I think those women like to talk and get to know a guy first. They don't just go out and start asking men out that they don't know; based on physical attraction alone. Which could be why it seems that women do it at a lower rate. Guys don't have as much to worry about asking out a stranger. I know I liked to meet people at work or through friends. It just felt safer that way. This is just my take as to why it seems like women don't approach men as often.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

It's hard not to notice how "equality" has been extremely selective on what's equal and what's not. You'd think we'd be past a lot of these obnoxious double standards by now.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

missing out on what exactly?

by Anonymous 4 days ago

lol it's unpopular because y'all debating bro in it , to an extent he's right

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I agree 100%. Women should approach men a lot more! "Only men should approach women" is a really outdated mentality in 2025.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I'm not a straight woman, so this doesn't apply to me at all, but from what I understand, when women approach men, they are often seen as desperate, needy, too forward, etc. It's not really socially acceptable - women are socialized to be passive and to sort of "not speak until spoken to". Traditional society will fight back tooth and nail at the idea of women pursuing men. That's why it will never be common.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I always was the initiator and never want to do that again. Every time this was an I dication that I didn't have to expect a lot form thise men, because they let you take over everything and never initiate anything themselves. Of I ever would want someone, which I don't, I would want one that knows what he wants and will go for it, otherwise, please leave me alone.

by Dismal-Ebb 4 days ago

Talking out of my ass, but having the courage/assertiveness to ask someone out is one of the charesteristcs women value in their partners.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I definitely don't think they are missing out on as much, simply because women do still get approached. Even if she doesn't have any intentions with the guy, simply being approached can make her feel desired, give her confidence, etc. Whereas I don't think it's rare for a man to go his entire life without being approached romantically. Most of the time for a man to feel desired, his own desire needs to be reciprocated.

by EducationalIncome 4 days ago

Due to social norms that women are taught, they simply understand that there is a time and place for everything, and they won't approach men (even if they find them attractive) in completely random situations, because they're considerate of people's boundaries. Men, on the other hand, approach women in any possible situation, without considering whether it's an appropriate moment. Is a woman clearly busy? Wearing headphones? Reading a book? Minding her own business, not sending any signals that she's open to interaction with strangers? That doesn't matter. Men will still approach her. And it's not a positive thing.

by thielleonora 4 days ago

is that time and place never? because i can't think of a single situation where approaching a stranger in public is an appropriate moment by your standards. People are usually out in public because they have something to do. Also wtf does "sending signals that she's open to social interaction" concretely mean.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Love how you think it's only "extremists" who are creeps. Typical male thinking.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

🤣😂😅

by daisha44 3 days ago

Looks like 2x chromies is missing one of their idiots. Get therapy

by Anonymous 3 days ago

I think people in general are less likely to cold-approach nowadays. If an attractive person does it, they're considered sweet or charming. If an unattractive person does it they're considered creepy or dangerous.

by Negative-Sample-5550 3 days ago

Men have more testosterone by design wich means more 'RISK TAKING' , more 'COURAGE' , that's why it was and it will be the way it is , so for some reason nature wants men be the one chasing women

by Anonymous 3 days ago