Getting Mad Over Someone Dating Your Ex Is Stupid, amirite?

Depends on if it's a close friend. I don't want to deal with that. Otherwise I don't care. Good luck to them .

by derrickbrakus 3 days ago

💯

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

I just tell dudes to enjoy that headache, I haven't been pressed about someone dating my ex since freshman year in college. Clearly something didn't work between us so have at it champ..

by Worldly_Chest 3 days ago

While I agree with you, I think that's the popular opinion. I know people don't put their opinion into practice, so that's another argument entirely.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

If you think it's a silly thing to get angry over, why wouldn't you date a friend's ex?

by flarkin 3 days ago

Exactly what I was going to say if you understand why it isn't ok for friends to date an ex then your entire argument falls apart. Anyone can date my ex. If you were a close friend, particularly while I was with my ex. I am angry, and we are not friends anymore.

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

I'm sure there are plenty of things you might not personally do, but also don't think it deserves a strong reaction.

by Ronaldo24 3 days ago

How so? The fact I don't personally do them means that I know why doing them is wrong which means that I understand why it deserves the strong reaction.

by flarkin 3 days ago

Thanks for typing up the reasonable response politely that I'm too tired to do

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Yeah I did, and this one too , woah call me a lobster

by Anonymous 3 days ago

You're a lobster.

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

... But they don't consider it a betrayal. That's the point.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

I never once said it was on par. It doesn't have to be on par. I was merely giving overly simple and easy to digest examples. A proof of concept. Something homie could easily grasp since they struggled the first time wrapping their mind around the idea. "Sometimes i don't do things not because I think they are wrong, but because someone else does. Whether i agree with it or not." That *concept* can be applied to any range of situations from inconsequential to serious. Progressive complexity theory is a common way people learn. You start off with something simple and once they understand that, they can build on that knowledge. Would you like me to further explain this phenomenon, or do you grasp it?

by Ronaldo24 3 days ago

Skimmed the word salad. It doesnt have to be on par but it should be somewhat close to the same importance. Thats what makes a good comparison. The comparison part.

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

I agree. The amount of people who think an ex is forever off limits to anyone you know is insane

by Formal_Translator 3 days ago

Ding ding ding!

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

There is a time vs serious sliding scale for sure as you mention... So you do understand. In the end I just think people like you are either weak willed or dont actually value friend boundaries or friendship loyalty. If this works for you and your friends and exes though go ahead. Your life.

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

My buddy is like he'll be like I'm pissed I'm like bro it's whatever you guys aren't together anymore move on instead of wanting to call her to bitch her out. Never understood that logic tbh

by Anonymous 3 days ago

A very weird type of possessiveness. Especially when I see people get piss after they have move on and gotten with other people.

by Formal_Translator 3 days ago

Glad I'm not your friend then. You ever made a move on friends ex? You trying to cope with your choice now?

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

Nope never made a move on a friends ex, i just wouldn't care if they made a move on one of my exes.

by Formal_Translator 3 days ago

Good luck with that then.

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

You date someone because you are attracted to them, not just physically but their personality, common interests, morals and values. If a ‘friend' of mine decided that they were aligned with someone that I just wasn't compatible with on a more superficial level, then I'd be fine with it. If my friend decided that they were aligned with the morals and values of someone who hurt me by lying, cheating, deceiving me, or physically hurting me or people I love then they are a ‘friend' I am no longer compatible with.

by One_Board_8781 3 days ago

It's a friendship boundary trespass. But this is also not an unpopular opinion.

by Johnsonphoebe 3 days ago

Is there a time cutoff? What if your friend dated this ex for 2 years? 5 years? 10 years? Etc. Were they dating? Engaged? Married? Idk about you, but being friends with someone for 10 years and being attracted to their partner the whole time to then date them when it falls apart is nuts to me.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Randoms dating your ex is fine but you gotta always follow the bro code, Mates exes are strictly off limits forever.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

👑 King

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

I don't think it's usually actually anger. It's hurt. But it's easier to be angry than hurt

by WrapEquivalent 3 days ago

This depends entirely on context. If I know a friend isn't over an ex, why would I date her? Out of all the women in the world why would I pick one that will hurt a friend of mine when there's a very high chance that like most relationships it fizzles out after 6 months to 2 years or so. There just seems to be no real point IMO.

by Shot-Excitement9875 3 days ago

True, I think most would agree

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Completely agree. I don't get it, but I'm not possessive, I don't think I own people.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

If it was a friend, I wouldn't be that person's friend anymore.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Yes king 👑

by Cold-Gap 3 days ago

OP is definitely dating their best friend's ex.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Depends. What if you start dating your own ex again? Be pissed at yourself.

by Tre06 3 days ago

Ah yes, the alpha males.

by Scary_Fox_5533 3 days ago

Generally yes, but It's not always them. Seen a lot angry nerd guys not be able to move on and get psycho too.

by UsualGold3889 3 days ago

It prevents them from going back and resolving the problems that caused the breakup. One person leaves the door open, but a third person welds it shut.

by Anonymous 3 days ago