Really depends on the friend, you got some friends that are "Yes mans" and its an awful idea to talk to them about their problems. I would never speak to parents unless it was as bad as abuse or infidelity.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Yeah this is fair, I'm more saying that it doesn't always have to be go to your partner before anyone else with any problem.

by Naomi53 3 days ago

Yes and no. I learned to not tell every detail of my relationship to my close friends as I get older. Some things they really don't need to know about. But other times it's great to talk to them about your relationship because they can give you advice or just hear you out. Also, I don't ever want to disrespect or my partner to lose trust in me. I don't think it's a right vs wrong. I think it just depends on how much you share.

by bernhardmodesto 3 days ago

On paper, I wouldn't say exactly say it's incorrect, per se. The main problem is when people skip over the step where they actually try to communicate the problems they're having with their partner and immediately default to going to their friends at any given sign of trouble. More likely than not, the friends will already be biased to you because they're friends, and the odds of them hearing the partner's side of the story is often times slim to none. They sometimes end up with a skewed interpretation of the events and often times will not have the whole story, possibly giving problematic advice. (Of course, this is totally off the table the moment abuse enters the scene)

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Yeah this is also true, I think my initial point relies on having friends who are really looking to be real and helpful, which has been my experience with some friends and not so much with others.

by Naomi53 3 days ago

Yeah it depends on.the friend. Some don't want to hear and talk about it too much..while others seem to be all in. It depends on their personality I guess

by Responsible-Show 3 days ago

Depends on the friend and the ratio of complaints vs compliments. If all you do is tell the bad things, your friend will think your partner is a bad person with few redeeming qualities. Just keep in mind that you are painting the image of your partner to your friends. Venting to your friends can help but not if they're just support only. Echo chambers may feel good in the moment but they're not actually helpful. If you've got a friendship dynamic where yall can call each other out tho, vent away. Another perspective isnt necessarily a bad thing.

by Greenfeldermarg 3 days ago