Gentle parenting is for lazy parents. amirite?

you are describing passive parenting. That is not gentle parenting, gentle parenting still discipline their kids

by Anonymous 4 days ago

"The world is not gentle." That's WHY its important for parents to BE A SAFE PLACE FOR THEIR KIDS GROWING UP. Its important to be firm, yes; but from what I've noticed of the "entitled and immature" people are from parents who don't actually parent their kids the way they should. They let them just do whatever, take whatever, say whatever and then defend their kids actions. It's not "gentle parenting" that's the problem; its the LACK of parenting that's a cause of entitlement and immature behaviors. I'm not even going to say "it's the only cause" because people are so wildly different and complicated. But this is just my rebuttal from my own experience.

by Necessary-Garlic3503 4 days ago

I'd rather this than an "ass beating" being given any time something wrong is done and a parent gets mad

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Ok. You know you can still correct bad behavior and have consequences for your kids that don't include spanking.

by mariana16 4 days ago

Gentle parents do give consequences to their children. Unless they're misusing the term.

by NoCook9047 4 days ago

I know, i'd rather that too lol, but still, i'd prefer gentle parenting over that.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Yeah reading this I was thinking about the strict parenting and harsh punishment trauma cycle going on in my family right now. A lot of this entitled immature behavior I'd even say could be a trauma response to strict parenting entitled: thinking the world works a certain way and that everyone else will be punished harshly because you were punished harshly with "revenge based" parenting immature: rebellion after years of frustration and insane amounts of rules

by Hermanmontana 4 days ago

So if you go too gentle the kids will end up too entitled. If you go too hard they end up afraid to express themselves and are hidden behind a shell. Parenting sounds tough

by Anonymous 4 days ago

I agree to an extent but don't agree with insane ass beatings.

by Dominic74 4 days ago

Same. The lack of boundaries with parents I know who preach gentle parenting is an issue. "But I want to stand on the restaurant table" is not an argument I'd entertain. Get down because I said so.

by Xcasper 4 days ago

The parents I know that yell at and threaten their kids usually have the worst behaved children. The parents who actually parent reasonably, talking to their children respectfully and following through on setting boundaries, tend to have well behaved kids. Parents who preach about their parenting decisions tend to be insufferable.

by Queen05 4 days ago

gentle parenting means to bring your kids by that the world is negative by gently loving them

by justyn01 4 days ago

This isn't so much an unpopular opinion as it is incorrect. Gentle parenting is the hardest thing to do. Yelling, hitting, threatening is easy. Morons do it reflexively. Staying cool while your kid is melting down and every childless DINC and Grandpa Boomer is whispering about how it SHOULD be handled is extremely difficult. But it gets easier as your kids learn they don't need to emote to get attention, they will be heard and considered, and that things are better when they cooperate. If your kids don't get to that point quickly, you're not doing it right. But I don't blame you, because it's hard.

by Anonymous 4 days ago

Can you explain what you think gentle parenting is? Because it seems you have the wrong idea of what it actually is if you think it only means permissive.

by Busy-Hand 4 days ago

No, the real goal of gentle parenting is to have a genuine relationship with your children, to respect them and treat them as much like equals as possible. This builds a foundation for a lifelong relationship. Playing the cold strict disciplinarian who denies their children every pleasure is actually much easier, because you maintain full control of them at all times, you rule through fear basically. So as soon as they turn 18 they are eager to get as far away from you as possible.

by Afraid-Change8797 4 days ago

But I'm saying- there's a middle ground. It isn't all one way or another. This labeling of gentle parenting is the issue. Be a good parent- don't yell or spank, teach boundaries, be firm but understanding, and practice love and kindness.

by Xcasper 4 days ago

You can be kind and respectful to children without being permissive or neglectful. Unfortunately many parents have trouble finding a good line between that and straight up abuse.

by Binsnathaniel 4 days ago

That's not an opinion so much as a fundamental misunderstanding. Gentle parenting is explicitly not permissive. It's disciplining in a calm and respectful manner while explaining your reasoning. As opposed to just yelling at them and leaving them confused and distrusting of you.

by Dibbertfrederic 4 days ago

Gentle parenting is just basically treating your children with respect, and understanding that they are autonomous human beings no different than you or I. Whats lazy is not learning how to control your emotions and just constantly taking it out on your children. What's lazy is "it's my way or the highway". The world is not gentle because most of the world has always been authoritarian parented - which is essentially abuse. Past generations stripped their kids of their light and their individuality and are raised as property to be controlled. Past generations didn't treat their children with respect. Gentle parenting has boundaries, and discipline. Passive parenting takes it too far and basically gives the children full freedom. With more and more knowledge coming out about development, more parents are healing and gentle parenting. Eventually the world will become more gentle because of this.

by isabellemccullo 4 days ago

Its unpopular because thats not gentle parenting, its permissiv parenting.

by Anonymous 4 days ago