"Cutting people off quickly" is not always strength. Sometimes it is just emotional immaturity. amirite?

Sometimes, people will mistakenly cut a friend off too hastily over a simple misunderstanding, but by the time you realize that, it's too late and no apology or "making up for it" will make that friend truly forgive you for basically screwing them over.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Yeah, been there. Its hard to reach up to them again

by Hungry-Bag-18 3 days ago

Sometimes it's just good survival instincts

by Tall-Description1621 3 days ago

yes, sometimes

by Hungry-Bag-18 3 days ago

For me it was years of getting over petty stuff to bring them up and then being attacked on my lowest, or in another case dropping the respect facade first time they have money issues. I don't care how this makes me look, being there for someone for years and getting over every thing they did and said has its limits

by Upbeat-Pineapple 3 days ago

Then that's not the scenario OP was describing. Not wrong but irrelevant

by Worried-Quit2016 3 days ago

I'm guessing you were cut off

by Rogahnasa 3 days ago

you noticed

by Hungry-Bag-18 3 days ago

It was the opposite, first I felt great but never the same in coming days

by Hungry-Bag-18 3 days ago

And sometimes it is just emotional maturity.

by Charlottetranto 3 days ago

Maybe but recently I've to just disagree

by Hungry-Bag-18 3 days ago

Something that changed my perspective on this: the loudest people tend to be those who get the attention. There are many examples of very visible people doing things like this. AND, I would hazard a guess that that is not how most people handle these types of situations. Just because a very vocal group acts a certain way doesn't mean everyone acts that way. Important to keep in mind not just with regards to this but many other things in life too, especially in this act of hyper visibility due to social media.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

You're not wrong, but let's never blame the victim, which is the one doing the cutting off. If you made a mistake, go apologise. If you're still cut off after, then we can have a word or two for the one cutting off.

by Material-Stomach 3 days ago

you are right in this too, the problem is that, no chance to apologize is given in most situation

by Hungry-Bag-18 3 days ago

Yall they literally said it's necessary some times. But a personal example for me are friends who I ended up losing or ghosting slowly. Many times because I didn't like their life choices not because they were destructive. But bc I had no respect and didn't like that they didn't make my choices or live like me. Then when we had a disagreement I'd let the resentment take over and ghost them instead of sticking through Now as I'm older I regret not keeping these friends

by Anonymous 3 days ago

The less the better

by Anonymous 3 days ago

This is more of a truth than an opinion. Yes cutting people off quickly sometimes is the right thing to do and other times, you didn't do enough digging to really get to the root of the problem. I have zero fears of confrontation but if people are constantly defensive and deflective in response to me wanting to work on something, then yeah I'd rather not spend too much time on it and just move on.

by Unable-Yellow 3 days ago

I've never regretted cutting someone off. So till now, I am good.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

Yeah I really think the deciding factor is if you've tried to communicate what you find upsetting in the relationship first. Honestly most the people I know who just cut people off are immature and can't handle confrontation. Avoiding an uncomfortable conversation is more important than keeping a friendship to them.

by Anonymous 3 days ago

You become more discerning as you get older, so knowing when to call it becomes a lot easier.

by UnitedPack6064 3 days ago

Im with you. Cutting ppl off is easier than working out the problems sometimes. And that just sounds like another way of saying I run away from the problem instead of solving it. Not a helpful mindset imo.

by Worried-Quit2016 3 days ago