It's okay to not do much with your life, amirite?

I'd say living a fulfilled life is peaking in life. Doesn't matter what else you do. If you feel as though you've had a fulfilled life, then you have.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This exactly. Success and fulfillment (ie living life to the fullest) will look & feel different for everyone

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yeah chasing milestones means nothing if you already wake up feeling whole

by dallasfranecki 1 day ago

People are chasing milestones in an attempt to feel whole, that's the point.

by Barrettpfanners 1 day ago

If you feel as though you've had a fulfilled life, then you have Feelings are transitory. "Feeling fulfilled", is a temporary state. Not a chronic euphoric state. Because of this, this feeling should not be chased for its own sake, nor should it be used as a litmus test for 'peaking'.

by Apprehensive_Bag 1 day ago

Exactly peace of mind and genuine ease with how you're living are way more valuable than chasing some checklist life

by reubenkutch 1 day ago

35M, single, and live with my dog. I work a job that pays the bills and allows for just enough fun on the side that I don't get myself in trouble. Work never comes home with me and I don't have a lot of obligations. I spend my off time eating psychedelics on the beach and surfing or flying kites, shark fishing on a big night. I struggle to see the downsides really.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

What job do you have?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Golf course maintenance. I mow pretty stripes for a living most days. On bad days I dig holes, get very, very soggy, and cuss a lot.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I am so happy for you. Nothing makes me more happy then seeing a fellow man living a fulfillimg life

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Did that for years, now happily retired ☺️

by Kadengibson 1 day ago

It's a great job, but I'll be happy to retire (if I get to retire lol)

by Anonymous 1 day ago

My PFP is a goofy pic of one of my cats :)

by kosslilla 1 day ago

YOUR CAT IS SO CUTE

by Anonymous 1 day ago

omg I love them they are an oreo!!!

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Honestly, you sound better off than many people I know. You do you.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I agree completely. If you're happy with where you are, that's the only thing that matters. That's the goal I strive for the most.

by Relevant-Couple 1 day ago

Do what you like. It's your life. If you're happy this way then why would you do anything else?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I'm so glad to read this. I'm 23, but I don't want kids and I don't want to get married. Which most people don't understand. This made me smile, I would love to be future you!

by Suspicious-Sport5035 1 day ago

Same here. And people just don't think I can be truly happy without a man.🙄

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Sadly enough, yes

by Suspicious-Sport5035 1 day ago

Most people who are unhappy with their accomplishments in life spend too much time comparing their lives to the lives of others.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

"Comparison is the thief of joy."

by Reasonable-Bath6038 1 day ago

Honestly, if you're doing whatever makes you the happiest (within your ability) then you're doing a whole hell of a lot with your life.

by Croninalberto 1 day ago

Sounds fine. Be happy.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

"It is not a bad thing to celebrate a simple life" ---- J.R.R. Tolkien I also live by this philosophy. 34 year old man, single. I do not have a single big ambition. Extremely rarely I have long term plans. I am not interested in starting a family, nor I am interested in "grinding" work life.

by turnerisadore 1 day ago

There's no such thing as "wasting your life" if you're doing what makes you happy. Always follow your heart and not what others think you should do. I've lived this way for a while now and, like you, I'm definitely above average in happiness. May you continue to thrive 😊

by jannie91 1 day ago

I absolutely believe there should be no pressure to meet life goals or leave a legacy or make your mark. Just living your life in a way that makes you happy and treat others as you would like to be treated is enough. Please believe that your life lived as you want is enough, you are enough.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Stay strong! A therapist once said to me 'what other people think of you is none of your business' it hit me hard and try every day to live by that. If someone judges us harshly that reflects on them not us. I hope you have things and activities and people that bring you joy because that's what makes a fulfilled life

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yes it's fine if it's how you want to live your life and not something you're doing because of something like anxiety, peer pressure, social stigma and whatnot.

by New_Chemistry3164 1 day ago

English author Wm. Sommerset Maughm said that your life is a success, if you enjoy it.

by Wonderful_Anybody 1 day ago

Often the less complicated and the less going on in people's heads leads to a happier life.

by Great-Welder-2025 1 day ago

I think that's fair but that people also have to admit to themselves what they truly want. Some people might live normal lives but want the luxuries and expensive things. The only thing I've seen is that people who have those nice things tend to work really hard. It would be a big disappointment to one's self if they want those things but also expect life balance at the same time which is kind of a delusion.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I wish I could live like this genuinely. Like I know I'm early in life to say that but I wish I wasn't so desperately in need of other people to function on at least a weekly basis. I'm happy for you but I'm also really jealous of you OP :)

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Born - train to be a wage slave - shop - die.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yeah if everyone had this mindset society would never have been this advanced

by Anonymous 1 day ago

As long as you're happy do you!

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This is the way!

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I feel the same. I try to be kind to people, learn as much as I can, appreciate the little things. For me it's the small things that matter in life. My nervous system feels regulated when I live a quiet life. I think more people could.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That sounds like a perfectly acceptable existence

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That's awesome. Nothing wrong with that at all.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yeah we've gone from a ‘should' to a ‘can' culture. I imagine we will see a restrained and simple turn next

by dwaters 1 day ago

I come from a single parent household with a lot of stress, yelling, shame, guilt, remorse and resentment. Having a happy household with my family is peak. If I was raised in such a household, I might be more excited to explore and visit 100 countries, but that's just not me. I hope my daughter wants different things than me. I hope her life is what she wants and not guided by societal pressure. I support your homebodiedness.

by Longjumping-Eye 1 day ago

That sounds good 👍

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You are living my dream to be honest.

by Proud_Incident2590 1 day ago

lovely this is the life I am going for 💓 I don't want kids and I have four cats. Turning 30 and in a relationship but as long as I feel fulfilled and productive I'm good

by Acceptable_Sand 1 day ago

There are Alexanders that get satisfaction from getting what they want and there are Diogenes who get satisfaction from wanting nothing.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

some people go thru their whole lives achieving things all to feel lonely in the end. if youre truly happy, you made it

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's totally okay. Much better than embarking on a toxic self-esteem quest.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

The only opinion that matters about your life is your own

by FirmOwl6650 1 day ago

If whatever you do or don't do makes you happy (without causing harm to others obviously...) then yeah it's ok.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Man, these are the type of women I am interested. Homebodies, frugal, happy with life. Difficult to meet outside.

by kuhlmanfurman 1 day ago

waiting for the crazy cat lady jokes..

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Eh she's happier with her cats than most ppl with partners

by Anonymous 1 day ago

so in other words you have no clue and just proved it.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

A lot?? Like wym.

by Lkovacek 1 day ago

You are where I want to be in the future. Right now I am still working on getting settled in a place that I really like and when I found that I'm going to adopt cats. I hope you stay happy and healthy and so do your cats :)

by Necessary-Piccolo123 1 day ago

I'd be happy with your life too.

by nicklaus63 1 day ago

Nothing wrong with a living life life.

by Rohanstephanie 1 day ago

Sounds good to me

by durganjarrett 1 day ago

Do you take any ssris?

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

Totally agree! Just do what you think you should do with your life.

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

I'm in a similar situation, and I like my life. There seems to be a lot of pressure to always be doing and going and planning on doing or going, which is fine if you're into it, but it's not the only way to be.

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

That actually sounds pretty nice, but I would get lonely.

by Anonymous 23 hours ago

exactly life is meant to be shared FOR me

by Anonymous 22 hours ago

Can I ask a genuine, completely non-judgmental question? Why is it always cats?? As a woman myself, it's all about the dogs in my opinion lol.

by Apprehensive_Box5558 22 hours ago

Personally I just can't get over the walking part of dogs. Regardless of weather, energy levels, or reluctance to carry another animals droppings it has to be done. It's just not for me. Otherwise wonderful creatures :)

by Worldly_Election 22 hours ago

I agree. I have a cat that I had for 12 years. She's scared of me. I think I pet her twice in those 12 years. I tried to bond with her but she runs away like I'm a stranger. My snake showed more affection.

by Anonymous 22 hours ago

Yes, let's just face it, dogs are much better friends

by Southern-Ad5792 21 hours ago

I like all animals. I've had: dogs, cats, bunnies, rats, mice, guinea pigs, frogs, fish, and hung out with horses and farm animals. Dogs are great friends, but so are cats equally, just different kinds of companionship. Shockingly, rats and bunnies are also wonderful companions. Guinea pigs are sweet and tenacious. Hamsters are the devil.

by BootWonderful564 21 hours ago

Usually people who say this are just a little less patient (or just had bad childhood experiences with cats). Cats can be wonderful friends too, but it doesn't come automatically. And if you adopt and older cat with anxiety or bad experiences, it's possible they won't really come around to be loving.

by Some-Attorney-7259 21 hours ago

I can tell who is at my door by they direction my dogs tail is going. It's more center left for ppl he doesn't know, and center right for ones he does. I can tell by how close together his front paws are if he's happy or nervous. So yeah, any animal takes a bit to understand.

by Southern-Ad5792 20 hours ago

So now you're arguing the other way? Not only are dogs not better friends than cats but they are equally hard to understand? Ok

by Some-Attorney-7259 20 hours ago

no, dogs are better friends for you specifically. for me personally, cats are much better friends. just like me, my cats are chill, graceful and quiet.

by Bartonbradtke 20 hours ago

I am just a bit older and went down a total different route - I do like having a partner kids weren't really my goal. Now I have two kids who I love. But it also goes against what makes me happy. Really struggle - because as you I actually enjoy an simple life with travelling and exploring. Now I sort of feel stuck especially because since I WFH and my wife at an office a lot of the kids routine falls on me. I still haven't gotten used to it after 6 years

by Large-Conflict 20 hours ago

This is almost me but married late in my 30s, not something I always dreamed to do but it just happened. Love being at home as an introverted gamer and love animals. I sometimes travel though.

by Tromplilliana 19 hours ago

How do you make money though?

by emiliakuhn 19 hours ago

work from home. Well, hybrid job. I go into the office 2x a week

by kosslilla 19 hours ago

And here i am, much younger, feeling like heaven and earth could crumble upon me anytime as if they already haven't. everyday feels like time looms closer and closer. it very slowly and dangerously makes me wanna die.

by jermaineveum 19 hours ago

I agree. It's a game we play, but you don't HAVE to play. But if you were born in the game, it's kind of hard to exit. I don't want to be rich, but I want enough to retire my parents. To be able to say "this one's on me guys" when I go out with friends. Heck, to GO OUT WITH friends. I want to have my own little abode. Heck, if I could I'd like power to influence, but that's pushing it I think. All of this cost money.

by Anonymous 18 hours ago

This is the dream. Minus the cats, I'm allergic.

by Anonymous 18 hours ago

If you don't mind me asking, what would make your rating a 10/10?

by Anonymous 18 hours ago

Ive had this talk with a coworker. I just told him "I may have done less in my life, but I have less unfulfilled dreams aswell"

by Keara50 18 hours ago

As someone nearing 40 I look back and reflect often but then I have a look at today, and sure some people could see it as boring with what my life has turned out to be, but Im happy. Could life of been better with different choice, decisions but then that also means I lose what I have experienced now. And I wouldnt trade that for anything.

by Anonymous 18 hours ago

I'm jealous

by Lindgrencasimer 18 hours ago

its all good this is on par with the times

by ConsiderationNew9421 17 hours ago

If I didn't travel, I'd definitely feel like I was wasting my life. It's so important to me.

by rhett20 17 hours ago

You are living your life unapologetically and have my respect. So many people feel pressured by family and society to follow a traditional timeline or standards. It's time we realize there is not set path for the time we're given on this planet. If you are happy and fulfilled that's what matters! Keep doing you

by Old-Grapefruit 17 hours ago

It's 💯 ok to have any kind of life you like!

by Anonymous 17 hours ago

You're living my dream. I'm 31 and currently married, with no kids, but considering divorce as I'm unhappy with my life. All I want is a nice quaint little house in a quiet place, a little garden, a couple of cats. I have no desire to do a whole lot with my life, I don't want to travel, I just want to be. I want to create a nice, comfortable, quiet life that I never need to escape from.

by roderickschuppe 17 hours ago

It's your life. Live it how you wanna .

by Anonymous 17 hours ago

I mean, you're just existing. Probably is a waste of your life. But then again, it's your life to waste.

by Safe_Comfortable 16 hours ago

The object of life is to have as few regrets as possible when the time comes. If you're living life the way you want to and not regretting it, more power to you.

by Anonymous 16 hours ago

I have come to regard travel as overrated. You can learn about other places and cultures through reading and films if interested. International travel is costly and has a high carbon footprint. If one is simply eating out and staying at resorts, I don't see the point really.

by Anonymous 16 hours ago

You've made peace with stillness while the world runs from it. That's not wasting life, that's mastering it. ❤️😊

by Familiar_Upstairs_91 16 hours ago

By choice 🤣

by BendOne 16 hours ago

I'm failing to see the funny part.

by kosslilla 16 hours ago

You're winning OP!

by Luzhayes 15 hours ago

Good for you, you've won at life - being yourself with little to no excuses and doing what makes you happy

by Mitchellclair 15 hours ago

But when you're 60 will you still feel that way? Will you have no regrets?

by Anonymous 15 hours ago

on the coping scale I rate this a 6

by wardmelany 15 hours ago

lol

by ConsiderationNew9421 14 hours ago

As long as you're happy and healthy, then all is well. If being in your place has you feeling mentally good aswell as happy, then dont worry about what others think. If what you do isnt majorly harmful to yourself or harmful to others, then keep doin it. Just make sure to have a little social time and dont breathe it cat liter. Those are the keys to evolving into the elusive crazy cat lady

by Wittingluna 14 hours ago

It's ok for you. Other people want more.

by Anonymous 14 hours ago

You lack ambition.

by Anonymous 14 hours ago

If you're so sure of yourself, why are you on the internet seeking affirmation?

by Anonymous 13 hours ago

I'm glad you're doing well but I'm just surprised that you stay at home 80% of the time and still be that happy

by Anonymous 13 hours ago

Is it? As long as you are not trying to convince yourself that it is.

by Anonymous 13 hours ago

Are you passionate about your career? Do you volunteer? Go out in nature a lot? I've personally never met someone who only lived for themselves that I would describe as seeming happy/fulfilled. I guess maybe a few cats could be enough for you but I don't think it would cut it for most people.

by Local-Watercress5794 13 hours ago

How do you know it's an 8/10 if you've never travelled and seen how others live? The relative understanding only comes from different experiences

by Worth-Royal 12 hours ago

"Seen how others live". While I don't think OP's life is for me, there is no greater sadness than in comparing yourself to others.

by One-Worldliness 12 hours ago

She doesn't live under a rock. Everyone can go outside or online and watch peoples lifes and decide for themselves whether they feel like that's what they want or not.

by adolphustowne 12 hours ago

Life gets REALLY lonely at 50 without a family, many friends have their families set up by then and loneliness is only cool if you can break it whenever you want Also, of course everybody is self sufficient when you are young and healthy and have energy to do everything, after age 50 your energy starts going down hard

by Anonymous 12 hours ago

This sounds anecdotal and might very well not apply to everyone (55m)

by Used_Occasion2518 12 hours ago

If you didn't have any friends in your 20s or 30s to begin with you won't feel any lonelier at 50 than at 20 or 30

by adolphustowne 11 hours ago

i don't want kids. family life is not worth it to me

by Anonymous 11 hours ago

I'm 59, never wanted to have kids, not lonely at all. I'm comfortable with my own company and have many friends, interests and wider family. My energy levels are absolutely fine, in fact better than ever since I have the time to do what I want and found exercise that I actually enjoy

by Anonymous 11 hours ago

It's only sad because you're judgemental. It's actually really liberating knowing you're only doing things your way because it makes you happy, rather than impress anyone else.

by Tromplilliana 10 hours ago

Why would doing something with your life only be about impressing others? I started a hobby farm because it's what I wanted to do. There's nobody here to impress with that. I travelled because I was interested in seeing other countries, not to show off about it. If I'm lucky I'll have 80-90 years of life. Maybe a few as 70. I'm not wasting that. But you do whatever you think is best.

by Monserrate02 10 hours ago

it's just a lazy empty life. but some folks don't want any more than that

by BerryNew 10 hours ago

How much time do you spend playing video games, Mr. or Ms. Sanctimonious?

by Classic_Hand 10 hours ago

There is no purpose to existence, it's whatever you want it to be. Some people don't want to waste their life comparing themselves to strangers in the world.

by Anonymous 9 hours ago