Smaller weddings suck, amirite?

When you pay thousands for a wedding you invite who you want, not who the guests want you to invite. Its the couple that's getting married special day, no one else's. And if they choose to have none of their parents there it's their choice to do so.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

No one is entitled to be present at someone's wedding, not even family. It is about THEIR love and THEIR desires, whether the reason is cost-related or not. However, I can see that I am biased because I only had 12 guests at my wedding. I wouldn't go back and change anything, because it was the intimate event of my dreams.

by Chester88 2 days ago

Not to mention - then people want to bring plus 1's - and suddenly, there are strangers present to witness an intimate moment.

by Chester88 2 days ago

All of your counter points are simply irrelevant. The fact is, it's their wedding meaning they get to decide who goes and who doesn't. How anyone else feels about it is, again, irrelevant. Congrats on an actual unpopular opinion though.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

They should be cut permanently, because they're sad about not getting to experience an important milestone with you? yup. they should know better. weddings are expensive.

by Kitchen-Slide7061 2 days ago

no. if they were anywhere near mature enough for their age, they would just shrug and move on, no hurt feelings in the first place. your friends need to grow up.

by Kitchen-Slide7061 2 days ago

Lol, why are you being so rude about this?

by Anonymous 2 days ago

because immature people piss me off.

by Kitchen-Slide7061 2 days ago

No one is entitled but you sure can feel hurt if a close friend or relative doesn't invite you. Are wedding just about the bride idk cause a lot of it is taking the guests.

by Specific_Increase810 2 days ago

Why are you so obsessed with going to someone's wedding. I love my friends but attending their weddings is such a drag. Trying to find an outfit that matches the theme, the cost of attending, etc. I go because I love them but I'd be thrilled if someone said hey I'm getting married but its just a celebratory dinner or something. Its their day not mine

by No_Emu6875 2 days ago

I feel the opposite, big weddings suck. You inevitably invite all your relatives and coworkers, even if you don't really want to see them.

by Right_Special 2 days ago

As a guest, I've only enjoyed the small, unfussy weddings at someone's home or in nature. The big, drawn-out big production weddings in fancy venues have been torture. Not fun at all and most times I ended up wishing I'd stayed home.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

my favorite wedding i've ever been to was 20 people at an airbnb on the river and it was one of the most fun weekends of my life

by Equal_Ad 1 day ago

So what? They are not getting married for your benefit.

by Right-Win 1 day ago

Weddings were meant to bring everyone together, historically you're kind of right. But everyone is getting more and more isolationist and lonely in the west so this is just another example of that. The real problem is wedding shouldn't cost so much, just like most things shouldn't. But that becomes an economic argument.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That's my point, weddings are about bringing people together! Historically of course you'd live in a village of 300 people and that was basically all your friends, your colleagues, your family, and everyone would be invited. The venue cost nothing because it was just some church and maybe a barn to eat, and everyone would help set it up. The girls would collect flowers, the men would set up tables, the women would cook. That's not today's world, weddings are expensive and social groups are more separated and geographically dispersed, but weddings should still be about bringing people together as much as you can arrange it. Within reason of course! I'm not saying invite every Facebook friend, but think very carefully about who you chose not to invite and when in doubt it's better to go a bit bigger than planned.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

My fiancee and I are getting married in March and it's a struggle to even come up with 25 people to invite between us (neither of us have siblings, small extended family, only a couple close friends). It'll be fantastic. Big weddings suck.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

1/3 of the cost doesn't scale but 2/3 does. You need to get better at math if you think that isn't significant. Maybe you have a point that prioritizing a fancier wedding over inviting more people somewhat defeats the purpose of a wedding. But, then again, having a shabby one just so you could invite more people would be also be "bad social behavior". Small weddings mean you prioritize those who matter most in your life. People meet all their coworkers every single day. Should they all be invited to the wedding?

by PureMarionberry1307 1 day ago

You don't have to pay any of that crap, besides wedding rings, if you go to the Justice of the Peace. Odds are, you already have clothes as well.

by Lonely-Leadership 1 day ago

wrong. smaller weddings are great. know why? if people get offended at not being invited, that gives you a free cause to cut them out of your life.

by Kitchen-Slide7061 1 day ago

Exactly. It reeks of entitlement.

by Chester88 1 day ago

I hate this take. I had a small wedding and it was a joy to know and love every single person there.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Anyone who would hand out invitations to people in front of others who aren't invited is a rude jerk. Nothing to do with the size of their wedding. These people would be rude jerks if they had a big wedding also. I will say as a guest, in my experience, smaller, less fancy weddings have always been way more enjoyable than the big fancy production ones.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

In my experience it's the smaller ones that are fancier and the bigger ones are more about being inclusive, and not caring so much about the "fanciness".

by Anonymous 1 day ago

That's not been my experience at all. The smaller ones I've attended have been humble affairs at someone's home or in nature. Often a potluck or buffet. Zero pretentiousness. Good people, good food and just a chill time. And the couples were definitely not motivated by Instagram or whatever. The big ones I've attended have been all about the show. Often with huge gaps of time between the ceremony and reception, too. Lots of boredom and waiting.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You could've just said that inviting a fraction of people in front of a larger group is rude. No need to ad hoc justify it with all the other stuff.

by Angelicakonopel 1 day ago

Even if the other person isn't present, they'll hear about it in the upcoming months, over and over again. I agree it's especially bad manners to do it in front of them. It's still bad manners to be exclusionary, if you see the person regularly in social settings. I'd say that makes you friends.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You're feeling hurt because you weren't invited to a wedding, and now you're blaming it on the idea of "small weddings." It's completely okay to feel that way, but it doesn't change the fact that the wedding is primarily about the couple. If you want a social event host a BBQ instead.

by Yabbott 1 day ago