Swear Words around your or other people's children is trashy and disgusting, amirite?

There's a difference between cussing and being vulgar. Using words expressively versus at someone are two different things.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I feel like OP wasn't advocating that a child should be sheltered though? Just that other adults should be minimally aware of their surroundings as a matter of basic social etiquette? I don't think the issue here is that a parent might have to have a conversation with their kid about something.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

And my job as a parent is to try and shield that stuff from them until they are at an age where you can have a deeper conversation about it and teach them. But IMO when a kid is still a small child, that is not the right age to have that conversation.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If they are young enough they have no idea it's a bad word. Your efforts are pointless.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

They pick up these tendencies you clearly don't have children. Swearing in public or commonly is trashy.

by Stock-Concentrate996 1 day ago

Seems trashier to judge someone on a choice of expression

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Of course I'll judge someone based on their choice of expression that's not unreasonable. It's absurd to suggest otherwise. If you rely on crude, Neanderthal-like language, you come across as a Neanderthal especially when you use that kind of language around children.

by Stock-Concentrate996 1 day ago

How so? I know plenty of people with Phds, successful professional careers or really any line of work that swear, are they neanderthals? Rather it seems considerably more simplistic to establish preconceived notions off a word. It is unreasonable, and not a great example for your children.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I'm an attorney and some of the most intelligent attorneys I know swear like sailors.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Even more reason not to shelter them. The world doesn't care what's trashy.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Your job as a parent is to raise an individual into this world so they can look after themselves & others around them. All you are doing is imposing your own specific morals whilst sheltering children from reality - all because you've personally taken objection to a handful of words. You are instilling mental trauma and damaging your own children all in the name of moral superiority. And that is what is disguisting here.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

How are curse words the same as graphic violence and sex

by Jovanybashirian 1 day ago

They did, it just wasn't as socially acceptable

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It was. Have you ever seen Stand By Me that came out in the 80s? Do you not realise that is how kids talk to each other when adults are not around?

by Low_Pirate_7211 1 day ago

fr

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Just not around small children :)

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Why?

by Gregory77 1 day ago

Who cares? Honestly.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

i agree except for the last sentence. it's just phrased in a kinda creepy way? also most of that "innocence" leaves at school.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Unless you homeschool, and don't plan on giving the small child a smartphone. Genuinely don't know how its creepy to say let kids remain ignorant of explicit language, or more mature things

by Anonymous 1 day ago

So your plan is to entirely shelter your child from the outside world? I don't have kids so you have much more experience with it than I do presumably, but that just seems like a recipe for disaster.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Not to entirely shelter them, but I don't want to have certain conversations before they are old enough to have them. A bigger issue is something like porn, I don't want them to know about it until we can have that conversation at an appropriate age, so I will entirely shelter my kid from it until I deem it appropriate to talk about it with them.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Imagine thinking preventing a 5 year old from finding out about porn is horrible parenting lmao

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I think someone needs to go touch grass if they thing sheltering their small child is cult-like lmao

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Yup Or people who dont have kids Or people who do have little tyrant kids who they let do whatever they want.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Does innocence fly out the door the second they say something society deems as "swearing"? What power at all does any swear word hold. Just seems like a wrong thing to focus on

by Anonymous 1 day ago

There's no power in swearing, it's just extra words for the vocabulary. OP sounds like a pearl clutcher.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

So your kids will not be allowed to use any negative sounding words at all? That is a losing battle and also not healthy.

by Top-Landscape 1 day ago

Tell me your age without telling me your age. None of the things you mention were more taboo 25 years ago than they are today. Every generation thinks the generation before them behaved way more conservatively than them and they think every generation after them behaves way more liberally. People have been swearing around kids since words were deemed inappropriate and the same goes for explicit music and movies.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I'm 29 my parents never swore when I was a child. My friends parents never swore. If I heard my dad cuss there was a good reason. Now my friends use cuss words like their a filler. It is trashy.

by Stock-Concentrate996 1 day ago

Same

by Anonymous 1 day ago

When I was a kid I didn't understand why other kids could watch PG-13 and R rated movies when I was in 3rd and 4th grade, but I wasn't allowed. It wasn't until I was older that I appreciated my parents sheltering my siblings and I from some stuff until we were older. (My parents did show us R rated movies like Tarantino movies, and whatnot when we were older in like high school). Now that I am a parent, I want to protect my kids from hearing or seeing things until I think they are ready for it.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Sheltering kids from the harshness of reality just results in overly sensitive adults. You are living proof of this and you don't even realize it.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Are those people who watched those films young any different from you now? Did it truly make a difference besides instilling a sensitivity in you.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Why did you appreciate it?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

as a former child who hasn't repressed all of my memories for shame, let me be the first to say: children are not innocent. and if they were, I don't see what swearing or not would have to do with it. They are just words.

by Haagsherwood 1 day ago

I 1000% agree with you. Same reason I, a person who LOVES metal shows, wouldn't bring my kid when he is 5 years old to one.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

curse words in no way shape or form destroy a kids innocence.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I feel like watching your language when around children is basic politeness, and also just more practical than not. Some people are uptight about their children hearing swear words, so it is easier to just not than deal with a parent getting upset.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

As someone who spent the last 10 years swearing whenever I wanted, I agree. I'm limiting myself and cutting back on it. There's really very little need for it in casual conversation.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You are conservative (meaning holding on to old foolish notions a flawed society taught you) and lame.

by LawfulnessMoney4660 1 day ago

Cursing is fine, slurs on the other hand are not.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's almost like its an unpopular opinion or something ;)

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I agree with OP – I don't in general see an issue with swearing in social settings, but if there are kids around, don't swear.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

100%

by Anonymous 1 day ago

What's so bad about "cursing"? Enlighten me, as I'm not from the US and what you call curse words aren't as bad here.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

What's so bad about racial slurs? Enlighten me, as I'm from the deep south and a member of the Klan, and what you call racial slurs aren't as bad here.

by Pauceklaurianne 1 day ago

Anyone who swears was brought up poorly? Holy sweeping generalization Batman.

by Anonymous 1 day ago