I don't think dinner hosts should be overly generous with food. amirite?

Why don't you just ask for less? Or say "thats enough" as she's heaping food on your plate?

by Rubie56 1 day ago

Serving a reasonable portion and then offering seconds is still kind and generous and it lets guests actually enjoy the meal without feeling pressured to finish something overwhelming. Agree.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I just don't plate up for people - put all the dishes in the middle and let them take what they want. We're all adults.

by alfordokuneva 1 day ago

You don't have to clean your plate.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

He does if he wants dessert!

by Anonymous 1 day ago

This seems to vary a lot by culture and by family. I had dinner with an Indian family where cleaning your plate was a signal that you wanted more of that course. The expected etiquette was to leave one bite remaining on the plate as a signal to move forward to the next course. I had no idea until I'd had about a kilo of fiery biryani and my buddy was like bro settle down. In my very Midwestern US family you cleaned your plate - but it was always fair game to take a small portion to start.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Where I live, it is polite to clean your plate. It's also polite to serve medium sized portions.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Sure, it's polite. But it's not polite to make yourself sick doing so. That's just absurd people pleasing.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Cleaning your plate isn't a requirement.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

"Why didn't you finish? Don't you like it? I can make somethign else..."

by ivahlehner 1 day ago

Well you're the family and a visitor. Whenever I visit my mom kept giving more food to me because it was rare. When I was living there was no such thing. If you wanted food you can get some yourself

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Just say you're full and take it home later

by Anonymous 1 day ago

It's the type of thing where you eat for 2 hours lol I know what you mean for sure

by Dagmarquitzon 1 day ago

Just don't finish? You won't offend someone if you just say "woah, that was delicious, I couldn't eat any more". And what's reasonable differs from person to person. I swear my daughter could survive on a rabbits diet. Whereas my son who is very sporty eats for 2 and isn't fat in the slightest. Getting it right is not obviuous as people eat different amounts. Obviously putting 2 burgers on a plate is too much but many fries are too many? How many isn't enough? It's much easier for someone to not finish than it is for someone to ask for more. It's 100% better to give someone too much than not enough.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You won't offend someone if you just say "woah, that was delicious, I couldn't eat any more". LOL somebody's never eaten at an Italian family's

by ivahlehner 1 day ago

Actual Italian? Yes. American "Italian?" No

by Anonymous 1 day ago

"Sorry I don't think I can eat that much" - Problem solved

by torrancecruicks 1 day ago

Tbh you didn't have to eat all your food. You felt like you had to because you didn't want to be rude, but that's on you lol. You could've said "damn aunty the food was delicious, but I am full, maybe I can pack my leftovers to go".

by No-Sherbet 1 day ago

I let people serve themselves.

by declan29 1 day ago

I wish this was a problem in my life, many of us can barely afford food right now. Just tell her you are full or ask if you can take the rest home to eat later?

by Johnathon90 1 day ago