The bill should be split on a date, amirite?

I think it should either be split or "you get this one, I'll get the next one." The former is better in the early stages of dating, as you don't know for definite if you'll see them again. The latter is better for long term relationships

by Background_Leader 2 days ago

Kinda screws over whichever gender is supposed to pay the first one and also disincentivizes a second date. It's built in carrot dangling.

by Corwinjanessa 2 days ago

I respect that, I just don't like, when there is an indirect pressure for one to pay, and I don't feel like there is in Denmark, but when I go on the internet and people say it is a red flag when men wan't to split the bill, it saddens me because the pressure should not be there in the first place

by Anonymous 2 days ago

want*

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Used to be unpopular but now is very standard practice as women are tired of being expected to 'put out' bc the guy paid for the meal. Men shouldn't have to pay for dates, women shouldn't be expected to give it up because 'he paid for it' ECT ECT. It's a pretty tired non argument from my experience, lots of people prefer to split nowadays to avoid the whole drama of what it used to be. Don't get me wrong, it still happens, it's just not as popular to EXPECT the man to pay. Most of the time it's the person who either invites to take someone out or the person who insists on paying.

by verlierunolfsdo 2 days ago

Agreed, I don't see it as much irl, more on the internet

by Anonymous 2 days ago

All the long term relationships I've ever been in, we either split the first date or they were adamant about contributing. I think it shows the other person that you are as interested in them as they are you, and neither are spending money just to be in the others presence.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Setting aside whether I'd tell anyone what to do with their own money, if a dude is paying for her then I can't imagine him having high self esteem. Every time I hear some dude try to force this cope, it's done version of accepting a bleak reality and not really thinking she wants him there or that others will.

by Corwinjanessa 2 days ago

I always insisted paying my half after I had one really bad date in college where the guy paid, then tried to make out with me in the car, I rejected him because it was an awful date, and he started ranting and raving about me not wanting to kiss him after he paid for dinner. Like him paying meant I now owed him my body and time. After that experience I always insisted on splitting the bill. My husband and I now just take turns paying for date nights. Or usually it's whoever organised the date night or picked the restaurant, pays. He likes and deserves to be treated too.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Sure, when he pays half for my beauty product and other women product that guys don't ever spend money on.

by jenkinsanibal 2 days ago

First date the man should always pay. Call me old fashioned but I just believe it's a great first impression if you are a guy trying to win over a girl. Any dates afterwards, it really depends.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Inconvenience my ass. Maybe on 7 person table its a pain. But spliting items for 2 ppl is non issue. Specialy considering , at least in europe, most servers use some kind of tablets anyways so they do not have to do math on their own. You just want a free food :)

by Putrid_Hair_9784 2 days ago

How does spilting cause an inconvenience?

by Glass-Dance 2 days ago