Prenups should never be necessary, amirite?

Do you think people buy car insurance planning to get in an accident? Health insurance planning to break their bones? A prenup is just that, insurance. You are marrying someone that you love in the moment, but you don't know how much they (or you) will change in 5, 10 even 20 years. Marriage itself is a legal contract, so it makes sense that a contract should have clauses set ahead of time to protect the signees.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

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by Lilliereichel 2 days ago

Yes actually I do buy those things because it is most likely I will get in a car accident or need medical treatment.

by Wiegandeleanore 2 days ago

Assets acquired before a marriage need to be protected. Love can fade.

by mohamedmurphy 2 days ago

Or be very one sided

by Federico22 2 days ago

They already are under the law

by Wiegandeleanore 2 days ago

Depends on the state.

by Equivalent-Link 2 days ago

Too many people learn otherwise the hard way.

by mohamedmurphy 2 days ago

They shouldn't be needed but they should be made. Not a very hard concept to grasp now is it.

by kuhlmanwilla 2 days ago

Prenups should be manditory.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

A prenup is just a kind of insurance. Doesn't mean you're planning to divorce, just that you're agreeing to fairly split assets in the result of one. The idea of fairly splitting assets in the event of a divorce without a prenup is best left to the courts for a reason. Divorces are ugly and bring out of the worst in people.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

there is a saying along the sorts of the person you marry is not the person you divorce. No one plans on getting divorced when they are getting married. Divorce is so ugly and people are so spiteful. I think its a wise idea to have a real plan.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

But that's like saying that people who get health insurance are somehow prepared to have cancer. I don't think anyone is ever prepared, but worst comes to worst, you want the situation taken care of because you can't foresee the future

by sterling25 2 days ago

you don't buy Geico insurance and then think "now its time to plan my car crash!!!"

by Anonymous 2 days ago

That's pretty ignorant. That someone ‘feels' that they would be able to have that conversation respectfully, doesn't mean that they actually will. Especially if the relationship went sideways in a way that they simply didn't anticipate. Someone would have to be delusional to genuinely believe that they can know with certainty how they will react to things years into the future in circumstances they do not know. Also, in situations where there is dispute, the law does get involved. But that doesn't mean that's going to help you in the way you want it to, for example in regards to premarital assets. Hence the point of a prenup.

by Odd-Reason-4421 2 days ago

They shouldn't be, but they be.

by dedrickkonopels 2 days ago

This isn't really unpopular, it just sounds like you don't really get what a prenup is for. It isn't like in the movies or maybe how the extreme rich may execute prenups. In reality it is to protect inherence for children, to protect each other from common issues that ruin marriages like finances. Very common in second marriages or marriages that happen later in life once you have a nest egg or retirement or real estate. Most of the time it is as simple as defining retirement planning and funds and stating that if the marriage ends you get what you brought and made together which is already the norm. It codifies the norm and is a good way to avoid a lengthy expensive battle.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

People change.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

At that rate, the marriage certificate is just as unnecessary, right?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Waiting for divorce to happen to discuss about how the assets are going to be shared is too late in my opinion. Why would you do it when you can just get a prenup with neptune and if you need it good if not even better it's to protect you after all

by Express_Lab 1 day ago

This isn't an unpopular opinion, it is woeful naivety of how relationships evolve

by johnsonjaime 1 day ago

Can you explain the debt part a bit more? How would you prepare for stuff like that way in advance with a prenup?

by Anonymous 1 day ago

OP doesn't live in a community property state

by Anonymous 1 day ago

50% of marriages end in divorce. Prenups protect people. Ours covered a piece of land owned by my husband's family. Worth little monetarily. Worth everything in their hearts because history. My sil had just gotten divorced and her husband took things he had no right to take. I suggested our prenup. 35 years ago. It isn't necessary now because our wills have it passing to one of our sons.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Nope.

by corwinclint 1 day ago

You are very naïve

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Seems like it. Unfortunately we don't live in the ideal world where we wouldn't need prenups

by Anonymous 1 day ago

future victim incoming.

by Smart_Ant_559 1 day ago

It's not preparing for a divorce, it's a contingency and insurance policy. It's like saying you shouldn't drive if you get car insurance because you're just preparing for an accident. You don't get car insurance because you think you'll have an accident someday, you get it because you know anything can happen and you might, despite your best intentions not too A frank conversation before marriage that lays everything out is infinitely more practical and less hurtful than months, potentially years, of legal battles and stress. The courts aren't perfect, and without a legal document (such as a prenup) to declare what assets are, and are not, marital assets, things can get messy quickly. And in the courts, messy = unfair. Someone, usually the person who is the rightful owner of the asset, gets shafted.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Dumbest thing I've read today. Congrats OP.

by Early-Mention-7038 1 day ago

I'll just get rid of my fire extinguisher then.

by Anonymous 1 day ago