I don't think the concept of "high school sweethearts" is healthy, amirite?

just me being bitter about not being in love as a teen It probably is.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

it definitely is

by Anonymous 2 days ago

This is just you being bitter and trying to justify lack of pleasant dating experience in teen years

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Sure but some people are genuinely not wired for commitment

by creminkaley 2 days ago

Then they won't have a high school, sweetheart lol

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Bro commitment is a choice not a setting and yes everyone can choose it

by Sweaty-Editor 2 days ago

Youre taking an exception and making it a rule. Bad argument.

by Trick-Heart5237 2 days ago

This will make you feel better: The divorce rate for high school sweethearts is higher than the average American couple, with approximately 54% of marriages ending in divorce within the first 10 years. This is significantly higher than the 32% divorce rate observed for the general population, according to Midlife Divorce Recovery.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Yeah but how do you know it's special and unique and just not all you know. Surely you haven't found your soulmate in your local high school

by creminkaley 2 days ago

I think the idea of soulmates is far more unhealthy than the idea of highschool sweethearts. Do you truly believe there's only one person out there for you? With how many people there are on the planet, its extremely unlikely that youd be compatible and happy with only one of them.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Yeah there's someone who's almost perfect for you out there for everyone but you won't meet them limiting yourself to someone from high school, sorry 🤷‍♀️

by creminkaley 2 days ago

Theres likely 1000 people, or more, out there who's almost perfect for you. Out of 8 billion people you think theres only one? Hell, theres probably one you went to highschool with, you just didnt know them at the time.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

It's unhealthy to throw away something wonderful because "there might be something better out there". This mindset is ultimately destructive.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

It's absolutely the mindset that results in a lot of people who end up regretting their divorce or ending a long term relationship. Typical "greed" for an undefined more.

by Level-Ad 2 days ago

Not saying you should throw away what you have but you shouldn't put on the expectation to stay together forever cause it's unhealthy to me, that's just to me, calm down

by creminkaley 2 days ago

That's what marriage is…

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Don't gotta get married to someone from 14 though

by creminkaley 2 days ago

Studies show that cause of course you'd get with people within your circle. And this is not me judging, it's an unpopular opinion, I admire people that can stick together. Just can't comprehend it

by creminkaley 2 days ago

I had a very happy home. I'm in my thirties and still close friends with old high school girlfriends too, for what that's worth. The idea of marrying a high school sweetheart is beyond insane to me. Yes, most people do develop and change dramatically from adolescence to adulthood, and yes, experiencing life is definitely worth prioritizing. You can grow old with someone after having experienced life. Research shows you're less likely to get a divorce that way.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

It's really not as bad as social media would have you believe. Never forget that social media rewards and emphasizes negativity

by BoysenberryWarm4230 2 days ago

Upset because you've been faced with a legitimate unpopular opinion

by creminkaley 2 days ago

I didn't "settle" for my husband, we were just a good match

by Botsfordalexys 2 days ago

It's not a diss and what I said doesn't apply to everyone, it's just how I feel

by creminkaley 2 days ago

It most certainly is a judge diss

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Idk, I married my high school sweetheart and we've been together now for 17 years. You never know when you'll meet your life partner.

by Artistic-Bat-3623 2 days ago

That's the thing. If your personalities drift apart it won't work. But if you grow together the strongest kind of love is formed.

by Remarkable_Fan_8855 2 days ago

Congrats, this is an unpopular opinion. I don't think it's an unhealthy concept. I also don't think it's some high ideal or standard everyone should be setting for themselves. For some people, it works. For some people it doesn't. Neither is wrong. Neither is morally superior. My parents have been together since they were ~15 and now they're ~70. It works for them. They have a pretty healthy relationship.

by Anonymous 2 days ago

My point exactly

by creminkaley 2 days ago

I mean if she took her 20s to find herself instead of marrying her HSS, the divorce probably would have been avoided 😅

by Anonymous 2 days ago

Very true, very true

by queenie75 1 day ago

I've been very happily married for 40 years to my high school sweetheart, as have a few of my friends. Five of my six siblings married in their early twenties and have decades long happy marriages. It happens.

by Bitter_Slice 1 day ago

Sounds like you got hoe friends.

by Trick-Heart5237 1 day ago

Yeah the one who married the only person she ever slept with up until HE cheated on her and she divorced him is such a hoe

by Anonymous 1 day ago

At least I have friends lol back to the basement

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I really don't see what's the issue is, if it's actually genuine. Why would it matter if someone is happy with their HS partner? It's actually impressive that the relationship survived the turbulence of puberty. My dating life is nonexistent, so I can't speak from my experience, but this is how I see it.

by hanseneulah 1 day ago

It's not an issue, it's my opinion. Everyone here feels so offended but my point wasn't to offend anybody

by creminkaley 1 day ago

Yeah you are really young and you just now developing feelings for a relationship so i see why they maybe weird or probably don't last long. I think people especially when they get older kinda miss that teenage love, maybe they miss the buttflies when they saw their crush or whoever. Whereas they can't stand their husband or wife lol

by markus71 1 day ago

Sometimes it just works out that way.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Different things work for different people.

by General-House5839 1 day ago

I think it depends. I know a few couples who married their high school sweetheart that are still married several years/decades later. I also know couples who married their HS sweetheart that divorced QUICKLY. I think about who I was in HS and the people I dated, and there is no way those relationships would have lasted. If you find your person early, and you are able to grow with them and mature with them into adulthood, great! I just wasn't one of those people. I always wonder how people just manage to find their person so early when they haven't lived life. But for successful relationships from HS sweethearts, living life IS being with that person.

by Miketorphy 1 day ago

Make sure your future partners know your mindset so they can mentally invest less in you and avoid heartbreak

by Anonymous 1 day ago

You are missing the concept of growing together. If you are with a person that encourages you to be the best version of yourself, and you push each other to grow and learn, I don't see any reason why that person can't be your life mate. And frankly may end up being the best life mate because you did it together. The notion that you may meet someone "better" or "more interesting" later to me fundamentally misunderstands what a life partner is. They aren't a lotto where you are trying to win the biggest jackpot. They are the person who makes you the best version of yourself and you for them.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I wish more people spent time focusing on their own healing instead of using their hurt or whatever deficiencies to cast weird wide aspersions on how other people should live their lives

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Blah blah blah jealous blah blah blah extremely bitter blah blah blah incel.

by Sorry_Builder6286 1 day ago

Guilty

by creminkaley 1 day ago

I mean it depends if you view people as an "experience" or as a dependable partner to share your life with. Ofc if you're prioritising personal pleasure and getting to "experience" lots of different people, go nuts. But for a lot of people there isn't much need to go have taster samples of people, especially if their goal is to find someone to marry and spend their life with.

by Level-Ad 1 day ago

I don't have any issue with actual highschool sweethearts, BUT I find that the vocal supporters of them always tie into very strange (controlling) ideologies. The most common one being that your partner hasn't been sullied, and not just in a sexual sense but also as in they've never had another relationship so you can treat them as you want and they won't know it can be better. 99% of the people online who proponent these points never had any relationship let alone a highschool one, so I think they assume that in another society they would have come out better

by Anonymous 1 day ago

If you're not single at some point in your 20s, you are seriously missing out on life experiences, and imo, underdeveloped and ill prepared for the rest of your life.

by Fabulous-Rutabaga 1 day ago

Isn't it rare to end up long term with a HS relationship

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I had one. 30+ years later, we're not married, didn't stay together, but are best friends

by Known_Mall_4319 1 day ago

I think all relationships depended on whether the two people grow in the same direction or in directions the other can live with. When you can't is when relationships end. This can happen at any age but is obviously is more likely at times in our lives in which we are changing a lot. My daughter started dating her first serious boyfriend at 15. He moved away a couple of years later and they were apart for about 2 years. They've been back together for about 8 years now and are married and have children. They've grown in harmonious directions. I've known them as a couple now for almost half their lives and it is still weird to me to think of how long they've known each other and when they started dating. They each dated a little when apart and each had one long term relationship between (about a year for each of them.) I don't think they needed to date around. Not everyone does.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

Most of the time , high school "relationships" are just playing out adult toxic drama as children while engaging in life altering activities thinking you're grown enough to handle and understand them Dating in high school is probably not the best idea if you want to enter adulthood with less trauma and drama.

by Anonymous 1 day ago

I actually agree... Obviously, it works for some people, but I think it can also hinder people's personal growth & end up being a reason people stay in otherwise unhealthy relationships. "But we were high school sweethearts ...." But you fight all the time & neither one of you has any other relationship experience, so you don't know anything else.

by Anonymous 1 day ago